Issues --- mental maybe? -- Might die soon
By adamlevene •
So , before my wife and the baby came , i was perfectly fine , doing normal errands and all , and now my wife has been here with the 2 month old son , for the past 2 weeks almost , and everytime i hear him cry or think about myself having a kid , i get dizzy ,a nd start to panic , and when im at work , all this dizineesss disappears or if i go out on my own im fine. .Ive been away from my wife for the past 6 months now. So im not sure , do i have a disease or something this dizziness ?
I did an EKG , cholestrol , blood sugar , MRI , X ray , all kind of tests , including CBC blood , etc ..all normal
So whats this diziness from?
Tension free no family with you !
TROLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Go get a life....
You sound incredibly depressed. Signs of depression include anxiety attacks like the one's you've been describing, lack of interest, anger, feelings of lonliness and isolation, etc. You need to seek psychiatric help as soon as possible, especially if you are considering suicide. Please call the doctor that formatted soul recommended right away. You will be amazed how quickly things will get better
You need an MRI urgently
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testing Qlers patience - nice game my friend :)
For God's sake, baby is the blessing of Allah Almighty... Accept it... Allah Almighty only blessed with His gift to fortuned couples... Try to spend quality time with ur baby, he/she will become ur whole world Insha'Allah.... and always remember,the lady who you are calling ur WIFE is actually the MOTHER of YOUR baby, YOUR generation.
Selfish, ignorant, stupid, irresponsible, childish... are just a few words coming to my mind to describe the OP. Grow up!!! You did it and now own up to it! Seek professional help (or not, I could not care less) and start being a man! How dare you bring a life into this World and turn into a CRYBABY as if we should feel sorry for you? I feel sorry for your wife having married such a sad loser who will not seek professional help despite having been advised to do so. Fathers like you make my blood boil!!!!!
What you need is a fcuking good hard kick on your balls, i.e. if you even have any :-(
it could be WIND!
Yes I am suffering for the past 2 weeks at the moment , and im trying to cope with it , but i am still in denial , one day im fine , and one day im not , it keeps changing , and i need to find a solution to end all of this .
I hope I'm wrong but you sound like you're mocking this situation which makes me think this is done as a joke. I don't find it a laughing matter because men do suffer too after having little ones.
I dont know it happened rizks
If u were not in a state of having a child at the moment why didnt u used protections ? :(
don't fret..time will come - i hope - that you'll get over that kind of feeling..but please don't forget that your wife needs alot of care, love and support too..don;t just focus on what you feel because your partner needs you alot during these time..
imagine then how your wife must feel. At least you can take a break from them, can she on the other hand take a break seeing how you feel about the baby as of now? You are obviously highly stressed. This is very very normal but shouldn't be left untreated..and no you are not crazy. Not yet! And if you don't want to either go crazy or lose your wife and child(being a woman I can assure you, she will not be able to put up with your attitude and having to take care of the baby alone for too long!)then seek help now.
There are many blessings in having a child as there are trials but such is life. So put your big boy pants on and be strong. Remember your child will be,even in subconsciousness,noting your behavior, so be the dad he will be proud of!
All the best.
Post-natal depression (PND) is a recognised condition among women, and doctors and midwives are trained to look for signs and symptoms, and offer help and advice.
But there is evidence to suggest as many as one in 25 men suffer similar depression following the birth of their child. The stress of coping with a new baby becomes unbearable and the temporary lack of sex can drive them over the edge.
The attention heaped on to their partner and baby can leave men feeling lonely and left out.
“This can last just the first few weeks as dad learns to cope with the new way of life,” says Alan Jenkins, a male midwife with years of experience helping men with PND.
“But for some men it can be the start of a prolonged depression.”
read more: http://www.mirror.co.uk/life-style/real-life/2009/05/06/could-your-man-have-sad-dad-syndrome-115875-21337745/
Wait i dont have panic attack , panic attack , u cant breathe , and u start losing it ,,,,that doesnt happen to me , all i feel is heaviness on chest muscle and its like tense , and diziness which is normal caz i keep stressing!
You have an anxiety disorder which is treatable with medication. And if you are considering suicide you certainly DO need to see a psychiatrist!
Mandi
seems like a Panic Attack.. it might take few days to calm down. If it is a panic attack, do not discuss about it much, do not search about the reason and dont even think about it too much. if u discuss about it, you may get relief for few minutes, but slowly it will shoot up. If you find difficult to adjust with it.. let me know.. i have the solution.
Stubborn, Irresponsible, insensible and self centered.. ONLY GOD CAN HELP YOU AND BLESS WITH MANLY WISDOM. !
adamlevene once u where also a kid u also must have bothered ur parents , here is ur answer they also cld have dumped u in the dustbin cryin i dont want to take responsibility
I guess i need to take responsiblity , but i dont like responsibility , i can handle my own things , and my own errands , and my wifes , but not another person in my life it gets soo stressful and i become dizzy $#%#$
not sure , until the baby is old enough to do his own thing . not sure how long that is ..
