This is a real story

khan222
By khan222

sorry a bit long
This is a real story,

A Letter not opened yet by an Expartiate:
Dear Father & mother : Today I am completed 5 years in the Gulf. I am decided to come at home next month. Within this 5 years, I have zero balance apart from clear out my visa expenses and availed one vacation before. Upon this vacation, I dont like to return Gulf. I have sound health to do any manual job at home country.

Let me know your suggestion, Yours loving Jamal.
Dear Jamal, father writing : Received your letter and very happy to know about your vacation. Rest will continue your mother. Dear son, Do you know about the condition of our house? Rainy season, Nobody can to stay inside the house. Repair and maintence is very expensive with this old wooden items, All are suggesting to prefer a concrete house. Without home, do you know, there is no alternative. If you dicided to stop Gulf, can you do this with your limited income?. I am just reminding this, you can decide what you like.
Yours loving mother.

Dear Mother, Now I am completed 10 years at this desert. I like to come home next month. Within these period, we rebuilt our house, and I completed all the related loans. Now I am planning to settle home and expecting to meet our day to day expenses by Taxi driving. I already fedup with this desert life. I wants to live with my kids. Let me know your suggestions. Yours loving Jamal.

Dear Jamal, Received your letter which is very regrettable when I read. My son started to suffer for us at his childhood. But one more thing I reminding you. Your sister Zainaba is aged more than 20. Did you have any arrangement or plan to get her marry. I have only one ambition, that is to die after her marriage. Dont feel bad, I am not passing any burden to you,
you can decide yourself. Yours loving Mother

Dear Mother and Zuhara (wife), Now I am completed 14 years at this January. I fed up with this Gulf life. I can not continue more here. I am deciding to cancel my Visa. Within the last four years, we could arrange the marriage of Zainaba, which was done well with the help of Allah higher than our expectation, and paid out all expenses related to her marriage.
Also settled my other loans too. Now I am deciding to settle at home and start any job like light driving or similar. I can not do any heavy work, because I have abnormal BP and Sugar. If I continue here, I am forced to pay all my salary for medical expenses, so it is better to continue any Unani treatement at home. Yours Jamal.

Dear Jamal, I shed much tears after reading your letter. Anyhow, my son, you dont go back to Gulf any more. But Zuhra (wife) wants to write something. Dear my sweet, after our marriage, I am not requested anything from you, but now I am forced to ask something. After marriage of your brother Jalal, your mother is totally against me. Now your mother is depeding his wife for everything. Also I heard, your mother is planning to give this house to your brother. If any dispute arises, where can we go with our kids If you are dicided to settle home, can you possible to make a house for our own. Do you know the price of steel and Cement and labour charges, which is not affordable. I am just expressing my anxious, you can decide yourseff.
Yours loving Zuhara.

Dear Zuhara, Now I am completed 19 years at my gulf life. Within this last four years, we built a new house with my effort which is higher than your expectation. Now I have no balance, except the retirement benefit from the compnay, i.e my final settlement around SR 25000/- Only that is my net balance. Anyhow turning back, I ve satisfaction, I could done something for others. From now, I can not continue here. Last 19, I could not understand what is a family life. Now I am deciding to settle home and I wants to live with you and children. This month last, I am retiring from my job, see you face to face, yours loving Jamal.

Dear my sweet loving: After reading your letter, I am very happy to know about your dicision to discontinue the gulf life even you are late. But our son requested me to write one thing to you. He like to join Engineering course. He got an admission Card from Amritha Auto Engineering college, Coimbatore. First year needs to pay 4 Lakhs (SR 40000/-) then each year 3 lakhs each. No need to pay cash down at one stroke, they agreed instalment payment. Students learnihng there are all expartiates sons. Fist instalment must pay on or before this 30th.
Expecting your reply soon, Yours loving Zuhra.

He spent a sum more for the education of his son and to get marry his daughter, then now he completed 27 years. Now he is on the way to the Airport with his ultimate balance of Blood Sugar, Blood pressure, back pain and ulcer. On the way incidentlly, he noticed a letter in his pocket , which he received from home, not opened yet.
That is the first letter he did not read in his Gulf life.
https://mail.google.com/mail/?ui=2&ik=452dd43c7e&view=att&th=1354cff4a3d...

By anonymous• 5 Feb 2012 23:06
Rating: 2/5
anonymous

Nonsense. The government is not responsible for Jamal's poverty .

By neha_jay• 5 Feb 2012 20:04
neha_jay

I think the story is 99.99% reality...especially in my country this happens...poor jamal...and sorry for the many other jamals who live life like this!!!!

By bssameera• 5 Feb 2012 19:02
bssameera

heart touching........take care .....my god give him good health to enjoy his family life atleast now.

By sundaresan86• 5 Feb 2012 18:34
sundaresan86

i read the story....very nice one

By SIMPLYME• 5 Feb 2012 17:59
SIMPLYME

very sad..hope it wont happen to me..

