i lost my life

True mariecor.. I hope she is well and can come back and update on her status. Hope all is well with her!

Where is the OP? There is no single comment from her on this thread. Hope she is not only playing with the QLers and that she is still alive.

If you still hope of good time coming soon , You have everything. You think he died for you then you will be at rest.

An other medicine !!

Bring in mind doubts about him and remember his fight moments and bad moments .

This is my experience .

Afghan Khan

ask your elders! You are still living together, right as husband and wife. And you admitted that you still do it. Do more social dating and try to start all over again.

think about ur family who loved u soo much.... how will they feel wen u end ur life....... just leave him nithya.... he doesnt deserve u..... ur educated and can stand on ur feet.... u dont have to depend on him all ur life...... Life Rockz

Sadly no. They were too heavy for me to carry :o(

so u r the drinking alone crying in ramada las week..:(

brit, didnt you get the shotput as well?

I say, No need for suicide. Thought u have lost ur life already.:(

your story is killing me.. sooo sad. i'm sorry to hear that.. seriously.. :(

just be strong... there's still hope as long as there's still life..

Respect yourself,pick yourself up and move on.As hard as it feels at the moment it will happen..No-one likes a victim..And the best revenge is to move on, show him you don't need him, show him what he's missing..Maybe one day he will see his mistake but you would of moved on to become a stronger better woman...

Suicide is not the way to go..How could you put your loving parents through that? And is he really worth doing that for??..

Ba$tard! You must be in a terrible state. I remember when "SHE" left me and all I had left was the chalk powder and those shorts to remember her by.

You will get over it. Time heals nearly all wounds :O(

Tinkerbell i wonder :O

:D

Hmm, reading these bashin n thrashin n suggestions n warnings i wondr how all these QLers r in real life?? will u guys b this frank/outspoken elsewhr?.........

today is your day no?

Do you the Girl priend of Nihtyaaa's Boy priend/hus

I agree with all you have said....... cryogenic, depression does defy logic, i know people who have suffered from depression, who have had to take treatment, and how they have managed it, and also those who use depression and suicide to seek attention, there are always always tell tale signs, for the ones looking for it. Depressions is not a fun world at all.

here she asked for advice, but on what......choosing an option for her on either suicide or running away.

oh thts sad ...

but still world lots other ones who you can trust .... :P

get motivated and start new life

God bless yr friend's soul... but, Cryogenic! maaan! in this case noone died! they just got apart for sometime - and the lady needs to get back on track!...this ain't the same thing, dude/dudette...

In times of emotional crisis, there is an opportunity to grow and learn. Just because you are feeling emptiness in your life right now, doesn’t mean that nothing is happening or that things will never change. Consider this period a time-out, a time for sowing the seeds for new growth. You can emerge from this experience knowing yourself better and feeling stronger.

What you need to do now is to accept that a breakup is imminent and move on.

You also need to understand what happened and acknowledging the part you played.

Hold your head up and high and stop letting the scum walk all over you. Because you definitely deserve better!

It’s also It’s important to understand how the choices you made affected the relationship. Learning from your mistakes is the key to not repeating them.

I agree with cryogenic... Sometimes people just needs to vent out even in form of writings.. could be the OP is a bit ashamed to open up to friends or relatives and rather open up with people who he/she doesnt know., which commets are easier to accept as oppose to hearing it from people who is closer to her.

I dont find people mocking other's who have a tendency of suicide helpful :( As a responsible member of this online community, I make sure that words taken out of my mouth are something that may NOT push them to go on suicide. :(

...then have kids and raise them

that's some honest and practical advice

Nithiya... this forum ain't helping much... let's go out tonight and you can tell me all about it... you'll feel better - I promise)... 2 conditions tho: 1) u have to be cute and 2) u have to pick me up)... and oh yea! u have to be in Doha too!)

i didnt want to reply to anyone here in particular but to all the smart alecs I want to point out, you are assuming a lot and generalising in a big way.