Having a child can be overwhelming but you need to grow a pair and be the father that child needs. He/she did not ask to be brought into this world, so you should remember you're the "responsible" adult who made this baby and start taking your responsibilities more seriously.
Go through all the comments above and you will find more words than a pshychiatrist words speak out for you.
Read the comments and think about it and then act.
IF you are not normal then you've gone AB-Normal Just Becuase of a Child! ! ! who is non other than part of your blood ! !
BE REalistic and be SElfless your statements explain your personality as your the SElf styled and selfish person who looks for himself and use others for himself.
C'mon ; Be a MAN and Be a FATHER and Become and Good HUSBAND than Suicidal !
You yourself can answer your question
I wont , but Ill be able to be normal again , by ignoring them.
Thast not a permanent solution...you are in denial then how will you recover from this?
Yeah , I guess what can i do at the moment except try to pretend i do not have a baby or wife , just come home , and then order food , and then eat and then go to sleep , and then i can be normal again , prtend they dont exsist , because once i know they exsist , i get dizzy and tightness in chest
danieldepp yes I am crazy, you want to pay my doctors bill??
Understand this is the product of your love only.
and since you have been gifted By god and blessed with a child, you just peep in you PAst and go to flash back when your father and mother had brought YOU in this world and bought you upto this stage that you are able to live independently, dont forget dear this is the life Cycle if you were the responsiblity of your parents, then how come you run away from your kids responsibility?
What you are talking make everbody feel that you have psychiatric problem(Your are not crazy) but Selfish ! !
Your did all for you lust and want the same as you dont want the child but you want a woman ! ! get yourself Counselled ! ! !
Understand this is the product of your love only.
and since you have been gifted By god and blessed with a child, you just peep in you PAst and go to flash back when your father and mother had brought you in this world and bought you upto this stage that you are able to live independently, dont forget dear this is the life Cycle if you were the responsiblity of your parents, then how come you run away from your kids responsibility?
What you are talking make everbody feel that you have psychiatric problem(Your are not crazy) but Selfish ! !
Your did all for you lust and want the same as you dont want the child but you want a woman ! ! get yourself Counselled ! ! !
It looks like Formatted Soul AKA Gypsy Gal is prominent Patient of Dr. Aju Abraham, MBBS, MRCOsych, Consultant Psychiatrist
Why not consult with a Good Psychiatrist.....
I think you are suffering from Paternal Post Partum Depression (although not that common for males) my friend. Not all people who see a Shrink are crazy. If you cannot control having these feelings, you need to seek professional help before it gets any worse.
I dont know , im going to just read what you people say and do whats the best thing from yoru advices.
Being a parent is hard. Sounds like you need a break. ...Is there someone you can call to watch him/her while you take with your wife take a breather?......dont lose your cool your frustrated it happens especially if he/she is your first baby...but you know when shes/he calms and smiling and being sweet. ..You love your baby more than anything in the world. (:
Either you are sick or you are mere self centered ..
onlyyour comfort and your happiness is important to you.. Your wife is suffering more than you in taking care of the baby. You forgot the fact that she also had a life before the baby was born!!
if that makes you happy why not.....go be it....just be yourself...
Well lets see i am a man , but I am neglected no one pays attention to me , im under starved , im not eating , im not sleeping , the baby and my wife are together and im not going to be the provider here if i get no attention , screw this , maybe just leave the country and go elsewhere,.
You had 9 months to decide if you want the baby or not!!
If you're wife is calling you when the kid is sick, it's because she expects you to be the man she thinks you are and look out for them.
Quit whining like a god damn panzy and grow some balls!
you shudda thought about that when you were draining your nutsack into her... :-(
Dear IF you are married then you have married upon taking the responsiblity of you wife and to be children.
I think there is something in your thoughts and way of thinking, I suggest you must see a psychiatrist to have good advice than asking people around you.
Get Some expert advice and medicine and you will be allright enjoyoing your life with your wife and child.
If you are muslim then Read Quran, If you Christ go through the Bible and get divine help to get rid of such thoughts-Children are God's Gift only fortunate couples are blessed with.
Just relax and think or all the good memories of your wife....for now do not think of the baby...or maybe you are thinking that you wife attention is to your baby...You wife love is totally different to you...
For now enjoy work...dont try to call your wife just be yourself now until you have a gots to see your baby
Cheers
no one said you're crazy, but you're talking aout doing crazy stuff... just go and talk to a shrink.. not all people who talk to shrinks are crazy, some just need the counselling is all.
Who told you a Psychiatrist is only for crazy people? They can also help you overcome your problem which is purely pschological.
I do , love them , well i think i do , i just dont want any responsiblity , i dont want here calling oh the kid is sick lets go to the doctor , or the kid needs this or that , i just want nothing bout the kid , or anything , just i dont want the kid now. Hes causing too much pressure.
Could be some sensitive hearing a problem or a symptom.
Noise anxiety is a condition which is characterized by an extreme sensitivity to noise. Someone with noise anxiety suffers a variety of stress and anxiety related emotions when he or she is exposed to certain types of noises; these emotions can range from a general sense of uneasiness to aggression.
