Best Birthday Present - Sex for a year !
What more can a man ask for ???????
Ladies , please read this.............
When her husband turned 40, Charla Muller couldn't decide what to give him, so she offered him guaranteed sex every night for a whole year.
Charla Muller was reading Galatians 5.22-23 in her Bible study group when she decided what she was going to get her husband, Brad, for his 40th birthday. Perhaps disappointingly for him, it wasn't an iTunes voucher. Instead, she was going to give him the gift of sex for 365 nights.
As you know, Galatians 5.22-23 reads: "But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." What's that got to do with a scheduled sex marathon? "From that, I realised I needed to bring something to bear on our relationship to make it fruitful. We had been married for eight years and I wanted to reconnect with Brad, and give him a gift he would never forget."
What was Brad's reaction to this gift, I ask Muller. "He turned me down! He thought that scheduling time for intimacy would detract from its loveliness. He also wondered if he was up to it. He said, 'What would happen if I have a headache?'" So she drew up a list of ground rules, among which was that either party could decline on any occasion.
"Eventually he said, 'Let's give it a go.'" As Brad's birthday neared, though, the couple worried about logistics - how would they find the energy and free time (she works in marketing, he is a salesman), how would they ensure that the kids (aged seven and five) didn't intrude, and what if there was something really good on telly? "We agreed that TV couldn't trump intimacy, and that once we scheduled some saucy time, BlackBerrys and emails would be ignored." What about the kids? "They're old enough that we don't have to look out for them every five minutes, so we would often put them in front of a video. We were also much stricter with bedtimes than we had been before. We also weren't afraid to lock our bedroom door. Sometimes we had a great babysitter for our date nights."
What would have happened if Brad had offered the same gift for your birthday? Would you have said something along the lines of "Gee, Brad, hope you kept the receipt"? Muller giggles down the phone from Charlotte, North Carolina. "I'm not sure I would have accepted. In fact, when I turned 40, which was recently, Brad said: 'Well how about it?', meaning let's have sex for another 365 nights. But I didn't accept."
Wasn't Brad's initial reaction right - 365 days of scheduled sex is surely a turn off? What about spontaneity? "I felt the opposite. I felt the pressure came off. He no longer thought 'Tonight is a big deal, the only night we'll have sex this month is now, it's got to be really special.' And for me, before nightly sex, I used to guiltily wonder when I was going to have the time or desire. With sex every night it meant that I had to find the time, and that when it happened it was no longer necessarily a big deal." What about the desire? "The idea was that it would come." In fact, Muller writes in her book, 365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy, "Regular sex was allowing for feelings of health and wellness that sparked a desire to have more sex. Sex is a great stress-reliever too. A nice relaxing romp with Brad was a wonderful distraction from feeling like the world would crumble if I wasn't out there battling dragons 24/7. I could relax, feel those endorphins pinging around my body and forget about my bad day. And perhaps best of all, our intimate moments were making me feel younger."
But wasn't it an ordeal? "Let me tell you a story," says Muller. "One night we were at an Italian restaurant, feeling filled with wine, pasta and bread. A friend said to me, 'I really feel sorry for you - you've got to go home and have sex. I can go home and watch Saturday Night Live in bed.' I told her that we'd already had a quickie - we booked the babysitter an hour earlier. It really started the evening with a bang. So no, it wasn't an ordeal - at least, not most of the time." That said, Muller does write in her memoir: "Intimacy every day is trying. It requires stamina, patience, personal grooming and a work ethic I didn't know I possessed."
"The unintended beauty of my gift was its unconditionality. There was no need for Brad to wine and dine me at overpriced restaurants. Our house ran better because we were more agreeable, more helpful, more solicitous to each other, and our time together was truly about us, not the promise of special date-night sex."
Muller concludes with some advice for married couples: "However often you are doing it, double it. And six months from now, double it again. It's proof that you're here, alive and very together".
• 365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy by Charla Muller is published by John Blake, £11.99.
Full artiocle : http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/apr/22/365-nights-charla-mul...
Pikey now that is a very private question. lets say we got a promise..:)
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Ok how many of you got this present for your V day?
