do i need??

If britexpats advice does not work.. There are plenty of things one can buy on the net that keep zingle_and_fwee girls like you busy. My lesbian friends gets her kinky stuff from Anne summers!

Don't let things upset you.

After reading the advice given, go and take steps that you think best..

Good Luck!

this is not a site to solve your personal problems. Go talk to your parents/ his parents and try to find an amicable solution.

You still need to grow up.

thanks for the person whos insulting me... i thought this is the best site ive seen that i can share my simple problems... but it resulted that you make it as a joke,, well this human behavior shows who really are you,, well hopefully you are happy for the insult you did to me..

maybe your life is too perfect that doesnt care for other people just yourself and your little mind...

ok i've made my thread please track me and give advice thank you please ok bye

spot on Milky_BarKid... hmmm I did remember WK saying he is single at the moment.. :P

Tinker first these lilies want to get you and then they don't wanna let go? WTF

Serious advice if yer not happy with offering him a free shag in return for him to say I love to you then just move on to someone who will say. I have Wk in mind for that!

LOL tinks.... :P

LOL I remembered that one all too well... one of the culprits of that thread is here commenting...

tinks, how hard is it to understand simple English? I bet it's not so hard.. oh well... more material for a new QL movie.. :P

nice i can see a lot of Ql'er really into this whole advice giving role playing. I'm going to go start a thread myself.

Dont know why this reminds me of something similar last year around 01st April.... someone posing to get married...can't remember the actors though...:(

for crying out loud, just answer the friggin' phone and talk! ask him what he wants and get it over with! you still don't know what to do?

if ever i will follow your advise britexpat.. how i can clean the mess that i start,, he is calling me now,, eventhough i wanna answer his call i dont know what i will say,,

He just needs to be understood. Talk to him.. Cook him a meal, cuddle him, watch his favourite show with him...

Then see what develops ..

zingle and fwee he will tell you what is on his mind if there is something on his mind.

Right now there is nothing on his mind and he is happy to enjoy the relationship the way it is.

If you are happy with it, continue. If hearing I love you is more important to you than a good relationship then don't continue.

then.. what i need to do... i cant understand what on his mind...

So you had a good relationship going with the only problem being he hasn't said I love you yet.

After that you seriously took the advice of QLers and now you are not talking to each other?

Listen girl if you take advice from people here then you will remain single for life.

Give him a call and meet up.

please knock some sense into your head before it's too late... you don't need to be a rocket scientist to figure out what's happening here...

tHeRe iS 0nLy 1 reAs0n wHy sHe sTilL wIv hIm. M0nEy?

way to go brit..thinking out of the box!

How cruel women can be :O(

"for a whole day yesterday i didnt contact him,, and he didnt care to call me too... "

I hope he's OK and hasn't harmed himself :O(

So why do you go on and STAY with him? you really BONKERS, you know that?

Well...it's your party...enjoy :)

kAbayAn. duMp hIm & m0ve 0n!

better QL start a love advisory section

oH we are actually giving her advice?

Zingle all the way, dont get your self caught up in Sheetful relationships, the world is full of single horny men that you can catch. Dont bother with this EyesHole...life is too short to waste it on complications, go out and live your life! Pass me the weed!

actually (1) hes not married.. im 100 percent sure of it... i know hes family.. (2) hes not engaged neither gf im 101% sure on it (3) i think i agree on that idea that im not the type of a girl he see with him on his future (4) as i said i know his family, his mother and i is talking everyday,, she treats me also as her own child...

just an update:

for a whole day yesterday i didnt contact him,, and he didnt care to call me too... :(

actually (1) hes not married.. im 100 percent sure of it... i know hes family.. (2) hes not engaged neither gf im 101% sure on it (3) i think i agree on that idea that im not the type of a girl he see with him on his future (4) as i said i know his family, his mother and i is talking everyday,, she treats me also as her own child...

just an update:

for a whole day yesterday i didnt contact him,, and he didnt care to call me too... :(

Smoke says Know your role...and SHAAADAAAP!

ah another of those love struck bimbos :(

britexpat is that what they call no strings attached?

