Long distance relation
Hi all,
Lot of guys have left their countries searching a better future,and settled in qatar, they left also their beloved one.
I'm sure that there's lot of girls just like me, waiting for their gf or husband to come back for a vacation every three months, and it's hard...
I've tried to find a job there but it didn't work, beside i'm afraid to leave my good job in here, so i prefere not to take the risk.
Do u ,girls, have an advice about how u calm down when u stressed alone and feel the need of being beside him.
My husband came over here in the begining of Jan, I didn't arrive until towards the end of August, fortunately I was able to get over here in April at easter and he managed to get on a course near where I live in the UK in May, but even so it was difficult, it took a few weeks of being here and then it was if we had never been apart. We tried to keep in contact via sms, messenger, e-mails. I wouldn't like to be away from him for much longer than we did though and I couldn't come over any sooner as my middle daughter was in her final year for A'levels, so I wasn't coming until the had taken her exams.
yes long distance love affair never work..
unless lovers fool themselves.
but i salute to those 1020% loyal to their lovers.
I am 65% agree with zhbby rest 35% with heero...
You have to be together to understand each other. To support each other and to become "depenedent" on each other..
That's one hell of a difficult task to PLENTY of 'bachelors' in Qatar.
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
long distance relationships will rely in frequent communication....
to ease your stress out when you are need of being beside him make a letter and send thru e-mail, chat, call him or use skype if you prefer.
keep a friend who is also having same situation as yours. she will understand your feelings more and you will never feel alone.
Do u ,girls, have an advice about how u calm down when u stressed alone and feel the need of being beside him.
---> spend time with your family,
---> GO out with your friends ,shopping...
---> watch more movies
it would surely worked... however, provided that... if your bf's dick is as long as far from Doha to your home country, then LDR is a good thing for you...:D
Do u ,girls, have an advice about how u calm down when u stressed alone and feel the need of being beside him.
---> if there is a way to be with him go for it girl.
If I was in such a situation, I would leave work and be with him. Once I am with him, I would then seek a job. its easier when you are in the same country.
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You have to be together to understand each other. To support each other and to become "depenedent" on each other..
You need to see each other fairly regularly I don't think the relationship will work. I had a boyfriend in Bahrain and we only lasted 2 months because the distance was too much. The purpose of a relationship is not being together at set times, but being together when you need each other.
Gypsy What if the distance is not long.. let's say if it is less than 3000 kilometers.. will it work?
Personally i don't believe long distance relationships work, and I don't see the point of them. People get in relationships to BE TOGETHER, not be 3000 kms apart. It's not natural.
If you too really love each other you'd make the big decision and decide who has to leave their job for the sake of the relationship. It might be you it might be him, but if neither of you are willing to do it, your relationship isn't worth a damn.
its hard to be away from urs beloved one and need alot pf patience to afford the sadness ,distance ,lonely so if u break up no one will blame u untill u blame ur self when u leave ur beloved one for a temporrary desires ..
LadyDi287, Omar Waheed can really help you when you are all alone and need a shoulder to cry
jf...are you advising or just telling your habit? ;|
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I go out and have sex with the first women that i meet at the bar, it takes my mind off it. but sadly the depresion comes back bu the next weekend, so off i go again to the bar to de stress about my wife again,, do i talk to my wife after sex.. yes if there is a phone handy,
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
its so difficult...
but my advice is to talk with him more often...
and the practical way is to talk to him via YM...
you see him and talk to him...
that way, you'll feel closer to him not by distance rather by emotions...
good luck...
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Women's Rights Are Human Rights
Famous Speech by Hillary Clinton
I learned things the hard way. Influences changed her back home. No will to sustain commitment. No will to follow me either. I stayed the same. I know my places and spoils to make me stay the same in a less-than-infuential environment here. She didn't. I've changed my decision. I'm now fine with my new girlfriend in here.
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
Friend LadyDi287
It is common for man and woman about feeling lonliness.We came here to earn money.But some time i assume as money earning machine.Every day same routine work.No attachment,no lovey speach from loved one,missing childrens affection,lossing parential love and away from all family functions.Really we are missing lot.In this world every thing is based on money only.But until energy in body we have to work to earn money to provide a better future for our childrens/wife/father/mother.
But really we are killing our natural emotions also.what to do we are all candles giving light by melting ourself.