People suffering from depression or anxiety are more likely to develop a general noise anxiety.
send your wife and kid back coz in reality u dont love them
you're not going to ruin just your life over suicide, you're going to ruin two more lives.
QUIT being a selfish pussy and go seek professional help... if it's worrying you so much, send them back home.
I do not neesd a psychtrist im not crazy :(
See a psychiatrist..
Dr Aju Abraham
Telephone: +974 4365051 .
I do love my wife , but I cant be around her and the baby together , maybe just her , the baby just keeps cryin and is getting on my nerves :( I need to seek the easy way out of this , suicide might be the best solution , i dont care anymore , i used to be a normal person and now the past 2 weeks , ive been messed up
we read you the first time :-P
You just have to adjust..You'll get used to it. GO!
See a psychatrist..
Dr Aju Abraham
Telephone: +974 4365051 .
CAN I ASK YOU A SILLY QUESTION?
DO YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE? OR YOU THINGKING OR DREAMING SOMEONE ELSE...MAYBE THAT ALSO THE REASON...
FEEL FREE TO CHAT WITH ME IM OPEN MINDED AND I NEED TO DO SOME ADVICE TO CO'Z SOMETIMES I NEED TO..
CHEERS AND ENJOY UR DAY
CAN I ASK YOU A SILLY QUESTION?
DO YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE? OR YOU THINGKING OR DREAMING SOMEONE ELSE...MAYBE THAT ALSO THE REASON...
FEEL FREE TO CHAT WITH ME IM OPEN MINDED AND I NEED TO DO SOME ADVICE TO CO'Z SOMETIMES I NEED TO..
CHEERS AND ENJOY UR DAY
CAN I ASK YOU A SILLY QUESTION?
DO YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE? OR YOU THINGKING OR DREAMING SOMEONE ELSE...MAYBE THAT ALSO THE REASON...
FEEL FREE TO CHAT WITH ME IM OPEN MINDED AND I NEED TO DO SOME ADVICE TO CO'Z SOMETIMES I NEED TO..
CHEERS AND ENJOY UR DAY
you need to seek professional help my friend. It could be that you don't want to accept the additional responsibility, you still want to enjoy your freedom. Having a kid can be tough, especially when you have sleepless nights and then the crying and the worrying, but isn't there joy when you see that li'l baby smile when he/ she looks at you?
Seek help NOW, before you hurt yourself or your family.
so how long does this last for ? When will it go away this diziness , im not sure how to get rid of it , i know one way , is going to work and doing errands on my own outside the house , but then when i speak to my wife and i hear the baby cry , i start getting diziness and my chest starts tightning !!!
I had a 2 week vacation , and id wake up and feel nausea and diziness thinkining about all this stuff , and then whend i leave the house , id go back to normal!
IT'S A MATTER OF ACCEPTANCE...YAH RIGHT YOU ARE NOT READY YET FOR A FAMILY LIFE....JUST KEEP DISTANCE UNTIL YOU WILL OVERCOME.
GO OUT WITH FRIENDS AND TALK SOME BODY ALWAYS DONT BE ALONE ALWAYS GO SPORTS BE VERY BUSY AND DONT FORGET TO COMMUNICATE YOU WIFE UNTIL YOU DO SO.
CHEERS :-))
IT'S A MATTER OF ACCEPTANCE...YAH RIGHT YOU ARE NOT READY YET FOR A FAMILY LIFE....JUST KEEP DISTANCE UNTIL YOU WILL OVERCOME.
GO OUT WITH FRIENDS AND TALK SOME BODY ALWAYS DONT BE ALONE ALWAYS GO SPORTS BE VERY BUSY AND DONT FORGET TO COMMUNICATE YOU WIFE UNTIL YOU DO SO.
CHEERS :-))
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Yeah maybe stress , but what is this Diziness , what causes this random diziness when thinkin bout the family or the baby !?!?
I am not used to having a family , i was fine alone , not a single issue , i was going out , going to work , finish errands , how can i accept it , when i go home they are there , and i cant escape , and the only way to escape is death i see is my only choice at the moment.
Hi looks like, you are overstressed with work and family responsibilities. Take few days off from work and relax with your family. It will be alright and try to be happy and active always.
adjustment issues, thats all.
No weather coniditions , i was here in Qatar for the past 6 months , she was away , lack of sleep yeah , im not sleeping well , but ive been sleeping nowdays for 8 hours which is enough , but still i feel this random diziness when i hear about my baby or if there is any problems related to the baby or anything ,...
6 months i had no issues , i was fine no problems ,
now i just feel like ending my life , so none of this happens
this is what i can say,, maybe youre not ready to have a family specially to have a kids. you just want to enjoy your life alone, nothing will stop you, life free horse in the wild.there's no cure for that, Maybe you need to accept and admit that your life has extension already(your family) and you need to enjoy them. u cannot enjoy them till u accept the fact.
It might be the weather conditions which is changing or might be due to lack of sleep which you are getting now.