Grade 11 student found dead
I am referring to the article printed in the Gulf Times dated December 7/ 2011, where a student was found dead in his home. Yes I do understand it could have been other problems however, I see it happening on a daily bases that children of that age and in the growing stages of their lives wanting to take their lives cause they can't cope.
I am referring to the pressures that gets put on them at school by teachers and peer pressure.
I feel, that most teachers have lost contact with the children and it is all about academics and they don't connect with the children. Teachers loading children with work and tests and quizzes and all abt the same subjects. Yes I do understand that we have problems in the schools with discipline however must the better students suffer cause of this?
Having a child in the schools here, it is frightening to see what is happening.
Teachers connect with you kids and develop them holistically and train yourself to see the problems the children are experiencing and do something b4 it is 2 late.
Peer pressure also plays a gr8 part in it, with the bully mentality, children not coming to school and getting good grades at the end of the day. This as well br8 children and they ask them selves is it worth it.
PLEASE LET US AS ADULTS STAND UP AND SAY NO MORE 4 OUR KIDS.
and the failures of the parents are being push to their children not to experience it. ANd yes I agree with those who said that competition with other parent's kids is also a bad factor.
I suppose they want the kids to be doctors and lawyers so they can take care of the then ageing parents....
Well said nomerci!!!!It why they have children after all to full commit to giving their child all that money cannot buy!
Maybe people should put some awareness on the HAPPINESS of children. A happy child will perform to the best of its possibility...and unhappy one will grudgingly bow to the pressure put upon it.
I have read your comments and I have been reading for a while now and just observing. I have a few items which I wish to highlight and that is that parents today are so busy living a life of work,kids,home and Qatar offers an opportunity for parents not to stress about the safety of their children going out on their own as they would back in their home countries.So parents often make friends and socialise more allowing them the break they need,however, the danger is that parents are spending less time with their children than before.
No more conversations, they children are off in their rooms on their mobiles, internet or who knows what and parents just accept that they are ok.
It is the duty of parents to make them a part of their children's lives and in that way they will pick up on tell tale signs that something is amiss. However, with the lifestyle in the middle east that is lost to personal pleasures and parents wanting more for themselves.So why did they have children in the first place? Face it is is a lifetime responsibility.
School does not afford children a place to express themselves or even allow for periods where students can be given an opportunity to deal with puberty---its a taboo discussion in schools and teachers are afraid to even broach the subject for fear of parental problems.
Pupils need opportunities like youth leagues, youth gatherings which enable them to speak out without the fear of repercussions and together they will be able to support each other and notify adults available to assist with problems which they are not able too. Teachers are so busy getting through their work they dont or rather are not allowed to build lasting relationships with students and the behaviour issues make it virtually impossible for some to handle. Students are fragile and they know instinctively when someone cares or is just saying so,however, parents say things just because they can so children are satisfied with negative attention because its something(half a loaf is better than nothing). The children need to be taught those skills at home not at school and should have the support of all who play an active role in their lives. It is not the duty of the teachers to teach children to pace themselves and ensure that they are holistically developed enough to handle the work load( principles of human development). We need not blame and shame but make a positive change in our attitudes to be an active player in the lives of the children of this world. They are going to be responsible for looking after us at some point and would not want them to be lost.
I'm with Brit and Mimi.
Pressuring your kids to be doctors and engineers and lawyers when they are in fact just 'average' is the most damaging thing you could possibly do.
Let kids find their own way in life, lest they end up like this poor soul.
And in case there is any doubt... yes, I blame the parents, not the school.
AAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! I'm agreeing with Miss Mimi :O(
Yes I agree the point that I was really trying to get across and yes did not highlight it to the extent that I shud have.
Have teachers in the schools that our kids go to have that ability and do they develope our kids holistically or just too a certain extent?
I'm sorry, but teachers are supposed to teach kids what they need to know to prepare them for the future, not pamper them. Tests, homework, etc, are all part of going to school. It's the family that puts pressure on children to preform well and makes children scared if they fail. Not the teachers.
While teachers should be trained to see the warning signs of depression, at the end of the day it's the family that has to show the child that failing isn't the end of the world.
Condolences to the family, may his soul rest in peace.
bound to implement the syllabus as prepared by the school administrations.
I was once a college instructor and we need to abide by the syllabus and lesson plan that we make which are submitted to our supervisors/Dean for monitoring the quality of teaching being implemented.
But I agree with you that parents have a greater role n monitoring their children and if in their judgment, too much pressure are place on their children by the school curriculum, then they can always have a dialogue with the school.
MAybe the problem is in the child itself.
Condolence to the family!
Facts I have straight, it is the ability of teachers and no I am not referring to all teachers, that has no ability to carry the info across to the children due to language, cultural or social back grounds...Owners r blind to the fact of the childrens cry 4 help.
A Curriculum has been adopted or shall I say forced down the throats of running bodies and no it is not the best.
Yes family values play a role and peers pressure does wonders 2 kids..however and I am assuming tht u teach I do apologise if I am wrong, so u excluding TEACHERS from this.
It is like a teacher said to a child 1 day I don't care abt any of the other subjects you will just do wht u told and if u don't get the notes from the board don't make your problems mine...mmmm interesting.
Point taken however, i say again it is not abt the writting it is abt the children nd if u feel u wanna crit on things then crit all the short hand stuff.
Moving along.
to flor1212,
Your words - my my my do not have any sense. You should write clearly.
feel sorry for the parents. may god give them strength.
May he rest in peace. The inability to cope comes from family and peer pressure - the need to compete.
The Opening Poster needs to get his facts right.
Teachers do not set the curriculum, they implement it. If you are going to go on a rant then it should be directed at
a) The government with state schools
b) Owners with private schools
The poor child, may his soul RIP.
be conveyed properly, write properly. You are addressing your post to adult people, not to children. Our concern are the children so let's be responsible even in conveying our message.
Anyway, I rest my case. I just pointed my observation, nothing bad intent. It's a constructive criticism if you may call it! Good evening!
If u have children take away there ph's cause this is the language they speak...FIFO
The issue is not abt gr8 nd br8, it is abt the kids, have u nothing 2 say abt tht....
pointing to a specific word or words. Is that wrong? And if the essence of the post s to be considered, is my view wrong?
I was only explaining my understanding with Asinine negative comments towards me, I have nothing agaibst personally on the OP, only the words I mentioned!
of the post. HAve you check the profile of the poster. Does it rhyme?
I reacted because I did not, in the first glance, what br8 is? gr8 is common, I would assume, but if the OP is so concern about putting pressure, can he just write properly to ease that pressure?
flor - you seem to be resident hot head for the week....
Hey its a public forum, let people speak up. As long as the meaning is clear, I am OK with it. From what I can see, you've clearly understood what the OP meant in this post.
Dude, if I knew where all the English literary geniuses hang out at, I would've given you the link. Sorry ;)
gr8 is great, that's fine, but what br8, bright? I say it is strange not hate!
There was even one thread dedicated to this kind of "trash" writing!
Flor, give it a rest. Rise above Hate
read the same way? Are these the things being taught in schools? My my my!