I lost a family member a few years ago, she killed herself without alerting anyone.A very beautiful, successful, (externally) happy person she was.

I dunno if you guys have ever lost a loved one, I wish you dont but it aint funny.

And for those who say, why hasnt the OP returned to the forum and why hasnt she said hi or bye... how silly can you get?

The OP might be busy or caught up with a zillion things or might be dead for all that we know.

About seeking advice from total strangers online, not all people are smart and well groomed and well heeled and well grounded and logical like us.

There are a few who are so weak momentarily, they just turn to total stangers for help. Depression defies logic. So stop analysing her please.

Help if you can, or else leave her alone. If shes a troll she will die a natural death.

What if she isnt?

What if she is indeed a genuine helpless waoman looking for help?

Her post might be a cry for help and she might not have had the oppurtunity to come online again.

Is QL a site only for bashing and nonsensical chatter?

Having said all this, I might be wrong, all of you might be totally correct too, she might be looking for just sympathy or might be a troll.

But how does that justify such contempt, jeering, mocking and disrespect?

And lastly the person I lost was so strong and highly educated and respected, she would have been the last person to kill herslef.

So please stop laughing at people who seek help.

I hardly post on QL, the site is full of chaos and I dont wish to partake in the fun. Im mostly on read only mode. But cudnt sit back and watch you guys bash her when all she wanted was advice.

Let there be more civility please.

lol...you guys are seriously too much and

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If the OP, had changed the last line of her post ' I am depressed and lost, please help me in this situation, whom can I talk to, what would you do etc?' or so something similar, instead of asking us to chose an option for her between suicide and running away, then this thread would have been very different.

You would have read more sympathy and Stronger advices to patch up their relationship and ofcourse the presence and contribution of the OP is quite essential in these discussions.

Agree with the last comment of CL.

I agree with you too han19...

i agree with tinker

plus OP has not even responded once ...not with "Hi Rizks" or "Hello Captain"

or at least with just "OK, Whatever!! You guys are pathetic"

Anyone dangling the suicide carrot is only looking for attention. If she is genuine, she would have been a part of the thread defending herself and her hubby or bf, since the start.

Cryogenic, if someone was truly depressed and contemplating suicide, the last thing he or she should be doing is go to a public forum and discuss this with complete strangers, there is no credibility to the person at all. He or she should be sitting with close friends or in a shrink's office.

They need professional marriage counseling and for depression and suicidal tendencies, professional medical help, again not advice from a public forum.

Can someone get this poor soul a Panadol..:)

Don't want to tinki, should be in the mood to read such topics. Good that I haven't read it yet, will go by your prognosis of the same, can guess the kind of comments on that thread.

Emotional atyachar.....it's more like forcing one to watch a b grade flop movie.

too much of Captainship will sink the poor lady....:(

stick to "Hi Rizks" and be Rizks Free.....:)

have you lost every iota of decency?

for all that you know, inspite of being a new member and writing bad english, she might actually be in pain.

im ashamed QL has become the breeding ground of a few arrogant and petulant souls, who have no better business than to log in every minute, comment, mock, deride, abuse and laugh at every new member?

is QL your personal feifdom?

would you people mock your own family member if they contemplate suicide.

and before you start rubbishing me, no I dont have other QL IDs ( unlike most of you). I am not the OP.

The least you can do is mock someone who is depressed.

Get a life people.

Rizks...nice technique to get her bro...very well thought

But listen to this now :p

nithyaaa

just a simple "Hi Rizks" comment from you at the moment wont be enough for all of us.

make it like "Hi Rizks and Hello dear Captain, How are you Captain, please PM me Captain"...

This i think would be enough :D

Tinku, everyone knows tat we Indians are very Emotional people...tatz why they do this Atyachaar.....:(

CL, .....that thread is by PA, and she is always on another philosophical high, with good and debatable topics.

It's beyond our OP's understanding.

