To married couples who met thru SMS/chat
By heero_yuy2 •
Once you got yourselves in one room or shelter or got a newly-born kid after you got married...
...did you miss those days when you spent so much time and money sending SMS messages or chatting each other on a private chatroom? Did the 'messages' you receive from one another change when you both tied the knot? Does it still feel the same like before you were using your mobile phone or an internet when you're now sleeping in one bed?
Smiles...
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wonderingearthl.. Well said..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
"cyberspace" or "mobilespace" relationship remains effective for couple who are on a long distance realtionship for whatever reasons as they need to communicate important domestic issues like bills, etc. and so is romantic issues. But if you mean the high of romantic bliss prior to tying the knot may no longer be as exciting and electric as it was. for whatever reason, i just simply dont know. Purely human i guess... couples tend to be more relax i guess. I call it RELAX when you dont have to get too psyche into this giddy giddy sweety sweety tweetams like you were. this does not mean your affection is lessen, this is just being RELAX and i love it simply like that.
Browsing private messages of the other...? My sentiment says.. better not do this. Much as i trust myself and my better half, i better not know. This is so much easier than carrying emotional baggage that would utlimately destroy both of you. The bottom line is you have each other in the end after all those years of wondering who is THE ONE. I'd be fine to think that is US who are made for each other.
And how about those messages lying in there from others that you should have not seen/read....? Well....For the new couples, this could be a transition time. Give your partner a break/time to get this situation reach its end. Soon it will be am sure if he cares.. if both care. But if this does not end and still he is taking his sweet time fooling around under you nose and you knew it... just KILL HIM! (jokes! jokes!)
Marriage is too fragile to handle. Be considerate on its sensitivity.
Long live marriage relationship!
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Actually I posed the questions just to know whether the cyberspace/mobilespace relationships are that effective and I wonder if the 'addictions' lessen (seems SMS/chat is the "new marijuana" these days) or not when both got married...or whether the insecurities come in after browsing each other's "private messages" on each other's mobile or username.
Sorry. I'm a bit of an old-school guy.
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The Dude may b ur experience or wat so eva makes u say dis but it depends on an individual how he wan spend his life...its not dis that you met someone at cyber & its for sure gona happen that he/she will cheat on u:)...its even possible if u see a person physically n den bad ppl r every where...:)
NEVER GET MARRIED!!!!!
Especially not with somebody you've met in CYBERSPACE!!!
Maximum a 'roll in the haystack'... NO MORE....
Sure you always have your way overcoming arguments... Hmmm... let me see if you could even UNDERCOME this. LOL ... ROFL...
Cheers! Lovely afternoon guys!
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Ok there's a big difference between my stinking socks and her "soiled" undies....i know i have an argument written down here somewhere i just cant seem to find it. Let me get back to you on that.
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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the bottom line is you are ready and willing to embrace these changes.
Wish you lovelier marriage life!
cheers!
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Wonderingearthl.. It is experience ..:)
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Very sensible of you!
cheers!
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the together thing but i do agree that togetherness can be too chocking especially when you married the wrong person. Marriage should be heavenly, the ultimate in human social life but if the marriage is not Made in Heaven, this is misery.
But then... pls Smoke... park your socks properly. You would never want the soiled undies of your wife hanging around no matter how sexy they are! Ja?
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Smokey..
Yes before marriage it's all hunky dory. but like you correctly pointed out that once you start sharing the Personal Space.. That is where it really becomes a challenge. Living alone for so long, doing what you like then, one day you get maaried and your world is turned up side down.
Before even in heap of clothes you know where you left your socks, now even in an organised shelf of washed/iron clothes you can't find where your underwear is.
It is all about adjusting to this transformation, some do it well some don't, This has nothing to do with how much you love your partner, but is how much you are willing to give up and compromise on your personal space.
So the final thought's on a Happy Marriage is the, ability to manage someone else in your Personal Space.
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Aye Aye for that Ukeng..now i shall tell mommy to find me a dumb bride...if she's blind and deaf will be added perks i'll accept as dowry :)
The way i see it is we all pretend to be someone else before marriage, we might argue, hell no i am what i am when i'm with my girlfriend but then when you go back home and your all alone THAT IS who u are. When that personal space is then taken over to be shared by your wife thats when everyone needs to adjust to each other. I can spend hours online chatting, playing games, watching whatever movies i want to watch etc but when the wife comes its all "together" time movies that both should like to watch. Heck if my socks are lying around the house thats exactly where i want it to be woman!
Over to you Ukeng :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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wonderingearthl...wrote.."But oftentimes, it is always men who would complain... "why is smaking love lesser during marriage?"
