Yap that's it greentea... you can tell it to your friends carefully, with care.... and of course they will surely understand you... if you both love each other as friends you'll gonna help one another to be a better person...
but i would still prefer to hear the truth esp. coming from my well meaning friends.. and besides, friends who cares knows how to break it to you gently ;)
I agree with Chocoholic. If I have asked for your opinion, yes. Give it to me in all its bitter harshness. However, if I have no asked for it, kindly keep it to yourself.
For me, being true to your friend means you do care for her/him... and that's what i want also for my friends to do to me... Just tell it in a positive way... maybe of course it will gonna hurt but just dont be direct to the point... you can just give him some clues or make yourself as an example for him/her to be aware of the truth...
Friends will tell you the truth in a caring way, and they'll also know when telling the truth might not be the best thing for you, and rather being their for you is.
What you need to watch out for is "friends" who tell you the "truth" for their own benefit and then tell the "truth" to everyone behind their back to make them look like a good person, when they aren't.
well, the truth hurts sometimes, but the truth shall set you free... and besides, your friends tell you the truth because they care for you, otherwise, they just don't tell you anything...
Absolute truth does not exist. Fanatics and communists had claimed and failed in the past. We all carry our truth with us. Care is something which is very hard to find, but it exists.
Dracula, no matter what the situation is, it is always better to tell the truth. One can do this in a tactful fashion. It may be difficult at the time, but it will pay n the long run.
rishimba, you are 100% right , most people do not want to know the truth. If the truth is told to them, even with the intent to help them get better, the person telling them the truth is called all kinds of ugly names and is ostracized.
Thing is, I don't care...I do tell the truth, no matter what.
I believe that , as I said before, only the truth can make us better people. I try...if they don't want to listen it is not my fault.
jaryz, there is a difference between what we want to listen and what we think we should listen..
especially when it comes to our shortcomings, we really dont want to listen to such weaknesses about ourselves from others..but we all say that we want to know about them from others..
the fact is, people dont want to listen to the truth about themselves if its bitter to swallow..
all who have answered 'truth' are living in such a denial mode that they are fooling themselves..
just for the sake of argument, if i say to an ugly girl that she is ugly and she will remain ugly even if she tries out loads of make-up on her face...will she like it?
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Yap that's it greentea... you can tell it to your friends carefully, with care.... and of course they will surely understand you... if you both love each other as friends you'll gonna help one another to be a better person...
but i would still prefer to hear the truth esp. coming from my well meaning friends.. and besides, friends who cares knows how to break it to you gently ;)
I agree with Chocoholic. If I have asked for your opinion, yes. Give it to me in all its bitter harshness. However, if I have no asked for it, kindly keep it to yourself.
For me, being true to your friend means you do care for her/him... and that's what i want also for my friends to do to me... Just tell it in a positive way... maybe of course it will gonna hurt but just dont be direct to the point... you can just give him some clues or make yourself as an example for him/her to be aware of the truth...
A friend will help you move your furniture.
A True Friend will help you move the Bodies!
Sometimes being a friend means just keeping your mouth shut.
Padre? What point? Lol!
good point, Olive!
Friends will tell you the truth in a caring way, and they'll also know when telling the truth might not be the best thing for you, and rather being their for you is.
What you need to watch out for is "friends" who tell you the "truth" for their own benefit and then tell the "truth" to everyone behind their back to make them look like a good person, when they aren't.
but in the evening, I'll choose you! You know all the ways at night! C'mon, let's see the aliens! Lol!
again Mallrat?
what's wrong with me? :P
how come many choose TRUTH? Hehehehehe!!!
Me I'll stick to my friend, Mallrat's choice, honesty or care, I choose Mallrat! Lol!!!
can i choose both..good morning
well, the truth hurts sometimes, but the truth shall set you free... and besides, your friends tell you the truth because they care for you, otherwise, they just don't tell you anything...
care can never be true care without honesty.
Dunno her address. Have to check with nomerci.
i dono..let me check again!
you only send the naked girl :)
BTW, do they have room service in the Police hotel?
That is why Drac was lost for a few weeks. Everyone thought he was hibernating in his coffin inside the cave.
last year, nomercy sent a naked girl to my house with a beer in her hand!
