Neither of you should have the upper hand or think they are more important than the other. Respect, love and most of all, open conversation are all necessities...All of this I've learned in my 28 years of marriage.
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the main difference between a dog and man.
well, as the status quo of marriage right now?!!! in order to save or having a successful marriage, apart of loving one another... you should be blind and Deaf!!! lol!
(as if i've been married :0)
"People Think of changing the world but no one think of changing himself first" ....
successful marriage is based on "blinded love". My wife accepts me for what i am, hence, she's blind. you have to accept everything from the nagging to the farting.
" I was born intelligent, but education ruined me..."
sceret of successful marriage is that when one is speaking the other should only listen, and replying back can only lead to arguments. Well thats my tried and tested method..lol
respected ghazal u have been reading comments everybody has right to comment in his own way if someone comment according to verses of quran its his knowledge we should respect this and if someone dont like he should go to other comment,for u if lady i advice if u want to make place in your husband heart enter from his stomach .
i dont understand why some people always quote their holy book when answering posts here in QL? don't they have a mind on their own? as what PM suggested before in another thread, they should just provide us a link instead of hogging the space by their copy-paste replies.
TreuFriend, kudos to you for remaining civil. I will just say that I agree that the Quran (and Bible, and the others) probably have lots of good teachings which people would do well to follow. But please try to bear in mind that we don't all consider these books to be perfect. You should consider this when replying to people.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2, Surah Baqarah aayat 185:"
Ramadan is the month in which the Quran was sent down: this Book is a perfect guidance for mankind and consists of CLEAR teachings which show the right way and are a Criterion of the Truth and falsehood."
Well I guess u have to pay attention to a set of things before deciding that this man or woman is a valid partner for long term. So u has to ask urself the following:
-Does He/she really tempt me sexually, and do I find his/her physical appearance fitting my fantasies to at least 80%?
-Exploring the other part needs to judge whether u can meet them or not, with concentration on the bed relation as it's the 90% breaker of all marriages by leading to misery of cheating...etc?
-Does he/she really likes my smell, and the way I dress?
-Can we really enjoy a long conversation all or most of the time?
-Would I be satisfied with the kind of life style he/she is offering as for money, relatives, social standards, clean environment...etc, or I need more?
-And finally the golden rule: Never make a baby before at least one and half years of marriage to make sure that this partner is a long term material.
Those actually the things I learned from my personal experiences and hope would be of a use.
Wherever u will say, wherever u will do, your way should be as per Allah and his Prophet (saws) way ---- that what I am doing if the question general Or any
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.106 Narrated by Hadrat Ali ibn Abi Taalib (r.a.)
The Prophet (saws) said, "Do not tell a lie against me, for whoever tells a lie against me (intentionally) then he will surely enter the Hell-fire."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.109 Narrated by Salama
I heard the Prophet (saws) saying, "Whoever (intentionally) ascribes to me what I have not said, then (surely) let him occupy his seat in Hell-fire."
you r trying 2 miss-lead da sbjct,u r answers r based on religion,as u know all of us here r frm dfrnt religion(my self muslim),so pls try to avoid such comments.as u know it was a general question.
CARING EACH OTHERS and RESPECT EACH OTHERS.... IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS...AND IF YOU DO THIS LOVE WILL BE THERE AUTOMATICALLY...BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS BOTH SHALL UNDERSTAND THE REAL MEANING OF "CARING" AND "RESPECTING"
"Everyone of you is a guardian and everyone of you is responsible (for those under your ward). A ruler is a guardian and is responsible (for his subjects); a man is a guardian of his family and responsible (for them); a wife is a guardian of her husband`s house and she is responsible (for it), a slave is a guardian of his master`s property and is responsible (for that). Beware! All of you are guardians and are responsible (for those your wards)."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.116 Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah`s Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
In return for everything the man does for her, the wife is duty bound in Islam to obey her husband in every single ‘lawful’ command of his; such is the reward of this obedience to lawful commands of her husband, that if a believing woman worships Allah Subhanah as He deserves to be worshipped and obeys her husband, she may enter any of the gates of Paradise she wishes!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."
While doing anything we all have to check (Quran & Hadith) what Allah and his Messenger (saws) said about because your life should be as per Allah and his Messenger (saws) not as per our Wish.
Mullah and not Mullah this is not main part of life everyone has to go as per Quran & Hadith and his Messenger (saws) way of life
TrueFriend - DUDE seriously do u know anything ON YOUR OWN besides quoting everything from the Quran? i've seen most of your replies on every topic is just you quoting verses from the Quran! what are u a Mullah?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said: ‘a believing man should not hate a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another
My dear and beloved brother/sister, the above are the direct answers according to Islamic Law regarding the prescribed duties and responsibilities of a husband in marriage; but the sacred institution of marriage in Islam is not a union between two people who compete against each other, but rather a marriage in Islam is a sacred union between two people who complement each other in their partnership, who develop and maintain the love and mercy between them that Allah Subhanah has created for them in their marriage, and strive together as a team to live a life of peace, harmony and tranquility under the fear and guidance of Allah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rome verse 21:
21 And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
If one truly seeks guidance in one’s marriage, there is no better recipe for peace, harmony and tranquility in one’s relationship with one’s spouse in marriage than the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
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LOVE, TRUST, RESPECT and MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING...
are the essense for a strong deeper realtionship called Marriage.