By Rula_S• 5 Feb 2012 17:33
Rula_S

R u ok??? i didnt mention any country and i dont know his country

By nomerci• 5 Feb 2012 16:35
nomerci

How about all those "loving family members" get off their arses and take care of themselves?

This is one thing I don't get about the Asian culture...you guys let others use you to the max....sure, giving some help is just normal, but this is not "help" this is getting abused.IMHO

By ingeniero• 5 Feb 2012 16:26
ingeniero

Tinkerbell, check the case history, its normal for her, that is why suggesting to "Jamal" to take loan from the bank and leave silently...

Miss Rula, We are not here on the post to discuss which country is good and which country is bad, and how much resources they got, we are talking about individuals.. not that how worse is the situation of your or ours country..

By khan222• 5 Feb 2012 16:17
khan222

guies why our country is in worse position is our dees and our ancestors dont fight on this,, its true that we are here because our countries financial and economic background is not good,, but at the same time there are the millionairess in our country who are on the top lists of the richest people of the world ,, so its our own wish and problems , this thread is message only....

thanks all

By britexpat• 5 Feb 2012 16:17
britexpat

You are encouraging the person to break the aw and in the long term Mae life difficult for their expats ..

By Rula_S• 5 Feb 2012 16:06
Rula_S

Racist??? how? also my goverment is bad and worse than urs, where is the racism plz?

By vaishali26_2002• 5 Feb 2012 16:00
vaishali26_2002

this one side of true story but on the other side of story is, family member of expat especially wives, their entire life commited to his husbands family like in-laws, relatives and their children. once in two or five years they get to see their husbands. Those ladies are also suffering.

We all should thank god that we are with our loveones.

By vaishali26_2002• 5 Feb 2012 16:00
vaishali26_2002

this one side of true story but on the other side of story is, family member of expat especially wives, their entire life commited to his husbands family like in-laws, relatives and their children. once in two or five years they get to see their husbands. Those ladies are also suffering.

We all should thank god that we are with our loveones.

By Rula_S• 5 Feb 2012 15:56
Rula_S

When we speak we are all owners of the principles and when we behave we are all stakeholders

By ingeniero• 5 Feb 2012 15:45
ingeniero

Jamal is not a cheater,

Don't tell the world what you planned!!!

By ingeniero• 5 Feb 2012 15:44
ingeniero

Jamal is not a cheater,

Don't tell the world what you planned!!!

By ingeniero• 5 Feb 2012 15:42
ingeniero

Totally agree, and yup that is the most important factor, Many are abroad because of these reasons, their family became materialistic and want them to stay abroad to earn money for them, and bring new gadgets and gifts after every two years, when they visit home.

By Rula_S• 5 Feb 2012 15:39
Rula_S

Dear Jamal:

Get a loan/loans from any bank/s and leave gulf for good, forget paying the loan. like that u can feel better, i think u can also blame the governments of ur country poverty

Thanks

By britexpat• 5 Feb 2012 15:28
britexpat

One key issue is that the "dependents" become used to having the expat's income for their disposal and pressure him/her to stay away longer ..

By ingeniero• 5 Feb 2012 15:19
Rating: 4/5
ingeniero

Sad but very true.. People spent lives here, hoping for more and more, and afraid of trying in their own country, and then these are the results,

By estekwellek• 5 Feb 2012 15:01
estekwellek

Really sad, life is easy on few and hard on the rest.

Thank you God for everything

By blue_rose• 5 Feb 2012 14:40
blue_rose

sad..

family life is very important..its important to plan your family life before marriage...live together with ur life partner where-ever u live.

By khan222• 5 Feb 2012 14:34
khan222

this is not my creation actually i got a mail forwarded from one of my friends and saw realistic so posted here,,

its true,, we see many people spending there big amount of time here, some think they are living social life and some are unfortunate to live alone without their families...

life goes on and but dont know what is family life and social life ,, ... but people have their own needs and desires and definition of life ..

By coxtown_rajan• 5 Feb 2012 14:31
Rating: 4/5
coxtown_rajan

Its more or less realistic but 3 things are to be noted.

Proper planning, spend for real needs, save for future.

Gulf jobs are not stable nor reliable.

By althachi• 5 Feb 2012 14:28
althachi

This is the life of most of the expatriates... . ... . . .

By britexpat• 5 Feb 2012 14:26
Rating: 3/5
britexpat

Sadly, its true for many an expt ..

By fea_sad• 5 Feb 2012 14:24
Rating: 2/5
fea_sad

LOL CW ....

By Baburao-Ganpatrao-Apte• 5 Feb 2012 14:23
Baburao-Ganpatrao-Apte

lol CW :)

By Cryptic-writings• 5 Feb 2012 14:22
Cryptic-writings

and how did they have kids by DHL ?

By Cryptic-writings• 5 Feb 2012 14:20
Cryptic-writings

I wonder how di he marry Zuhra ?

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