WHY????

If the woman and man would be the same then? It is not only women who got blind when they are in love ... also men do .. depending on how honest that man is with you ...

If he is just fooling around, playing with your emotions only ... he won't feel any trouble or problem later ... hunter by nature ... but a bad one too ... will hunt the weak ones only ... True friendship between a man and a woman is really difficult to be something true ... just a myth ...

God create us this way so we would be always needing each other, loving each other to the end .. If I can live my whole life without a woman ... If the woman can live her whole life needing no man ... then? God could've created us only men or women ....

Just the nature of this universe ... God's wisdom always is far behind our ability as humans to understand ... He is always doing the best for us ... so no need to be worry ... What trouble you got, if it is destined to happen then it won't mistake you ... and whatever mistaken you ... it was not meant for you then ...

Meaning ... Bad things happen for a reason, part of your destiny and you can't avoid it ... Bad things happened to others happen also for a reason , don't think that it will happen to you because it happen to them ... it was not just your destiny ..

Sorry for the complicated logic here ... love is so simple and nice, but when it hurts ... it become the most complicated thing ever ... as you would never know how to deal with all of that pain, different mixed emotions that you got ..

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)

I have read all the post above and do not remember who wrote what but, here I go:

First of all Man are different from Women, or should I say women are different from men, whatever, the truth is there. For us to understand a bit more about the difference for men and women I suggest you all read "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus".  It is like we are from 2 different planets. We think different, we act different and our emotions are different. Our reactions are different and our actions are different. The works. It is a good book to read because it will show you some hints about them and how you can correct them. One of the things I read is about asking your hubby to do some thing. Like moving the TV cos it is too heavy for you to carry and you are rearranging the living. You have rearranged the living, but the TV is still, after 2 weeks of asking, sitting in that unsuitable spot. You are getting fed up with the whole issue, but no movement from the hubby. Well, let me tell you. We women tend to ask: "can you move the TV, please". He will say "yes", but no action. You see, in a man's brain you are asking him if he is capable to do it. It is not a direct "order/request" as such. What you should ask him is:"Will you move the TV, please?" 9 out of 10 you will see an immediate reaction.

So ladies and even gentlemen who are interested to leran more aboutthe other half, read the book, and no I do not have shares in the publishing company.

On the other question of the stories I have read above about certain people accepting anything from their partners. It is like the fingers on your hand. We all have 5 fingers, but they are each different and each have a certain usage. On for pointing, one for the ring etc. The same goes for people. We have sadists who like to inflict pain, we have masochists who like to receive pain, there is the narcisistic ones who love them self, the dominates, the doormats etc. All of these have issues with their security/self worth. Either too much or not enough.

When you get in a new relatonship it is easy to pick up on the main character of the profile in which your new mtes fits. Look for these signs. Dont be blind. Look at the body language. See how he/she is with others, pick up on the vibes. 

I could go on about this, but my stomach is calling me and I have to prepare lunch. I will continue this thread later, untill then, Ma'asalama 

Aisha-Taweela

Love knows no reasons...

Loce knows no lies...

Love defies all reasons...

Love has no eyes...

Love in not blind..

it sees...

but it doesnt mind.

"Even if  LOVE is full of thorns, embrace it. For in between those thorns there is a ROSE that's worth all the PAIN."

Srry, Ur right.

Thx for ur comment....

I corrected tht. 

Have A Great Day.....

The second questions answer is "women are made by men's rib."

Thats y they depending on man.

Have A Great Day.....

more like a chiwawa, she'd fit you in a cup if she could.

“They say you can't live without love. Tell them oxygen is more important!.”

- G. House 

I know your wife and she treats you like a lap dog not a hunting dog. 

Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about

No she doesn't I saw her swooning around your feet the other day so happy that she now owns a 4x4 and you wagging tail around her glad she is driving and out ofo your hair lol lol.

QS - 1st go and find a RC wall for that. What I meant was 58 of your gender :)

 I am the ONLY kind.. i am unique! it's impossible to have another 57 of my kind!! Remember that!

Otherwise i'll put all my feelings aside on hold ( i can do it very easy, don't worry!), and smash your head against the wall! GOT  IT??

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CB - My wife treats me like a hunting dog:(

You are such a sheep - how come you get yourself mingled in this conversation??? lol

QS - I am proud to relationsheeeeeep with 58 nos. of your kind (different varity)

from my past experience, I learned that "women are very carefull to choose their pair before they fall in love. And I don't think they are blind or more depended on men.

Woman is much more complicated creature, first of all in emotional way… it’s known… and it’s known that woman is ruled rather by her heart and feelings…

(NOT all, Alexa, and NOT always… coz as I say, every single rule has an exception. )

And nothing wrong by the way with following your feelings, your heart, your emotions, your instinct… That’s why we are WOMEN, that’s how we are different from MEN….and I am proud of it by the way…I am proud of my ability to experience all these deep, sometimes weird, sometimes so sweet, endless  world of emotions…

nothing wrong with it… until it overcomes a common sense… And here, you are right Alexa, some need a therapist to get rid of some fixed ideas..  