Blind love:)
Let HER speak and HE listen.....this is the only secret
Just trust the choice you made.
My thoughts are my own, but I doubt my Mum would agree with some of them.
Isn't it cooperation and tolerance??
Unconditional LOVE and TRUST.......rest how you manage day to day life.
Less expectations, believe in giving and above all Mutual understanding
your attention and positive contribution is must otherwise, you are giving a wrong signal that not paying attention.
Kindness.
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"There's this thing called being so open-minded your brains drop out". - Richard Dawkins
ghazalz... why are you right? hwhheehe it all sums up of 'MARTYR!!!!' :)
People Think of changing the world but no one think of changing himself first" ....
Neither of you should have the upper hand or think they are more important than the other. Respect, love and most of all, open conversation are all necessities...All of this I've learned in my 28 years of marriage.
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the main difference between a dog and man.
-Mark Twain-
marriage? Never argue about sex, money or kids. Trust and respect are the binders.
My thoughts are my own, but I doubt my Mum would agree with some of them.
Kathrina! besides love, I would like to add one more thing in your opinion...."you should be blind and Deaf"
You should be blind,deaf & dumb!
well, as the status quo of marriage right now?!!! in order to save or having a successful marriage, apart of loving one another... you should be blind and Deaf!!! lol!
(as if i've been married :0)
"People Think of changing the world but no one think of changing himself first" ....
i believe trust and love :)
is that each partner always try to give 100%, and not just 50%, expecting the other to give the other 50%.
lower your expectation, double your work (as in commitment, love, sacrifice, communication....) whatever it takes
Love by heart and true. Dont flirt Simply to others Girls If you really loves one. Go for until bad or good response. True loves always wins.
big secret of successfull marriage is stay out of each other,s way.
successful marriage is based on "blinded love". My wife accepts me for what i am, hence, she's blind. you have to accept everything from the nagging to the farting.
" I was born intelligent, but education ruined me..."
sceret of successful marriage is that when one is speaking the other should only listen, and replying back can only lead to arguments. Well thats my tried and tested method..lol
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HE WHO DARES WINS
only FAITH....
DISTANCES CN BE COVERED WITH LOVE
GOD shall not drop acid so early He made this beautiful world HE shall not ruin this so early,so dont wait for 9 months keep loving
Both of you get drunk over night and make love all night..
The final results will be at the end of nine month's.
If God dropped acid, would he see people? -- George Carlin
DISTANCES CN BE COVERED WITH LOVE
respected ghazal u have been reading comments everybody has right to comment in his own way if someone comment according to verses of quran its his knowledge we should respect this and if someone dont like he should go to other comment,for u if lady i advice if u want to make place in your husband heart enter from his stomach .
.secret of a successful marriage?
.loving & forgiving...
.
.that's all......
.
Our seceret to long lasting marriage life (in Doha)..
simple, its the DISHWASHER.
lol why was my nice comment removed by Mr. Mod? anyways
anyway, on the topic of successful marriage, love should be numero uno. if there is genuine love, trust, respect and everything else will follow.
mo lang!
i dont understand why some people always quote their holy book when answering posts here in QL? don't they have a mind on their own? as what PM suggested before in another thread, they should just provide us a link instead of hogging the space by their copy-paste replies.
mo lang!
Sorry but it's a secret
TreuFriend, kudos to you for remaining civil. I will just say that I agree that the Quran (and Bible, and the others) probably have lots of good teachings which people would do well to follow. But please try to bear in mind that we don't all consider these books to be perfect. You should consider this when replying to people.
like almost everyone said cos marriage based on a very delicate link which is trust. once you lose that.can,t be same.
There is no wooo secret really.. Just use your common sense.. It's not very different than a friendship.. Whatever happens, work it out and have fun!
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2, Surah Baqarah aayat 185:"
Ramadan is the month in which the Quran was sent down: this Book is a perfect guidance for mankind and consists of CLEAR teachings which show the right way and are a Criterion of the Truth and falsehood."
Help people, the Allah ( God) will help you
well i think its trust each other,love n respect
TrueFriend - did you not understand what itsmeonly said? Not everyone here is Muslim, so your answer doesn't apply universally.
Please try to have some thoughts of your own, rather than constantly quoting the Quran.
Well I guess u have to pay attention to a set of things before deciding that this man or woman is a valid partner for long term. So u has to ask urself the following:
-Does He/she really tempt me sexually, and do I find his/her physical appearance fitting my fantasies to at least 80%?