...
after 48 hours in the Police Hotel ..i had the beer :P
Absolute truth does not exist. Fanatics and communists had claimed and failed in the past. We all carry our truth with us. Care is something which is very hard to find, but it exists.
lol don't be so honest edifis, take some care of my emotions :-P
Me Uncle? I will plant a lemontree right outside your b/r window. So that he may stalk you!
damn it!!!
No no edifis uncle told me to avoid you.
WK me too...want a beer??
Truth and only truth but it should be told with care..
There WK, now you know which tree to avoid when you are naked!
lemontree I am ugly :(
Dracula. I cannot bring beer and I won't be naked. Then how can I be your friend?
Ahhh Draccy...I really would like to see your face if a girl shows up naked with beer in her hand in front of your door...my guess..you faint!
Honestly, my friend..the true is A BIG FAT NAKED: "Go to Hell" with the beer too!
:)
i like beautiful boys
I can come naked but don't think you are into boys :-P
i ll bring beer
"A real friend would be "...ohhh, common'...
rule#1: bring beer
rule#2: if you're girl: be naked when you bring beer
a real frnd will b honest while carin also... but i prefer care first....
A real friend would be truthful when needed and caring all the time.
most probably yes...at some level...if one never learned is the way to say it, has a mean and shallow level of conversation...atleat
lemontree, its unlikely that even after 20 years of marriage, you would be able to get away by telling some blatant and hurtful truths to your wife..
does it mean your relationship with her is shallow?
acceptability of blunt truth is directly proportional to the depth of relationship
nomerci, yes, we should understand the best intentions of our friends...then again, you have used the word 'should'..
we are not talking about what we 'should'..
most of us are not that elevated and enlightened mentally that we can ignore the 'hurt' and churn out the 'truth'
atleast i am not...i want to listen to the truth which doesnt hurt.
Truth I can find from my enemies, care I can only get from my friends.
rishimba, then again, should a friend not know that you have their best interest at heart and understand, no matter how you say it, you mean well?
Also, some people do not "get it" unless told in no uncertain terms....
I have to say though, by now I have made it a habit to silently walk away. As most times it is not even worth the effort.
nomercy, thats exactly what i am pointing at...if the bitter truth is told with a bit of tact, its better and it works as well...
blatant truth will hurt the person and the friendship will soon get soured..
"TRUTH WILL SET US FREE" even you end up brokenhearted :(
Bingo! :)
Dracula, no matter what the situation is, it is always better to tell the truth. One can do this in a tactful fashion. It may be difficult at the time, but it will pay n the long run.
nomerci
It's better to tell the true BEFORE making a big decision in your life!
Think about you have to marry with someone but you dont love him!
listen....
you can easily tell them "HONESTLY" about it that you don't want to listen about your shortcomings, weaknesses whatsoever :)
rishimba, you are 100% right , most people do not want to know the truth. If the truth is told to them, even with the intent to help them get better, the person telling them the truth is called all kinds of ugly names and is ostracized.
Thing is, I don't care...I do tell the truth, no matter what.
I believe that , as I said before, only the truth can make us better people. I try...if they don't want to listen it is not my fault.
Vampires Version:
"is it not half-living in the denial mode?"
jaryz, there is a difference between what we want to listen and what we think we should listen..
especially when it comes to our shortcomings, we really dont want to listen to such weaknesses about ourselves from others..but we all say that we want to know about them from others..
is it not living in the denial mode?
if drac try,he will end up in the same hospital but this time in ICU...lolsss
In fact...SHE told me: "wow, you are so thin!"
:(
see no one is telling true
Honesty. Holding truth to someone you care is like stabbing him at the back.
Drac can you tell a fat girl "wow, you are so thin!". Try it next time.
WK, i am waiting to hear some aggresive replies from the girls above..:)
Last time when I did...I spent nearly 2 weeks to Hamad Hospital!
She was a FAT one! :(
truth = denial .... how????
rishi you can call a fat guy fat but be careful around fat girls ;-)
yes, I can!
the fact is, people dont want to listen to the truth about themselves if its bitter to swallow..
all who have answered 'truth' are living in such a denial mode that they are fooling themselves..
just for the sake of argument, if i say to an ugly girl that she is ugly and she will remain ugly even if she tries out loads of make-up on her face...will she like it?
i cant call a fat guy fat....can i?
care is better because TURE can not find here
Brutal honesty
it is better to know the truth earlier than live in a lie forever...
Truth!
Naked one: with good and bad parts of it!
I prefer truth, as only truth gives us the opportunity to better ourselves.