Nithiya just a simple "Hi Rizks" comment from you at the moment is enough for all of us...just to make sure that you are OK ? :(

After reading all the comments i realized how helpfull QLers are heheeheh...

This is jus an another common love story.. if u jus ask Qlers abt their love story i guess u can find more than 1000 of stories similar to this.

The best part of this love story is guys blame gals and gals blame guys.

U don hav any option than moving on in life.. u cant force any 1 to love u back..

Suicide is not a good option coz later u might realize after u suicide u could hav enjoyed ur life for some more time rather than wasting ur life for some 1 who dosent deserve u :)

Oh come on Tinker... now you are underestimating my super powers.. :(

Yeah Tinkerbell nudging ofcourse, :D

& so helpful :D, i've nevr seen (rather read) such helpful guys !!!!!

She's not having the laugh yet. Qlers can drive a sane person insane, if they feel they can take us qlers on an emotional trip :-p

The sweet Han in me is hoping she actually returns to the thread and bashes us all for our Professional advice........hhmmphh......bring it on nitty girl.

LOL.. Tinkerbell... i never read that thread tho...i just found it relevant, plus she can use it as guidelines before she really starts her journey :P

I know how you feel, the first day of the boxing day test has just finished....confused :(

Yeah he left her emotionally..so she better leave him alone now and get a life.:(

PS ...WHO ME?? :(

BUT WHY?? I DIDNT DO ANYTHING .. :( (NOT YET)

He left her already PS

Leave him!

ummmm...sounds interesting surinder and my stomach is good too these days...so no chance of any accident :P

Nithyaaa .. please read this before you do anything

http://www.qatarliving.com/node/2406930

:D

Long Live QL.. and No one else :P

no hijak

The op might hv had a heart attack aftr readin all these comments above!!!>>>

I lost my life too! and the pain is so unbearable

Devils thinks alike....:(

Dracula's map isnt required anymore I suppose...Someone already gave directions to his place, just a few stairs to be walked though..:)

where is Dracula when he is needed the most with his adorobale Map ? :(

Or on the roof of Ezdan Towers contemplating

Sometimes all you need is a broken heart to realize that something even better is right in front of our eyes, just waiting to be found.

Goodluck..

suicide? DON't BE STUPID.

Start with munni and get promoted to chikni chameli :-) Sheila is lost in between.

Hee hee hee, I can imagine.

Good idea Surinder, zandu bam, and for all the pms that she will receive from our kind QL men, a few steps of munni badnaam as well. Life can be so interesting then.

Tinki, we have not even come close to evil ideas yet, right........it's just the natural way to think, when the small percent of the grey cells actually get working, then the evil ideas will surface :-)

It does sound a bit trollish doesn't it

Troll!

Everything I say is based upon experience TCOM

These kind of posts is an insult to all those women who are genuinely abused in their daily life, and do end up taking their lives, and they do it, because they had no one to guide them and were trapped and traumatized in their lives.

Speaking from experience? :)

Start the new year with a new BF. There are plenty of blokes on QL that you can test drive quickly before New Years Eve. Then pick one and off you go again. Time heals all.

I have a very broad and strong shoulder coz i do pushups on regular basis daily.....:(

LOL FS !

Han and tinks.. didnt know that you girls are sooooo full of ideas...:)

Nithya... don’t fall for all those PMs you received from those empathetic men here...

Dear above all YOU are important. Why you waste your life for someone who doesn't love you? Time can heal everything and approach your life positively. The world is not for cowards.............

FS, she's not listening anymore, she is searching for another site to pour her sorrows and prey on gentle and softhearted people like us here :-)

Seriously, I would accept anything, if she was sincerely looking for guidance and was feeling depressed and confused, but to dangle the carrot of suicide and running away, shows a woman with no self respect, and with no care or love for her parents. She is no teenage child to behave this way.

or go to your elders or his elders, they maybe of help. Since I think you are relatively new couple, it maybe just a what you may termed as "7-years itch". IMO only!

read this (JAB BI KOI PYAAR SE BOLAY GAAAAA....HUM KO EK SHAKSSS YAAD AYE GAAAAAA) PAIN FULL

OMG!!! U lost ur life?? WHERE?? WHEN??? WHY????..:D

Stay with him, sure he'll understand you soon and long live.