Have you ever heard the word Nagging Wife? No wonder the Husband's become selective listners..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Sure there are changes... some gets nasty, some gets sweeter. However you may look at these changes, they are bound to happen. Couples may become less emotionally & physically demonstrative but this is because they are more at home with themselves, more secured with each other and the hard work of chasing after the sweet moments to please the other half becomes less which is more comforting.
But oftentimes, it is always men who would complain... "why is smaking love lesser during marriage?"
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Successful marriage is falling in love again and again....with the same person over the years...
dEV,
No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying.
Yeps i agree with you KSA we need to send Mrs Khanan a daily report of his QL activities and special invitation card for QL gatherings that has to be signed by his wife giving him written permission to leave the house. Who knows what lies he tells her at home :P
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Smoke...LOL...ass...threesome...yeah right...!!! You wish dont you...hmmm...RMS stay out of this...this is for me and smoke to settle our LONG time SCORES!!! :P
FS...aaah really...it is indeed for both to argue, agree, adjust and at the end get into bed make love...ooops I went a bit too far ahead...!
Khanan darling...O what are you talking about, you never let your wife say a thing...never bring her out to meet us children...and you're talking about "BOTH PARTNERS" yeah right! For you Both partners are You and the other women on QL!
hi formatted ,
ur hundered percent correcet, one more thing u know that many patner acting each other front of others like good & lovable
And I seen one couple my friend he is always acting like angry man like un adjustable husband ,but he's actullay loves her very much
hahaha.. can i too join to make a foursome ! :D
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rMs..!!
time changes everything, and the feelings is no exemption...
Yeah....
You have to keep the spice in the relation and both partner played an important role in it.
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rMs what are you implying? A threesome with KSA's girlfriends?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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lol smoke 'susan' mary'
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rMs..!!
Difference between Random and Routine spice
Routine Spice is KSA comparing all his gf's to the beauty of the moon.
Random Spice is KSA accidentally calling out susan's name while comparing Mary to the beauty of the moon :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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The problem if the couple take each other for granted things will be difficult..
I do agree ....its a sad fact that nowadays many men are more adjusting than women...:( only if both partners work on their adjustment skills and try to keep the each other happy...it will be very smooth...
Me too , salma mohd ,uknow since 2 years i never feel such changes , its depends the patners
FS.. Thanks for the advice.. Do all of the above things, but like I say they have just become routine.. Nofing special. Too many compromises.
Smokey agree with you, it has to be from both parties. Sometimes one partner does more than the other one and we get used to it and don't expect the same from the other partner..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
NFH you should know better than to think you would be classed into that category. Hell if you were single right now i'd marry you for your body and cookies, shallow of me i know, but hey i'm a no bullshit guy :P
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Smokey...true true...my friend...things cannot be taken into compromise...cos thats the biggest thing that could happen to a relation...two people in a relation NEED to find a HEALTHY HALF WAY MARK...and get their azzes to that mark cos thats like one of the most important things in any discussion, dislikes...and for any relation be it Parent-Child, Husband-Wife, Bro-Sis or even as simple as FRIENDS!!!
And No Relationship can become a ROUTINE, yea it may be RANDOM but not ROUTINE!
FS...your hubby told me the same thing, that YOU HAVE GONE OUT OF SHAPE Too...and told if he had seen this coming he wouldnt have made the mistake in the PAST!...UN-LUCKY HIM!!! :P
You can't teach experience...
KSA yes you do have a point there buddy but again there's a difference between patience and living in denial. When you try to meet someone half way and you see the other person hasnt even made the effort to meet you half way you tell yourself i'll give it another chance, another chance, finally final chance with the hope that things will change but you still end up just there "half way". So where is the spice? Also about compromise, if the partner has to compromises on a lot of things that he/she doesnt like about his/her partner then what really is the point of the relationship?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Your youthful ignorance is showing :-P
Who are you calling FAT???? All women who have been married for 20 years?
Maybe you should ask my hubby how he likes me in lingerie, dude. Hold on while I send him an sms...
grr for some reason i couldnt see my posts but its there now :)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Nowadays there are many ways to keep the cocoons back to shape..lol all you need is money...
UKENGr...just call her a few times from work..and tell her that... off late you love her more than you used to love her...
and when you get back home just hug her and kiss her how you used to do in your initial days...she will start responding in the same way...:)
Smokey...yeah yeah...
But on the other hand...sometimes...it takes patience to ensure spice...and o yeah sure you're spot on with the NO COMPROMISE thing...it is not about getting what you want end of the day, it is about meeting at a common point which is quite required in any relation, be it Wife-Husband, Parent-Child, and even FRIENDS!!! Half-way mark is something that we dont Often see due to which we end up having major fights ey boy...!
