Argh..Im bugged with Indecent Proposal

thanks for the inputs....I know that I can count on QL friends, if ever something happens..:)

hmmm well i offered owen my help but she refused :D

she was scared he might die from my hands just 1 blow to his left chest and there he goes down. :D

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As CYman said, the most important thing is not to show any sign of weakness, he'll immediately take advantage of that. Show him that ur strong, confident and that he's not affecting ur life in any way. Take control of the upper hand.

I've never been such a situation, but I think all the above advice makes alot of sense...so go for it! But I do know confidence and attitude are the key. So be strong girl!

Owen, sweetie

I guess most working ladies had the same experience in here...can you believe that I was harassed by my own boss in previous work?

I remember one of my customers who is a doc in University in Qatar, and he knew that I was married at that time. He simply decided to ignore the fact and kept on asking me out.

Imagine, that after long conversation where I have mentioned my marital status few times, he said "So can I call you sometime?"

The answer, with cool blood, was: "Sure, if you have any more questions about the product"

Some men do it straight in your face, some have a bit more decency...but it happens a lot anyway.

I am really more than willing to kick his butt for you...gosh, it would make me feel better for all the guys who are annoying us with this.

But, for real, if talking to your GM would not work, then I'd do few things:

Since he is from your place, I'd play on his pride a bit, saying that he should be ashamed of himself and he is creating a bad reputation for others from your place. And that kind of stuff...

If that wouldn't work, I'd say that if he wouldn't stop, I'd send him so quick back to his country, that he won't even know what happened! That you won't waste your time on going to the management anymore, you'll go straight to the police and let him know that from now on every conversation that you will have shall be recorded.

You can tell him that you switch the loudspeaker every time he calls or share the line with your boss.

If you need any help, I am here for you.

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

but only if worse comes to worse! I am sure QL guys will rush to your side! What kind of men are we if we can't defend one of our lovely QL ladies, hey DaRuDe?

May the roof above us never fall in, and may the friends below never fall out!

i know..that's why i call it QL mafia..:D

you know if 5 or 6 of us guys here headed by our warrior DaRuDe just walk in his office and nicely warn him to leave you alone, I bet he will s**i in his pants. Let's leave it as the last option. In the meantime don't make him feel that you are weak and vulnerable. On the contrary let him know that you have a lot of friends. AND YOU DO!

May the roof above us never fall in, and may the friends below never fall out!

ok guys, i will answer all your comments later on..meanwhile, im preaparing myself "to battle" again..makes me wanna puke, because im nervous/tense (see, how this affect me?..) :P

u wana join too ok be there at 4pm :D

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how are you doing this morning? Hopefully you are ok and did not get affected by this guy. Someone in his position should know more about the work & life ethics, but to be so cheap like that and ask you in the middle of a conference with his colleagues about something like that? I don't know what do this guy had in mind, but he is simply crazy.

Owen I know that some of your company papers are pending andd thanks to him, but that should not make it your own problem and feel down because you need to endure this guy rudeness to finish your company work. Report him to your supervisors and let them even report this guy to his wherever he is working working supervisors. It is really simple and you don't really need to bother yourself with him anymore, let your company handle it.. if they can't .. let them find someone else to deal with this guy or let them ask for someone else to handle your company account.

Where is this guy?

I will kick his ass right away!

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

why dont u join me to pay a visit to her GM and u will have a look around there may be you will buy 1 of them in future :D

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just imagination example or say sample.

tell him my friend is coming today i will like u to meet him.

Me Me Me :D will kill ur GM if my case was not solved today.

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oryx, i sent you a reply thru PM..

mom scarlett...I am communicating with this guy for like more than 2 weeks already (thru..before, only sleazy questions thru telephone--that I can handle professionally)..but he came to the edge of my patience, yesterday..during our teleconference with his 3 other colleagues..

sorry, will continue later on..work is calling me..:P

azilana, i thought i could handle him as he is of our own (a kababayan)..but sadly, i made a poor judgement on this one...

he is not harrassing me on email..only on telephone conversation, and thru that, he mentions either go out with him or "otherwise"...as mentioned above, we could not drag the company to this kind of issues even if "I" am in difficulty communicating with him --->this is as per our GM..but the department is all aware of this...and the GM will talk to him if ever..that is if ever..

DaRude is the solution. I dont think u can turn the other cheek... in this case.

her GM is my friend long time now 6 years :D

i know hmm might go this evening to the GM got some work havin problem with insurance company for the product i got from ur GM.

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Azilana is right

make a little diary of events so you have facts to back you up.

So if things do get worse you have your facts... its very impressive.

ie

Monday 15th 8.30am

Phone Call

Client said:

I replied:

Do it now!

It is just plain not acceptable. By all means report it to your boss and try not to be alone with the person.

I suggested we get our knight in shining armour involved: DaRuDe

Cyman she may not have sufficient backing to take such action...report to who?

I was harrassed here by a 'respectable married muslim man with 8 children' and I went to my boss and told it was my fault because I wasn't married and did i know that women get stoned for adultery?

So be careful that he didn't turn the tables on me and report me!!!

All I could do was cry - and he laughed and laughed.

he works for al jazeera now - i would love him to get a good kicking.

the next time you communicate/contact with this PERV, have it documented (thru e-mails/correspondences) with his IMMEDIATE SUPERIOR and YOUR BOSS in copy.

If he insinuated in your phone conversation, pretend you don't hear him and continue with the business. If he insist and makes it hard for you...REPORT HIM TO THEIR DEPARTMENT HEAD.

WHY DO YOU HAVE TO PROLONG YOUR AGONY????

Hey, Your company is the CLIENT...NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND...

whenever he is about to make his dirty advances turn your back and walk away, tell him in a decisive manner that you will report him. Explain to him that you will refuse to do business with him if he continues and that you will create a crisis involving boss, husband etc. He will most probably back off. Hope you get rid of the problem soon.

If nothing of the above works, tell him that you will get DaRuDe and his riffles involved, lol

May the roof above us never fall in, and may the friends below never fall out!

nah..the GM said that we will handle this professionally..you know where i work stallion..:D (we could not afford to drag the company with this..i know you understand..)

reason I'm asking is if he comes to your desk, have a recording device sitting there and make sure he sees you switch it on...then do business with him..bet he stops...

Is there recourse with HIS boss????

double post

proposed her coz she said proposals :D

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owen really really tough one

married or not - make it clear you are very devotedly married.

any 'off target comments' re-focus his mind:

'what do you think about this report'

'sorry i don't like to talk about my personal life at work'

'how is your wife?'

What support do you have from GM?

Could he reasign some of the contact with the client to someone else?

Does he come into your office? Photos of hubby - children.

Flowers from hubby on desk.

you really are between a rock and a hard place here

as far as actions being taken?