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Geeeez. man...as much as one can agree to that, doesnt it work the other way round as well sometimes...LOL..just a thought...mate...

big and loud lol

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You women should think of us men as pet dogs. You love us and forgive us when we make a mess but don't take us too seriously.

Half the time when we upset you or misunderstand you, we are in complete ignorance of what we have done and we don't understand what you are saying to us most of the time either.

Like I said, look at us as pet dogs. 

Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about

lol sg... i dont want to be around when she (if ever she has plans) let go of this relationship  coz if ever.. one phrase she will hear from me.. "told you so!"...honestly, i wont be all arms wide open to cheer her up afterwards, won't even let her cry on my shoulders.....:P

[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

All geared up, for once ths looks like a topic that No Man has Dared to Enter...LOL...

How s everyone doing...

So whos going to get me lunch... m hungry...ooops.. looks like a hijack and i will get run down by these lovely ladies...

I think I tend to agree with you, infatuation makes feeling go haywire and we all are vunerable, it's only when the light of love goes out we all realise how we could have changed things by then it is too late. I don't think women are dependant on men but like the feeling of security having a man around.

thank you I like your words

you dont' passively wait for a prince who is perfect

women are like ribs if you try to amend em they will break....

IVE BEEN BLESSED 4 HAVIN U IN MY LYF, IF I HAD THE CHANCE I WUDN'T HESITATE 2 MAKE U MY WIFE.

i know.but she has to find a way out.to finish it.nobody can do it of her.

just be there for her when she is in pain and suffering.

sooner or later she will wake up.and see.

thats the way of life.

me thinks.

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We are all humans and we all act stupidly from being infatuated with someone from time to time. I don't think there is any difference in how stupidly we can act when we are "in love". Makes no difference whether male or female.

In any event love and being in love are not the same thing.

Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about

sg.. making the best of it...then what?... in the end, what will it bring her, only sorrow... why can't at least woman use their mind and not allow their emotion to get in the way with their decision making :/

[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

sometimes easy,sometimes hard,sometimes a drama,sometimes a soap..

its up on us to make the best of it

:-)

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you tell me QS... i got one friend who is really on the edge of making my black eyes green!!!! coz of this stupid love... even though its wrong...still.. :/ sorry, i want to say a lot of things but don't want to add more insult to what she is undertaking now.. :S really stupid..

[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

i believe woman are more complex then man corne, we woman use feeling/heart lots when make decision, with man they more rational and using brain instead of heart/feeling. both are unique in own way and thats what make woman and man perfect to each other.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

Oye QS! It's not a blue rabbit! It's Psycho Bunny....cute but psycho mwahahah (that's why he's got his arms tied up lol) 

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

hey Cornie - blue rabbit... what's up?

SG.. i might agree or disagree with some stuff, but Alexa is right in one things: they treat us the way we allow them to treat us.. that is it.

you say, you have met wrong guys... that's what happens...certain type of women attracts certain type of the guys.. just try to look into yourself and see why it happens...

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Hey Alexa! I'm good, urself ? How's the gym going ? lol

I totally agree with u, if u set them straight from day one then u'll live a happy life. If u put up with their abuse, then there's no way u can change them after u've willingly let them let u that way.  

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

I don't think we're more complex. We're just different. It's pretty simple, as Alexa said, they will treat u the way u let them. Alot of the times, women are the ones who bring pain onto themselves.  

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

woman what you can say? we are more complex then man in thinking and action.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

maybe i just met the wrong guys.lol.

anyway will keep my eyes open.

maybe i find him soon.

:-)

untill that moment i enjoy my single days.

:-)))

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Amen to that Alexa! You teach them how u want to be treated, if u accept abuse then that's what ur going to get.  

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

why?

of course every woman wants to have one.

:-D

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Is there something called self esteem for such women? I doubt 

Its better to die than being in love with such a disgusting person!

Not that is NOT a woman in love.... it is a woman who needs therapy and help to get out of an abusive relationship...

THIS IS NOT LOVE

Love means skipping round like a princess because you are being treated how you deserve.

stupid but a loving heart can forgive again and again.

i wish her all the best and may she find her peace of mind at least.

:-)

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i will leave it as it is.... just for you!! enjoy it!!  

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Preposterous....its sad to know such women still exist in this world.

amazing gal.

now tell me how many times will you edit this comment lol 

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but sometimes it really overcomes any common sense, and there is no any sane explanation for what women are doing to keep the man close to them... I am not sure, Aisha, men do it as often and selflessly as women. Guys rather tend to leave. Girls tend to use all their sharpness, tricks, dodge to keep the guy. And the girls are the ones who keep sacrificing, sacrificing, and sacrificing for guy’s sake…

I’ve got this lady friend.. OMG! What she is willing to do just to keep her “husband” beside, who by the way divorced her long time ago, but she is not accepting it, keeps considering herself married…

They came to Qatar together few years ago.. .she is the one who makes much more money, and she filled in their villa with nice furniture pretty fast…not to mention, he was bringing the girls to THEIR place all the time.. not to mention that she was looking for him in all Doha’s bars and clubs to bring him, deadly drunk, home.. not to mention that once in a while he used to like to smash her head against the wall…not only that…after all, he robbed her house, loaded all the furniture on the trucks, got all cash that he could get, and run away to his country …so guess what??? She followed him and tried to make up with him…she kept buying different tours to different countries for her and him to entertain him! She kept sending him money every month to his country, as he couldn’t find the job there. He got married somebody else there by that time, she didn’t want to hear about it and kept going to his country and buying lends and houses for  him and herself together…Once they went to Dubai (of course SHE bought  the tickets and booked the hotel).. she just stepped out of the room for a while, and when she came back, she found her “husband” with someone else in bed.. guess what did she do? She pretended that she didn’t see it and left the room!!