So adjust the reality,encage some good habits to pass your time.Be friendly with neighbours and co workers.Enjoy the lonliness with your happy habits.
kumaran
one has to decide.....money or love.......
Life teach u a lot. When I was away from my family I feel very sad. But in this period we understand there importance in our life. Call them often. Make good neighbours, friends here and with the company of them you will never feel that you are away from home.
Plan gettogether, celebrate birthdays enjoy each movement so that lonelyness stay away from you.
Being far from a family pains so much..i cried every night since i arrived, but the best thing that help me is prayer. It give me strength to overcome the loneliness and live life full of hopes that someday we will be together here... and it happens... you know the power of prayer... just 2 weeks ago my 2 kids arrived here in Doha and i can't express my happiness and very thankful to God for this help...
N.B. Thx Mod for deleting omar's second message.
some times life sucks.
Thx guys for all ur opinions. And yes, u r right, no sacrifice no happiness.
Thx god the situation wont stay so long like this, and i know he went threw hard times just like me, the thing is that men try to hide it.
Well, these moments can be forgotten just by one word, and the next morning every weakness will go away.
This is how it goes, the long distance relation, is full of sacrifices but in the other hand, make love stronger sometimes (i'm talking about our situation).
Well, if i may ask now, i would like to know how u guys feel there away from ur gf, spouse or wife
I am sure may people would have said that before but I will say it again anyway.
Be very clear about your priorities? and believe me the person on the other end is perfectly aware of them. In my case, my marriage was almost called off all of a sudden as relationship crumbled under the pressure of distance.
Next day saw me on the plane and at the door of my GF telling her that I want only her and will not go back if thats what it takes to get her back. It took a lot of tears and talking but now we live very happily here in this country.
No sacrifice, no happiness. You cant have both ways.
hope it s within my age bracket...
anyway here is my one cent advice....NOPE, NO NO NO NO... LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP DON'T WORK OUT....
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Do u ,girls, have an advice about how u calm down when u stressed alone and feel the need of being beside him.
its really a hard task to live far from the person you love so much...specially your spouse. but somehow for sometime we can spend like this...but forever is hard. i know we all are here mainly for money to make our future better...to make the situation better for our future.
the only thing can make u calm is the emotional bond...it is one of the strongest thing you can life with...ofcourse that only makes u weak at times. you it positively...and yes...i guess its not for life..
its very very tough i know...but if there is no other choice..better to accept it.
but if its just gf and bf...i guess its nearly impossible for long time...i've gone through the same..and we are no more together !
it is really hard when you work abroad..but you need to decide, will you be patient to wait for a visit every 3 months for the sake of the job? you may have to do this if your family needs the money..and if so, i believe your can become stronger when you believe that u r doing a great help to your family..this will give you peace of mind..if worst comes to worst, i would advise you to quit the job and get back home..coz if you have to lose either, don't lose home!
If you have friends, girl, meet them. If you don't have friends, you're on your own. (I mean 'friends').
Its not just temptation.. Being apart can help one realise that they are perfectly able to function and perhaps enjoy life independently..
Well i agree with u about the temptation, but i'm not afraid of this point. And i'm not afraid of breaking up because it's been a while, we're preparing for the big day for next year. But even though, there's lot of moments when u feel so down because of this situation and u don't want to bother the other one because of that and try hard to make up ur sadness. But it seems that every time it's harder, i thought maybe the others have an advice for such bad moments
Agree, brit. It doesn't work. There is too much temptation around.
My whole point.. The relationship with my Cuban fizzled out.. We both went our different ways..
Long distance relationships require lots of hard work.. Not easy .
Long distance relationships dont survive , rather get longer and longer.
You are lying, brit. Didn't you just recently fall for a German Lady in red?
Long distance relations don't work.
People drift apart ......... I still miss my Cuban shotputter .. :O(
long distance relation is damn hard
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I'm not here to have another issue with u, after more than 4 months i think. And i'm surprised that once i appear after all this time u throw a comment.
Get a life and plz kindly try not to talk to me anymore.
oh she is back.. becoz of her mistake i got my previous ID banned...
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Yeah u r right i posted it few minutes and i wanted to put it in the "family"category, and i'm sorry i don't know how i can delete the other one
Deja Vu..
I am sure I saw another post like this ..