LoL that is awesome topic
Sex of course, the best gift a man could give.
I just realised.. It's FS's birthday today. Wonder what she got for her birthday ?
This guy goes into a doctors and says "Doctor, doctor you've gotta help
me. I just can't stop having sex!"
"Well how often do you have it?" the doctor asks. "Well, twice a day I
have sex with my wife, TWICE a day", he answers back.
"That's not so much", says the doctor. "Yes, but thats not all. Twice a
day I have sex with my secretary, TWICE a day," replies the man.
"Well that is probably a bit excessive," says the doctor. "Yes, but
thats not all. Twice a day I have sex with a prostitute, TWICE a day,"
says the man. "Well, that's definitely to much", says the doctor.
"You've got to learn to take yourself in hand." "I do", says the man.
"Twice a day."
“The fool speaks, the wise man listens”
Look, if sex would be done everyday for 365 days, its scary. Both husband and wife must have a stamina.
britexpat, is this your story?
Hi,
Nice article....which is the best birthday gift i could give to my friend?
http://www.winesbydesign.com.au/
it's an awesome gift from someone who is at that age...
not enough time to read the whole story.... !!
I'd just be worried about the bedsheets.
I did not invent the story.. The lady herself has used the passages to support her initiative.
About this thread; Could we use some verses from the Koran to replace the one's from the Bible?
I would like to read your reaction.
Life is short. Break all the rules. Forgive quickly.
Kiss slowly, love truly and never regret the things that
made you laugh.
Graduated from Xavier Institute for Higher learning
Huh Kumaran. Come on , she had her Uterus removed..lol
Let the guy get a break too buddy
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it's an expensive gift but exciting though...
u can make it every night as long as u make it with different person then u will not feel the same bored.
Aggreeable for a married couple..
most of the people who will comment on her book they will buy or try read it .
OOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Brit,
I have a doubt,every month ladies will have 3 or 4 days problem,is it not? .Then 4 X 12 = 48 days lost.Then how it can be 365 days.I hope it is a publicity stund to sell her book.I dont belive 365 days sex it is a magic or comic?
kumaran
The follow up article talked about how their marriage was not legitmate, so my question would be.... should then be stoned every day for a year???
I used to know a girl called Pandora.. As for her Pasttimes.. I won't go into them.
Brit, you opened "Pandora's box"...now you have to deal with the consequences...
I'm out! I'm going to buy for my woman a Bible.
Hmmm...What a wife:P
Wont it get boring everyday:S
yeah right.
what a cheap skate! :P
A man should stop sex when he's had enough (if he's an egoist), or, he should stop when she has had enough (that's an altruist).
When should a men stop sex after his wife gets pregenent and when can he have sex after baby birth?
sex movies
BritExpat you sex pest...lol
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position 123B?neck tie of the leg,with the back position..Lol Brit...
Been there, done it... All except position 122A.. It gave a cramp in my neck for a week..
much better if you will convert to GURU...
try to educated every couple,make a topic so called KAMASUTRA..LOL!
Stone Cold the same shop that sells China Dolls also sells good blue pills..lol
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Well Well now.. Going into Pinoy territory.. that is a hidieous crime. I know the last guy that upset your pinoys what happened to him lol
Pikey. Even though you might have a valid argument. Just a piece of advise matey. Dont upset the the pinoy mafia on this site if you want to have a nice stay.
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Don't you ever get bored driving a Toyota everday for a year, I mean even if you are sick. Tell me where to get a good Viagra in Doha
Wish They give such presents before marriage...... :)
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
You can't teach experience...
Wise woman, She knows men at 40 are naughty, like Brit
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Ignore ma Spells,Cause I GOt a brain which thinks faster than my typing ;-)
Yes, it is marketing stunts....obviously they will mutually disclose post selling of all copies their personal experience in part 2 (sequel)..to clear the doubts of all sincere readers.
Making sex as daily exercise, would reduce the charm and natural urge.
If Ms Muller wanted to try out and explore her and her husbands sexuality, cool. But I guess she actually wants to sell her book. Isnt that stupid??