After some time, she convinced her “husband” to come back to Qatar for work. As visas for his nationality are blocked completely, you guys cannot imagine what this Lady went through to get at least a Family visa for him. Finally she got it, and he did come here… ALL THE STORY HAS BEEN REPEATED.. he is drunk most of the time, he brings some strangers (mostly female gender) to HER villa, he keeps hurting and hitting her once in a while…. and she keeps supporting him and LOVING HIM…

I could continue.. but what for?... I find it completely insane…

And I don’t think any guy would do anything close to it… The guy would have committed suicide rather than do such crazy stuff…

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the first part is very cool and true.

thank you

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It does happen a lot doesnt it with Women, but trust me it does happen to Men as well, alright have to admit that the world is becoming rather practical these days, so we dont see much of this happening,

But yes, as someone wisely put it, it always gets tough to decide whether this person is THE ONE...bt on a wiser note

To know whether this person is THE ONE, try giving that person space (for this you need brains) and then also give that bit of the element of Love and Trust the combination (for this you need, heart + Soul) and then expect the same back (for this you need to know your damn self and not being blind), ( I would never accept that Love is only about giving, o hell no, you better get it back as well), this way you will find THAT person, and then Love, Life, Marraige, Relation, all that you may say will go on pretty much smooth enough and we can all see each other smiling in this world full of problems, and issues...

Ofcourse, try to maintain that level of transparency and maturity for understanding (this would require YOU AS A WHOLE)...

Damn Corne tht last Para was a killer :P 

Especially for me ! 

Not all men r d same ... Some of us do like to talk about how v feel n stuff to r significant other...  

First of all, God did NOT make us dependent on men, there are plenty of independent women out there who are living without men in their lives. The thing is that everyone wants to be loved and we end up falling in love with the idea of love rather than the person himself. We stay in relationships just because we're too afraid to be on our own or because the situation has become so comfortable that we're too scared to try something new. 

By the way, both men and women can love blindly. I find that when a man really falls in love, he falls WAYYYYYYYY deeper than a woman and it's usually harder for him to recover.  

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sorry to say..but I hate emotional type men...who are very sensitive..lol

I think it is more about insecurity than being blind in love.   Confident women (and men) can be involved in those first heady months of a love affair and still be independent, strong and remain true to themselves.  Most times when I have heard about or witnessed a person being blinded to the real aspects of the person they "love" it is because they are insecure to begin with and/or want very badly to be involved in a relationship.

People start making unreasonable decision when in Love, because they only see the good things from the other persons...and sadly, there are men/women who take advantage if this situation...

i feel that we females must always read their minds.

which is not always an easy thing.

:-/

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The big question you should ask yourself before starting a relation is 

Why should he fall in love with me? cant he find someone from his own country/age/culture etc..etc.. If he dont have a proper answer for these questions then its Bull S**** and not Love.

 Why should he compromise all these ...unless he know you for many years and is genuinely interested in you.  Otherwise he is looking for temporary relation and he never had any intention in marrying you!

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I think there are more emotional men than women. We just don't see it because they don't speak it out. It's a thing they called EGO and for men that's the most important thing 2nd to their "dinga-ling" if you know what I'm talking about.

Men would rather go in to their caves and ponder whereas women voice out their feelings.

“They say you can't live without love. Tell them oxygen is more important!.”

- G. House 

SG....its getting better ...

went yesterday to remove stiches...

thanks alot for asking.....

to the topic...i experienced love after marriage and i m loving it.......

DaRuDe - that is very profound  - going to scribble that in the diary.

Sounds like some teaching from Tibet....

I think we all want to be loved so we often rush in blindly...without testing the water enough first.

Love - Proceed with Caution???? Good for a t-shirt?

by the way,hows your feet?

everything alright yet?

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Don’t think men are blind in love ...(maybe there are exceptions) but they pretend to be blind till they get want they want...by the time woman realize it is reality it will be too late.

love sucks big time....

the love which make u blind............

Not all women....

don’t always think with your heart...listen to your mind...dont ever trust men blindly....think practical.

You will never be disappointed!

A woman was not made from the backbone of a man, but a rib. This means from the side, to be partners, close to the heart for love.

Aisha-Taweela

i try to remember it next time

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ok,you are right,maybe they dont talk that much about it.

thanks Aisha

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trying to throw yourself in a well with out knowing its nasty dept is weird.

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I think men also become blind when they are in love, only they are ashamed to talk about it, and that is why you dont hear so much about it. I think your post should be  "why are people blind when they are in love". 

Aisha-Taweela