How to plant confidence in your children
Having confidence in one self is not an easy thing that can be done over night, and restoring confidence to a timid introvert person needs a great effort, and so parents should start building self confidence in their children since an early age so they would grow having their own powerful, confident personalities.
Some steps to help parents building confidence in their children’s hearts:
1-Praise your children in front of others but within limits as in praising them for finishing their homework, or accomplishing something successfully.
2-Don’t make them criticize themselves, but help them have faith in what they do.
3-Treat them respectfully, say “please” when asking them to do something and “thank you” when they do it.
4-Treat them as kids and let them enjoy their childhood but teach them to be independent.
5-Help them take their own decisions and don’t impose yours, give them the freedom of choice and let them bear the consequences of their choice, ask them their opinion and ask for it in a certain issue.
6-Teach them the skills of expressing their opinions and presentation, how to talk and how to express themselves in front of anybody.
Teach them how to have principles of their own as well as duties, how to go by them and stick to them.
7-Make them feel they’re important and that they are gifted.
8-Answer all their questions, keep your promises, and explain why you took certain decisions.
9-Help them making friends as children nowadays don’t know how to pick friends. Make them feel special and that they have God-given talents or abilities.
10-Tell them stories from their childhood, through which you can teach them some fundamental principles such as not to lie…etc..
11-Teach them how to refuse and how to say “no” against anything wrong, teach them how to defend themselves and their bodies.
12-Give them enough money.
13-Apologize for any obvious wrong doing from your part .
14-Don’t threaten them at all, but talk to them till they become convinced.
15-Share their ambitions and encourage them to accomplish their dreams.
16-Teach them how to face failure.
17-Hold them close, this helps them trust themselves.
18-Tell them you love them.
http://www.arabia.msn.com/Women/MotherAndChildMagazine/2009/june/confide...
common sense is fitted inbuilt no need to teach.....be patient and humble with your child, they generally follows parents.
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QLrocks, there may appears to be differences of opinions among father and son, however suggest you always respect him, he is a big blessing of Allah
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FS, Glad you liked it. I personally think being over-confident is not a problem as long as he is respectful to others. Generally over-confident people overestimate themselves and underestimate others. But this is slightly different in children, unlike adults they don't underestimate others.
I am just looking for stuff like this. Thanks
After doing all the suggested, you end up with an arrogant, egotistical, rude, violent and horrible human.
Please just remember the basics, teach your child to have common sense......Khalas
Mathboy...Very good article.. thx for sharing...
My son's teachers always say that he is over confident...lol dunno what to do for that...
Kudos man...
I will Follow it aftr im a Dad...
All ur 18 Points are worth posting...
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you are welcome!
Thank you for this post. I find myself lacking in observing a few of the points highlighted. Your post will serve as a reminder as I have copied and printed it out to make sure this is adhered to. Thanks once more.
I agree with all your points as I have successfully used them as a parent.
I believe that every child is unique but the fundamental human nature is the same. Every human/child needs to be respected and aknowledged .
The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.
Malcolm X
second your thoughts.
I already follows a few; and very well aware that Children are very good observer, they notice each and every activity what we parents do.
They knows our strength and weakenesses too and try to correct us as well sometimes.
mathboy
The most important is have faith in God
Have also self discipline..
Each child is unique & special. Its OK to read all the books on parenting and what not but in the end I believe its better to go by pure parental instinct.
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thanks......i find it useful and realize a lot of thinks.
very useful information =) nice post
good work...
Before getting married, I had several theories about bringing up my children. Now i have Two "Amazing Kids" and no theories....
Insanity is hereditary. We get it from our kids....
Thanks mathboy! Being a parent is a hard job and we're leaning new things everyday. I will take advice from anyone and everyone if it helps me be a great mum :-)
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I find these tips very useful.
Will keep these in mind once my baby will be mature enough to understand my words..
Good one mathboy ..
worthy post mathboy...