And FS...yeah agreed...YOU ARE SO NOT IN THE SAME SHAPE...even your hubby was telling me this the other day, if only for once I'd realized this was coming in the future, I wouldn't have let THAT happen in the PAST! Now its TOOOOOO LATE!!! :P
thats exactly our point now FS MEN DONT CHANGE we always remain sexy, the older the better. Women on the other hand, hmmmm how can i put this delicately without getting sandals on my head, err you know how the "worm" goes into the cocoon then 9 months later a beautiful butterfly is emerges.. no one then cares about the "cocoon" :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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FS so what's the secret.. Salma refuses to disclose it..
What is the one tip you would offer..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Thanks lovern_cute for motivating us with those lips :P
UKeng pot belly will come after the wife comes (sigh)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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UKeng..lol
Beg to differ... Even after a decade of marriage...I find my hubby as handsome and loving as the first day we met...still full of spice..lol he is still in the same weeight....though I am not in the same shape as I was..lol
Keep posting. I love to read all the comments.
You need a pot belly to go with that shiny head..:)
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Every one knows about Post Natal depression. Is there any such thing called as Post Marriage depression?
Man and wife start putting on weight, the spice goes out of the window, every thing just routine and compromise..:)
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Eggactly Ukeng i'm already starting to see my hair fall off thinking about marriage. pretty soon we will look like twins..only me the more handsome one :)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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haha, Salma,,, your husband should answer this...!! at times you never know whats under the veil..!!
First day you eat an apple, you love it.
Next day again you eat apple, you like it.
Third day also you eat apple, you find it ok.
Fourth day you eat apple, coz you are requested to.
Fifth day only when you are forced.
Sixth day,,,WILL YOU REALLY EAT IT AGAIN???!!
YOU WOULD JUMP TO SOMETHING ELSE FOR A CHANGE..!!! :D
""Marriage is a beautiful Evil""
lolzz.. Iam just kidding mates..I wish everyone a successful married life. :)
btw, its mandatory for a wife to maintain her body language & dressing sense even after marriage which is rarely seen in many Indians & Pakis.
~noms~
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"Before God we are all equally wise ' and equally foolish" - Albert Einstein
:O its sometng Personel:P
and then Salma disappeared??
yes salma tell us how ;p
'SO DARK THE CON OF MAN'
So Salma tell us how do you keep the spice in the relationship going? Has it changed after marriage and kids?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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hahaha..y KSarat:(
Y u sayin dat:P
Relax KSA we both know Smoke is gonna remain sexy even after retirement ;)
Its funny you should say something about keeping the spice in the relationship going. But then there is a difference between keeping the spice and just doing compromise, where just one person tries to make the other person happy coz they are afraid of losing them. :P
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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extreme can mean a lot of things smoke, now settle down :) having kids can really bloat up our wives (for some i think) enroll your wife in Fitness First LOL ;p
'SO DARK THE CON OF MAN'
You have a BETTER HALF and KIDS TOOOO!!!
Did I wake up to a Shocking day of QL...
DARUDE WAS BORN TODAY,
SALMA HAS A BETTER HALF
SALMA HAS KIDS TOOO!!!
What Next... :)
Sometimes, it doesn't really need to go to Marriage, a couple MUST ensure to keep the spice going...
When you meet thru sms / chat...the interest and enthusiasm levels are more to make two humans as one...but once the one is done, then each starts taking the other for GRANTED (BIGGEST MISTAKE IN ANY RELATION)...and then that starts the downslide...!
So whilst it is upto us to ensure spice continues...it also doesn't help that things become a routine...so try not to make a routine of your relationship...!
And Smoke...COOK orite...Clean Ok...and the other one...hmmmmm...dont you think you're asking for a touch too much...! Or maybe You could fulfill this for YOUR WIFE while she does the other two...what say... :P
Extreme?? if the women can stay in shape all those years before marriage why dont they keep it up after? Dont give me excuses of having kids thats just an old fat wives tale told to young brides to cover up their own fatty arses! :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Yes smokey i met my better half through Net:)
smoke, don't be depressed people like us getting married sure do have expectations that the spouse should be this or that, it's healthy but if you take it to the extreme well that's depressing. the first two expectations you have for your wife is attainable but the third one is way too extreme, that's where you will be surely depressed ;p
'SO DARK THE CON OF MAN'
So Heero what's your story?
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HE WHO DARES WINS
SomewereNdmiddle dont depress me now man, i just hope my wife can COOK thats the only expectation i have from her, oh and clean too...oh and look sexy in lingerie 20 years from whenever we get married :P Is that asking too much??
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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everything changes after because the expectations are so high and then comes regret as those expectations are not met which should not be the case.
'SO DARK THE CON OF MAN'
Salmamohd you met your better half through sms and chat?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Nothing changes :)
I guess you should know how to keep things same:)Me n my partner never feel the change & then its much more better after you get married & have kids!
Everything changes after marriage my friend, doesnt matter how they met. Marriage is a sweet term for WAR!
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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