Just having sex on a daily basis gets mechanical and degrades the experience of satisfying sex. Obiously it cannot be lightning and thunder each time.
These concepts sounds so much like a marketing/Sales pitch.. I doubt if the book will sell ...besides how exactly would anyone know if they are really doing it on a daily basis?
What the hell.... Is it possible.. I mean physically???
I ma re-hijacking the forum back to its original topic..
No need to thank Brite,,,,, Its my pleasure....
Its Xes after all.. tht too with love.. lots of love...
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
and pikey brought some issue in filipino site which can moderator can answer it...
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its your time pikey dear!!!
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shine!!!
~ black is beautiful ~
Looks like this Pikey who ever he is has made some nice flipinos friends already...lol
Qatariboy.. glad you like it..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
pikey, any luck on soliciting (to) bash Pinoys?.. that's your goal today nah?..
if you have been reading QL "for long time now" as what you have claim.. you should be somehow aware of the groupings here and to whom to complain regarding this "group/post" issues of yours..
sorry brit for the HJ..
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
oooppppss, sorry brit, hehehe..ukeng, thanks for the reminder...
kadaut...
arecel are you guys hijacking BritExpat threads?...lol
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looooooooooooooooooooooooooooool i love that joke.good one
sigh... another day, another reincarnation? moving on...
ps. dmighty i had already wondered about penny eventhough most fil-ex thought of the birdie:-)
kadaut...
A man and his wife go to the annual cattle fair in the local village.
They pass by a bull displaying that he mated 250 times a year.
Next they pass by a bull saying that he had 300 scores to his name.
further on they found one with 365 hits to his name..
At this the wife looked at her husband and said.. look at this a bull he is doing it almost every day and look at you that you can hardly do it once a week.
On this the husband replied, please check with the farmer if the bull is doing it with the same cow every day..
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OK.. So getting back to the topic at hand ..
Pikey - Yes, same lady , each night... Don't know about the lingerie or accoutraments though :)
Hey Pikey I see you are making a lot of not so friends on QL...lol
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Thanks you Alexa.. must say like you avatar..lol
LOL
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
Sorry who is Penny?
Look I am not anyone. I am just me right. I have been reading this Ql site for long time now and finally yesterday decided to start contributing to this site.
For the sake of every one and especially Alexa, I was just pointing out to the pinoy's that their group should not be visible to anyone. Looks like that these guys here are running the show as they running most of the businesses in this country.
Sweet mother of cherry pies Alexa...your getting good at sniffing out Penny no matter what id she makes eh? Dont let this become a hobby now :)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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maybe he is? Lol!!!!!!!!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
saying WTF and other senseless things. He is questioning why everybody can view all story topics as if suggesting that story topics should be exclusive to such group only. I told him to address it to QL admin. This is another UK man. Maybe if you talk to him, you'll understand each other?
Good afternoon, Padre!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
will somebody explain to this guy what story and forum topics are? And Pikey, better listen up, maybe some countryman of yours will explain it to you!
Paging Moderators, is this guy a troll?
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Padre is someone bothering you..
Oyee Pike what ever your name is .. Leave the Pinoy's alone. Dont you know that they are mafia of Ql...lol
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Dmightysolomon .. It not your site as your have admitted now. So stop getting the hump, I was just trying to point a flaw to you guys. I am no racist. But you guys are just not getting the point why I posted in your group.
You are the guys with the problem. The problem with you guys is that you just can't take positive critisism and try to see why I posted there. There was reason for me to post in your group, and there is no reason for me not to post in that group again. get it!
then stop bugging us in our group! You are unwanted there. I did tell you, address your "nonsense" concern to the QL admins!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Yep pinoy man I can understand English alwight.. but sorry have not got a clue about your lingo what ever its called.
dont try to be a smart arse with me pinoy boy..
will another UK man explain to this newbee about his inquiry regarding "why everybody can view all forum and story threads. I think he is suggesting something? I just don't know if he understand english! Lol!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
BritExpat she promised him sex ever nite.. But did she say that it will her every night?
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
I'm just trying to promote harmony amongtst couples..
just a story!
such a weirdo what kind of stories are you looking around for