-Exploring the other part needs to judge whether u can meet them or not, with concentration on the bed relation as it's the 90% breaker of all marriages by leading to misery of cheating...etc?
-Does he/she really likes my smell, and the way I dress?
-Can we really enjoy a long conversation all or most of the time?
-Would I be satisfied with the kind of life style he/she is offering as for money, relatives, social standards, clean environment...etc, or I need more?
-And finally the golden rule: Never make a baby before at least one and half years of marriage to make sure that this partner is a long term material.
Those actually the things I learned from my personal experiences and hope would be of a use.
Thanks for your kind Advice
Wherever u will say, wherever u will do, your way should be as per Allah and his Prophet (saws) way ---- that what I am doing if the question general Or any
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.106 Narrated by Hadrat Ali ibn Abi Taalib (r.a.)
The Prophet (saws) said, "Do not tell a lie against me, for whoever tells a lie against me (intentionally) then he will surely enter the Hell-fire."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.109 Narrated by Salama
I heard the Prophet (saws) saying, "Whoever (intentionally) ascribes to me what I have not said, then (surely) let him occupy his seat in Hell-fire."
Help people, the Allah ( God) will help you
Big Kitchens
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Open communication
Trust
Respect
Love
its TRUST to each others.
sodomy
trufriend,
you r trying 2 miss-lead da sbjct,u r answers r based on religion,as u know all of us here r frm dfrnt religion(my self muslim),so pls try to avoid such comments.as u know it was a general question.
If u reveal the secret...its no more a secret... so, let it be a secret...
~noms~
"Before God we are all equally wise ' and equally foolish" - Albert Einstein
communication, understanding, respect and Love.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
ghazalz, i'm pretty sure its not something just the husband or just the wife has to do, its what BOTH need to do equally :)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
CARING EACH OTHERS and RESPECT EACH OTHERS.... IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS...AND IF YOU DO THIS LOVE WILL BE THERE AUTOMATICALLY...BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS BOTH SHALL UNDERSTAND THE REAL MEANING OF "CARING" AND "RESPECTING"
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
"Everyone of you is a guardian and everyone of you is responsible (for those under your ward). A ruler is a guardian and is responsible (for his subjects); a man is a guardian of his family and responsible (for them); a wife is a guardian of her husband`s house and she is responsible (for it), a slave is a guardian of his master`s property and is responsible (for that). Beware! All of you are guardians and are responsible (for those your wards)."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.116 Narrated by Abdullah bin Umar
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah`s Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
In return for everything the man does for her, the wife is duty bound in Islam to obey her husband in every single ‘lawful’ command of his; such is the reward of this obedience to lawful commands of her husband, that if a believing woman worships Allah Subhanah as He deserves to be worshipped and obeys her husband, she may enter any of the gates of Paradise she wishes!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."
Help people, the Allah ( God) will help you
Well..In your Opinion… Love, Sacrifice, Effort,
Care, Respect, Endurance, Tolerance and of course
some guidance from Qur'an & Sunnah.
Dear all…who has to opt all these strategies? A husband or a wife?
Oh dear truefriend. This thread as just been upgraded from SILLY to RIDICULOUS on the "QL Scale of Pointless Threads".
ROFLMAO, tallg. Sooo rite!
Good one, Smokey.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
yeah wokay Mr. Walking Talking Quran man. :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
While doing anything we all have to check (Quran & Hadith) what Allah and his Messenger (saws) said about because your life should be as per Allah and his Messenger (saws) not as per our Wish.
Mullah and not Mullah this is not main part of life everyone has to go as per Quran & Hadith and his Messenger (saws) way of life
Help people, the Allah ( God) will help you
tallg is right
TrueFriend - DUDE seriously do u know anything ON YOUR OWN besides quoting everything from the Quran? i've seen most of your replies on every topic is just you quoting verses from the Quran! what are u a Mullah?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
nothing...just no thing..believe me...that is why it is called marriage after all..
Sahih Muslim Hadith 3469 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said: ‘a believing man should not hate a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another
My dear and beloved brother/sister, the above are the direct answers according to Islamic Law regarding the prescribed duties and responsibilities of a husband in marriage; but the sacred institution of marriage in Islam is not a union between two people who compete against each other, but rather a marriage in Islam is a sacred union between two people who complement each other in their partnership, who develop and maintain the love and mercy between them that Allah Subhanah has created for them in their marriage, and strive together as a team to live a life of peace, harmony and tranquility under the fear and guidance of Allah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rome verse 21:
21 And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
If one truly seeks guidance in one’s marriage, there is no better recipe for peace, harmony and tranquility in one’s relationship with one’s spouse in marriage than the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Help people, the Allah ( God) will help you
when you can completely blind her in all the hidden things that youve done behind her lols..
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S- Sacrifice
E- Effort
C- Care
R- Respect
E- Endure
T- Tolerate
That is the secret to a good marriage :)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
The secret is not to get married if you still find you need to ask questions like this.
Keep it a secret.
LOVE