Tinki, these issues don't even need grey cells, for us women, we just need to go on a jealous rage, full on tantrum, and it's hell breaking all around. God save the man, then.

han..tinker.....:) she must be thinking that her first option is much easier...:) than listening to our super advices..lol

Scare her Rizki? She is trying to scare everyone by threatening suicide or running away, except her hubby/bf or whatever she is living with.

If he has already made it clear that he doesn't need you, then just stop staying with him.Just go to the washroom and flush his photo or call him and abuse him like u have never abused anyone before. Hope u will feel better. LOLsCourtesy: Movie "Jab We Met"

i agree with you

Yup isale, member for just 2 weeks, first post, lousy writing, quiet since she introduced herself with this post, daal hi kaala hai.

u will feel its hard to leave him but u can. u feel like this at mean time but after one to two weeks u will start to forget him. i recommend u to kick him out of your life because he is using u for sex only plus if there is no reason made him go to another girl then this guy is playing on you only. just move on and u will forget him.

Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success.

LOL han19...oh plz dont scare her off like this....:)

Nithiya ji, as most hav said here "Move On" dear....life is like a 'batook' chewing gum....go on chewing it ! :)

Troll on the prowl

Rizki, she is still thinking on how to commit suicide, or how to run away, or she is thinking, how the question backfired on her.

We are supposed to be moaning and wailing for her here, she has gone into another depression, reading the posts here.

member for 2 weeks and this is the first post

Rizks... No, as i said He/She is probably having fun now

How does she know for sure that he is in relation with another woman, unless he has confirmed to her? Is she over reacting?

Hmm file a police complaint of adultery, ie if these people are married.

I am thinking of the movie ' love ka the end'.

Nithiya, dare to atleast say "Thank you all" for your valuable suggestions ? :(

its almost half an hour u had posted this topic and still no response from you...:(

I hope its not some kind of sick joke ... trying to have fun taking people sympathies by posting such private issues on a public forurm

In any case... JUST MOVE ON!! Stop crying over someone ...HE DOESNT OWN YOUR LIFE

these things just pass. divert your attention to something else, go to bars, meet new people, chillax. there's nothing more you can do about it and there's no point of lingering in something that is impossible to get back.

i understand your feeling but someday you'll laugh at this thing...trust me.

Nithiya ji, wats ur old ID in QL ? :)

(If you have one ? )

Are you trying to write poetry here? Is this person your husband, if you are still staying together.

What are you expecting from strangers here, where are your friends?

Depression early morning? Seek professional help or counselling.

To both your options...........the answer is 'coward'

Why should you suicide or run away for a man who doesn't care for you. Have you no self respect? Don't your parents love you more than this man?

Nithya,

life is like that...

dont think bad...everything will be fine within few days..

if someone dont want to us, let them go..

this is typical Indian Attitude. You have to be with the person you have married even if he is abusive or you dont like to live with him.

give life another chance. just move on. people will talk for 2 days. After all its a matter of your whole life.

It is only a matter of time till you find another one :)

If he dont want you...why on earth you need him??

Do you really think you gonna get a solution for your problem by seeking advice to random people here?

or are you expecting some sympathy from us?

You have to move on.

start a new life, make yourself busy in something, go out with your friends, go on shopping stay late or work overtime in the office.

Are you working? if yes, then move on and support yourself, if no, find yourself a job, leave him and move on! That is your best option!

don't worry yaar if he truly love you he will come back to you. IF not then he doesn't deserve you.

:( Move on..

Sad ....:(

How come you both stay under one roof ?

first of all...are you both married ?