He loves her so much , that he doesn't want to set boundries and wants her to enjoy her carefree existence.

What a man :o)

He's "your" someone special but to him, you're just "a convenience", an OPTION readily available when he needs YOU.

IT'S ONE FCUKING TRUTH that has been AT YOUR FACE the whole time but you kept holding on because you're hoping for SOMETHING that will never EVER happen.

Of course, he's been there to help you in your "emotional", "financial" and "spiritual" turmoil...BECAUSE he cares for you (no doubt about that)which is a good thing. BUT NOT ENOUGH TO LOVE YOU...phuuuleeeeez...spare me the sob story.

It's either he's (1) married ("wife and kids" back home); he's engaged or already has a girlfriend; (3) you're not the kind of girl he wants to marry (4)His mom doesn't approve the likes of you.

Yup...time flies when you're having fun. Sad thing is, now that you spilt your heart and gut to him...watch him slowly disappear from your life like a mirage.

SORRY girl...you have to wake up to reality. But if you still think YOUR LOVE would change him and his mind to put a ring on your finger...well stock up (a lot of) patience...coz you'll definitely need it.

Good Luck!

obviously, he's good at making excuses... this could go on and on and on.. the solution to your dilemma is staring you right in the eye and you don't even know it.. or maybe you do and just didn't want to recognize it..

Seems so...:)

ROFL. I wonder if it is genetic......

sometimes man are hard to understand..despite u have given them everything still it's not enough.

gotta out of here... :/

there's no point!

you know i do understand his side,, because no one knows what will happen for tomorrow,, if we invest lot of emotional to each other maybe one day we woke up not in each others arms,, the problem is he is not strong enough to get hurt,, but me i doesnt care what will happen to me after...

How beave and forthright of him to be so honest. I know how hurt I was when my Cuban left me. It is something we men dread and fear ... The pais almost too much to bear :o(

why??

please tell me if he is a filipino or not.

actually this is what he exactly told me...

"i hvae a strong feeling for you,, but i dont wanna get hurt that much thats why as much as possible i want some distance,, im happy with you.. you are almost perfect,, as a partner,, but ive get hurt before, i dont wanna get hurt again and again,,

why do you cry ?? Keep one thing in mind .. Tears Are The Jewels Of The Weak Ones .. And why you cry for those who dont care that you cry ???

too bad..

well .. Give him chance .. And explain clearly .. What you feel about him ... And ask him that he feels about you ... Some times ppl dont understand what they are doing .. They just want to continue it .. Still after that dont let him go .. Give him some time to realize .. If still the same then you dont have any option ...

ooh maan !! One more ...

Too many women also just want to enjoy themselves...:)

Too many men just want to enjoy themselves .... :o(

Love is a French invention in order to justify Lust. Vive La Différence !!!

don't torture yourself....

Lady-as u said they were no commitment b/n u both, u had nice time of almost one year and now after a yr that feeling.....of love is on.why not before??? I am sure you had good u wanted then why expect the same from him....think.

In my opinion if he had some soft corner for you he will come back to you, else just move ahead, life doesn't end her....!

Always remember dont mix pleasue with love.

are you both filipinos?

Quit being friends with him, as it is killing your emotional well being. You cannot make him love you. You need to get him out of your life for awhile and get your feelings under control. You will NEVER get over him if you remain friends with him. All you are doing is prolonging the pain and anguish for yourself, stunting your growth and future.

At that, have you told him how you feel? If he shows no romantic interest in you I think you need to back off. Quit hurting yourself.

He may not understand, but you will be miserable, hoping for something he doesn't give you.

If you feel this way about him you can't honestly be friends with him. You'll always want something more, you'll always have alterior motives and when he meets another girl it's going to tear you up inside. Back off for a while and try to get over him.

Be wise zingle sweety..life is so precious we are always with u

a man who is afraid of commitment ... ur wasting your time with him

that kind of man only wants to enjoy himself, ur not getting anywhere with him

dump him and move on!! khalas!!

It's called f c u k buddies. And apparently you agreed to that.

hummmm, well if you feel you are just waisting your time then you should let it go ....

Maybe he is just enjoying your campany and your friendship the problem is u are falling in love with him.. I don't think that letting go of him is the answer..continue the good friendship with him anyways you are both enjoying the good times together! Be happy..

Forget the book, enjoy life. That is it. Do what makes you happy and if something stops making you happy then stop doing it. That is all.

You don't need any book unless you want to fill your head with stupid thoughts.

actually it's a movie now..you can watch it online or if you want you can buy it..it's worth watching and you will understand more the "mindset" of guys and by reading/watching that you will know the antics of guys, the silly crap they have..good luck..

where i can find the book "hes not into you"

maybe it will help to divert my time and atenttion

and eventually i can start my life all over again

sometimes guys doesn't want girls to be clingy and needy.

a year of our relationship is not a usual one.. actually just for past few months ive had my hardship in life as i say earlier,, and only him stays and support me in all matter,, thats why ive been used to talk to him everyday,, but before im not attached at him,,,just for past few days i realise i am damn inlove!! which i know is wrong... but how i can stop my feeling to someone who is there to me always

just move on gurl.but if you can't then you know the consequence that you'll suffer for clinging on that kind of relationship.but if you think that's it's worth holding on then be a martyr.but girl, martyrdoom is not good too.

if you want to ask, what i'm doing to handle the relationship: i'm "playing the game"..if he will not text then i will not text..if he don;t call then i will not too.

you ought to know that girls should and must not depend their happiness to guys because no one is worth your tears so chill gurl and have fun here in doha.life is beautiful if you look on the brighter side of it.

So you have a good thing going what is the problem?

Don't be needy & clingy, just enjoy what you have. If you are not enjoying then move on.

sometimes guys are bunch of ____.i also read the book "he's not into you" and i've learned alot from there.now i will suggest that too to you zingle_and_fwee..

i do agree at you,,

really?so now the religion is not the issue here..now that you're a muslim too like him..then you must see the picture that he just want a dating relationship..apart from the religion, the race/nationality of the person will a factor too for him not to marry you..in some parts of the world, they don't want to marry someone who are not in the same religion/nationality like them for the fear of being outcasted by their respective families back home..i'm hats off to those brave ones who do everything in the name of love..

lol... so shagging all for a year was OK, but now in last few days she suddenly feels she loves him and tells him and he says no, he suddenly gets branded as someone using her for a free shag...amazing... guess, men should be ever ready to say yes I love you as soon as the girl says that... if not they run the risk of being branded, their feelings don't matter...right...

ive been reverted last january of this year,, actually ive been planning on it ever since,, even i didnt meet him yet,, but just last jan i had a guts to d oit,,

During unguarded moments, My Cuban Shotputter used to also say "oh myyyyy... its hard,, too hard!!!"

We managed to keep our relationship going till she could no longer bear the pain :o(

did you convert already?why?

Your just a cheap (free) shag to him. Sorry had to put it that way!

it's been an issue and we are fully aware of that religion is one of the major factors someone can't marry someone..no matter she/he loves her/him..

"Dump him!"

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PS;

- You have my phone number on PM! :p

yeah its too hard..im a new muslim,, the religion is not an issue for us.. but the problem is with him,, maybe you are right i cant push him now,, because i know emotionally i cant... maybe i can do it step by step... oh myyyyy... its hard,, too hard!!!

I order to stop this thread going off at a tangent, you must know that there is NOTHING stopping a Muslim from marrying a Christian (Catholic, Protestant etc).

Good luck!

