Marriage and Marriage and Marriage
By Straight Arrow •
I have noticed the threads on marriage and love, it seems some of us are having difficulties in understanding some key concepts of love and marriage and because of one failure case some people thinks that love hurts and marriage is bad.
So I invite you guys to put here some difficulties you have faced in your marriage life and how you got over it so others benifit from your experience and remember if you help others tomorrow others will help you without any interest and here I put a very good websit which I hope you will go throught it and benifit from it.
http://www.smartmarriages.com/index.html
Please keep it a nice debate and civilzed one.
people should realise that marriage is not the end of the journey and that their life partner is a co-passenger in their onward journey...a co-passenger who joins you to make ur journey more enjoyable.always keep ur focus on the journey and enjoy the sights and sounds on the way,alongwith ur co-passenger.
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
is an experience ... and ev1 has their own !
I don't think one can set a standard procedure for a 'happy married life' for others to follow ..
besides, something that may b easy for u to say may not b easy for others to implement...
I am the one getting corrupted here, not them :(
**** Aal Izz Well****
Ha ha! Serves you right, leave those innocent girls alone, they don't need to be corrupted by you ;-)
*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****
girls are not to be compared to car salesmen!
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Snessy I spent the whole weekend looking at girls. Everytime I had the cheek to ask them for their phone number, I was completely ignored :(
How great is it to be a man here ;)
**** Aal Izz Well****
yeah,they think we are too technologically challenged to be even speaking in the language called 'automobile'....grrr!
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Right, so we spent the whole weekend looking at cars, went to nearly every flipping showroom in Doha. Everytime, I had the cheek to ask the salesman a question about the car, I was completely ignored! How great it is to be a woman here!!
*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****
it's sad that women like us are made that often,eh olive?if it had been so,the world would have been such a nice place to live in ;-) LOL
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
What snessy! That was sarcasm! And here I was going to follow your advice to the letter. :P
"We submit to the majority because we have to. But we are not compelled to call our attitude of subjection a posture of respect." Ambrose Bierce
poor you,snessy!sarcasm is not widely understood these days....and then they call us dumb!......duh!
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Beastheartman bro I no Islam very well n I love it
even I m a Muslim bro that is not my comment it's my signature line
which is copied and pasted from alexa's comment( originally it was alexa's comment)
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There are good people in this world, and they are not ONLY Muslims, you know. Geez.(last comments by alexa when she left Qiving)
no no and no drmana
wife is not my slave its my wife, sistre,mother, mother of my children,my school at home its my lifeeeeeeee and my love that is my wife in islammmmmmm
if the time of the first expires, then you can love another. If you need a complimentary one, make sure the first one would not notice or even get a haunch! lol!!!
"Why is my PM access blocked?"
LOL ghazalz & Shanawazt, I intend on following your rules too, I WILL be the perfect wife. Although, my hubby will hate being married to a robot :-)
*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****
as your comment by aleax--- i am with you that all muslim is not good ----- but ISLAM is the best --- try to know about Islam -- inshallah then u will be better then all
Significances of the prayers.
Fajar – increases the complexion or noor,
Zohar – increases Income,
Asar – Improves health,
Maghrib – good future 4 u r children,
Esha – peaceful sleep.
Creation of the brain is a charm and not the phrase coming into it
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There are good people in this world, and they are not ONLY Muslims, you know. Geez.(last comments by alexa when she left Qiving)
Shana I agree :P especially on these two :
your answer always should be a'yes',( yeah don't embarres ur self by reveling ur actual intelligence level)
* never mention his mistakes,( because marrying u was the biggest mistake))
Aahh...Some times explanation of every sentence ruins the charm of the actual phrase.
Here are few of my extension and not additions
* always walk 2 steps behind your husband,( yeah if u spend 2 hrs on the dressing table than this is possible)
* never look him in the eye,(how could u if u put up a 2 kilo makeup on the upper eye lid)
* never answer back,( bcos it always irrelevent to the topic )
* always have dinner on the table for when he gets home& * always put out when HE wants it!!
( it's not a tough job to rearrange a days old food on the dinner table)...and...