Everything remaining the same ....What if he said that he loves you and you were not able to reciprocate the love... think of it, may be you will get the answer... as I said before not every man woman relationship, irrespective of whatever happened, doesn't have to turn into a relationship of Love...if you still want to continue do that if not move on... no point in getting all that emotional...

yes.as of the moment i'm still in that relationship and what matters worst is that he can't be able to marry me because he is a muslim and i am devoted catholic. i don't even see myself converting in his religion.my advice is that if he's a muslim and you don't see yourself converting too.then don't prolong your agony with him..though it's so easy to said this done doing it literally.

i'll pray for you sis that you will find someone who can reciprocate the same feelings that you want in life.but if you can't let go of him,i understand that. but you have to endure the hardships that goes with it..just play the game well and (actually i'm doing it also now) don't involve yourself esp don't invest too much emotions too..seldom texting/calling is one easy step..then turn down (sometimes) his invites..at least that way "makaganti ka"..good luck..

He just isn't that into you.... simple you aren't valued but useful until he decides what he wants.

it's your choice, your life

you know its hard to let go specially ive lost all my friends.. and ive been dependent to him,, everytime i go out im with him,, thats why emotionally its hard to strat all over again,,,

forget such fantasies, go for a decent life

you been in the same situation?? then what happen??

are u in a relationship with a foreigner guy? because normally they don't want "feelings" to be involve in the relationship..unlike for a typical filipino relationship, it's a must..i can sense that you want a stable relationship and not just dating relationship..i've been in the same situation like you..i myself is asking the same thing..

Zingle, if you do decide to end this "stupidity" once and for all, it will hurt real bad initially, yes, but you know what, you will someday look back at this experience and laugh. As they say, he is not the only fish in the ocean. I wish you all the best and I am confident that eventually, you would be able to find someone who would reciprocate your love.

"cannot for the LIFE of me understand WHY women ALLOW such AH to treat them this way....!!!!!!"

Yet, the OP says ..

"ive been through hardship of my life for past few months, emotionally, financially and spiritually,, everybody left me,, but not him.. hes there to support me... despite of his busy sched,, he do listens to my dilemma,, even in the middle of the night...."

Arien said it all.

MJ said it all.

tinkerbell..

cool down :X

i'm guessing he's a muslim.

This means then, He wants you for time pass, and nothing more, Strange isn't it...

Better to talk with him, and Make a Decision Sooner then Later, and i don't think he would say it back, once he said Good Feelings are Enough...

its easy,, but hard to start?? how i can start?? what are the things i need to put in my mind to stop this stupidity??

its easy,, but hard to start?? how i can start?? what are the things i need to put in my mind to stop this stupidity??

ive been through hardship of my life for past few months, emotionally, financially and spiritually,, everybody left me,, but not him.. hes there to support me... despite of his busy sched,, he do listens to my dilemma,, even in the middle of the night....

Well, this guy doesn't know it yet but he sure is very lucky to have someone like you who loves him very much. I hope everything would turn out well for you in the end.

So, she should test him by cutting off all means of communication ............

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm! No wonder men can't understand women :o(

The fact is you were Alerted for not involving Deep in.

Just Take Care of you no body else will.

Are you partaking in naughty bits ?

If so, then no wonder he's happy to go along as is .. :o)

actually our relationship is no promises,,he didint promise me anything,,,

you're just being used..

actually im 100% sure he dont have any woman in life,,, at first im happy,, actually until now im happy,, but im so worried about myself,, if he dont need me for a serious relationship maybe the damage emotionally will become deeper,, but i dont know what i will do?? cause the emotional attachement is with me already... i dont know :( im crying a lot bout him,, but he dont know that i do cry cause of him

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It looks like your special someone is afraid of commitments. Maybe there's something stopping him from loving you as much as you love him. Have you ever asked him whether he has another girlfriend or whether he is married? Sometimes the obvious questions need to be asked first.

You may let go or you may just continue as it has been so far...friends with good feelings as every man woman relationship need not turn into a relationship of Love...

Zingle and fwee yes dear you need to let go of him.The guy doen't care about your feelings and is charming you as pass time.Btw are you planning to get married?