* your answer always should be a'yes',( yeah don't embarres ur self by reveling ur actual intelligence level)
* never mention his mistakes,( because marrying u was the biggest mistake))
* always obey his rulings,( which u forced him to accept b4 getting married to u)
* think as he thinks,( coz he is the only one with brains and not u)
* don't react as he reacts,( coz its a man's job to thrust and u wont enjoy if u react like him )
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There are good people in this world, and they are not ONLY Muslims, you know. Geez.(last comments by alexa when she left Qiving)
Are people talking here about a wife or a slave..hmmmmmm. A good husband would never want his wife to be his slave but a partner instead.
ghazalz good wife :D
Well said snessy,
* always walk 2 steps behind your husband,
* never look him in the eye,
* never answer back,
* always have dinner on the table for when he gets home& * always put out when HE wants it!!
...and...
* your answer always should be a'yes',
* never mention his mistakes,
* always obey his rulings,
* think as he thinks,
* don't react as he reacts,
...
You're all Welcome to add more!
Hhhmmmmm, I think some may have NOT detected the sarcasm in my post :-)
*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****
The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's & two PC's!
The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!
time(!), communication and actually being interested in what your spouse has to say. being loving for no reason at all, physical intimacy, honesty, patience, understanding, what else? these sounds cliche, but true
please do not mintion your secret details but only general.
For example one time she was upset because I always come late from work but then I decided to come earlier in two days of the week and took her for a nice dinner, something like that.
I started avoiding rude words, guys please list some good advices so others benifit as much as possible.
Significances of the prayers.
Fajar – increases the complexion or noor,
Zohar – increases Income,
Asar – Improves health,
Maghrib – good future 4 u r children,
Esha – peaceful sleep.
Olive, I can't believe I missed that! He is only human, after all :-)
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That's the problem snessy, if he got it whenever he wanted he wouldn't go to work!
"We submit to the majority because we have to. But we are not compelled to call our attitude of subjection a posture of respect." Ambrose Bierce
Comeon ladies.. Maybe the guy has changed his point of view.. Atleast give him a chance....
**** Aal Izz Well****
Olive, dinner should have been made before he gets home from a long hard day at work. You've got alot to learn if you're going to make a good wife, lol ;-)
*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****
But if I always put out when my husband wanted it I wouldn't be able to get dinner on the table. :P
"We submit to the majority because we have to. But we are not compelled to call our attitude of subjection a posture of respect." Ambrose Bierce
LOL Olive/SS, always walk 2 steps behind your husband, never look him in the eye, never answer back, always have dinner on the table for when he gets home and always put out when HE wants it!!
*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****
It's getting quite dull being told what horrible women we are all the time isn't it?
"We submit to the majority because we have to. But we are not compelled to call our attitude of subjection a posture of respect." Ambrose Bierce
rms...took a temporary hiatus.FS will tell u all about it.and ur book....he he!didn't find it.looks like most of my friends don't have it either.
olive....as usual,eh?i'm getting sick of such threads now.
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Why do I think this is going to turn into a thread saying women should be subordinate in a marriage?
"We submit to the majority because we have to. But we are not compelled to call our attitude of subjection a posture of respect." Ambrose Bierce
I'm good. Where wer you all these days?
Where is my book? :X
:P
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tEaCh Me RulEs I'lL tEaCh YoU hOw To BrEaK iT -rMs!
good heavens!u still aren't finished with ur sermons?? :-o
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah`s Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
In light of the above guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) two things or acts might help you in your battle to fight this severe temptation:
1. if you are able to marry, then marry; and/or,
2. voluntary fasting; for fasting diminishes one’s sexual desires.
Significances of the prayers.
Fajar – increases the complexion or noor,
Zohar – increases Income,
Asar – Improves health,
Maghrib – good future 4 u r children,
Esha – peaceful sleep.
In my honest opinion;
Different strokes for different folks.
hey thanks,man!how have u been?
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Significances of the prayers.
Fajar – increases the complexion or noor,
Zohar – increases Income,
Asar – Improves health,
Maghrib – good future 4 u r children,
Esha – peaceful sleep.
Welcome back saggi!! ;)
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tEaCh Me RulEs I'lL tEaCh YoU hOw To BrEaK iT -rMs!
people have always been apprehensive of taking major risks and sharing one's life with a stranger is certainly one according to many people.so they just talk and talk about it....in an attempt to seek answers for the questions within themselves.
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor