Will Power and Self-Discipline - do you have any?

you mean you like to do something unknown,not definited,so you feel passionful,excited,stimulating?

but what we do or should do in routine life and work is common,boring,repeating.

Your brain will be hardworking if you do not like to do common jobs.Somehoe you like to prefer to use your head than your hand,right?

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You said "It is very important for one in oppression situation to make himself/herslef have a successful feeling surround her/him.Then she/he can go out from the bad feeling or mood."

I think I know what you mean. I ALWAYS feel wonderful after I do what I berate myself for NOT doing. For example, I get cross when I don't bother to do something, whether it's housework, go to visit someone, exercise etc, but I KNOW I feel really great once I do it.

I'm probably just a bit lazy. :D

I can understand you totally.I contacted a few friends on QLL,they all told me that you are a kind & nice lady with a rich mother-love. Also for me! So we all like to chat & company with you. On the opposite, we shloud know that you need care & help,too, spe. in spirit.

I as a Chinese lady,I know more the way in China. As you know we have very heavy training & practise on how to keep one having will power & self-discipline on a goal or plan.

The common manner is to repeat the same practise too many times.Do you know, the students in primary school do a paper homework 20 times sometimes. So we call this large repeating as self-discipline training.At angle of education science, repeating training does work for students, esp primary students as they are not form themselves will-ability. That is to say that they can get a good self-discipline from this special training. At this point,I think the eastern do better than the western.As far as know,I find the west do best in creativity as their/your education courses setting are very different from China, sometimes they are opposite. All the difference come from the goals of both sides'education.So education is reforming among all schools in today China.

As for your puzzle,I think you can adjust yourself in a normal or ideal way in your eyes.and I know the trouble does not come too often but sometimes.is it like that,Jauntie?

For drinking alchol or smoking,I don't have them.So how to adjust one in oppression situation? There are various answers from different people.Uauslly there are some manners ,eg.drinking,smoking,having sex,chatting,do hobbies,travelling....

For me, I like to chat with firends,esp.good friends.Or walking,cleaning or make love. I travel or visit my friends in another cities or contries if I have a long time leave.

It is very important for one in oppression situation to make himself/herslef have a successful feeling surround her/him.Then she/he can go out from the bad feeling or mood.

Pls. share them from my inside. Wish some do work for you.

Have a new day!

Arona

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No probs, I can read minds you know ;)

sorry, I edited my post - yours should have come after mine.

is the cousin of self-motivation.

I am hopeless at self-motivation. I NEED to be in a structured environment, like employment or school, because I need others to motivate me. Once motivated I'm off and running - just can't find the button to switch myself on :o(

I don't have the discipline to do it myself. I guess I'm just not 'leader' material.

Same with that smoking problem, froggie. I'm perfectly able to go without ciggies when I'm in a non-smoking environment - doesn't bother me at all, but take away the restriction and I smoke like a chimney! So I suppose THAT is lack of will-power because I'm obviously capable of giving up, just don't have the will to do so.

Put me in a Health Farm for a couple of weeks and I do all the things I enjoy like eating healthily, exercising, NOT smoking or drinking alcohol, BUT as soon as I get home I haven't the self-discipline to continue with that lifestyle.

Pathetic, aren't I ... :/ And, actually, I find it very depressing to be this way.

repeated, sorry!

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Jauntie, I don’t know ... I generally lack self discipline but I cannot say I have no self motivation, not sure they go together all the time.

As much as self-discipline and having schedules sound good, they just don't work for me. I can't function with a schedule, and it's probably cause I hate routines. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Good Morning all ..... Talha10 5.00 a.m ? heheheh you're an early bird you :D

Hey Good news Jauntie .... I have started smoking again yesterday lol

Well, I guess this is a whole process ... I will try again :)

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owen? o yes thats why her ears r so long.

lol

the only subject which i don't like to study is chemistry specially organic

so difficult nomenclature

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Mt Confession booth is open for lay back people..

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excuse but don't let me catch you skipping studying again or I'll have to come pull your ears (ask Owen, she knows!)

i am so sorry

didnt study 2day coz of holidays

but will stuty b4 sleeping 2night

very sorry

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We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors; but they all have to learn to live in the same box.

studying going any better??

good job 100% in chem.

i hpe i will also do a miracle this tym

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We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors; but they all have to learn to live in the same box.

the offices I need to be open are CLOSED...sigh...I need phone service!!! Actually enjoying the less crowds and driving is easy except for the truck that almost squooshed me earlier today in a roundabout..so bored..nope...

hope it works for you!!

I have to admit...when I looked back at my college transcripts, I just cringed...the first year was...shameful to say the least because I have always been such a good student..but being away from home, I just had the BEST time ever...and it certainly showed! lol I will never forget getting a horrible grade in Chemistry(sad thing is Chemistry is one of my best subjects!) and my dad telling me that if I didn't bring it up to at least a B, I was going to be sent back home...so I studied and the next test I scored the only 100% in the class on the test...I was SO excited that I skipped class and hung out with my friends...Ok, so I learned half of something right...

will try it 2day

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We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors; but they all have to learn to live in the same box.

Insisting on means to be successful in my opinion:)

BTW, morning Jauntie, yesterday, my boss informed we got that big project for QP and our group 2 top CEOs will give a meeting to all at a meeting room at Sheraton Hotel.

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We have a simlar saying from the Bible, Galatians VI (King James Version): "Whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap", meaning "You reap what you sow."

You plant the seeds (sow), and then later you gather the resulting harvest (reap).

I lack self discipline and will power and I’m proud of it ; )

Hi!,

Most of us are on Eid Holidays, to me its tooooo boring,

what are your views?

How many of you agree?

Is there any1 who can chat?

i dont have self discipline and i am lazy. i m so lazy sometimes that i dont go out and have fun. or meet people even i know it will be fun.

but laziness in different subjects. work, study, health i always find something to recover it. i get what i want in a lazy way but i do:)

من جد وجد ومن زرع حصد

This is something we've learnt in primary school, but it's so true all the time.

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Thank you for your kind words :D. Time management is the key although there are numerous times when i feel like i'm in over my head, it's difficult but inshallah all the sacrifices will pay off.

I know what is it like when you're studying. I think time management is the most important thing. You will certainly get positive things out of your hard and efficient work. May God Bless you and make you successful in your studies.

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I have disciplined my self when it comes to my studies by the mere fact that should i not succeed (god forbid) i could safely say that i tried my best. Regular sleep/wake schedule, Regular Study schedule and of course regular play schedule (God know's that without it i would've gone mad. It took a long time for these habits to settle in but hopefully they will pay off in the end.

We need to commit time to doing the right things for ourselves, and only we can judge what’s right for us. We need to clearly know what we want, and we need to believe we can have it. Having goals in mind, we can avoid the trap of busyness and get right down to business. Efficiency is not nearly as important as effectiveness.

For fulfillment, we need to take our lives off autopilot. We need to consciously decide what we will and will not do, moment by moment. We need to give ourselves the space, support and freedom to be proactive in choosing how we live each day.

Remember to keep the balance - we deserve 'time out'.. This also falls under deciding what we will and will not do.

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If you never did, you should. These things are fun, and fun is good. - Dr Seuss

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Yesterday , it was a bit hard to sleep without my cig package beside. However, I think it's high time for me to stop it, because I know how harmful it is for health. This will be very difficult, because I just used to smoke after every meal, but I'm decided now to choose : Health or Cigarettes. I want to know how my sons and maybe grand sons would look like :) May God Bless you and give you the strenght to quit all bad habits. I wish you the best Jauntie:)

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now I'm even more depressed.

You managed to give up your 3 a day habbit, reminds me of the last time I went to see my hygenist (daughter of my dentist).

She pulled up the charts and stuff on the screen and said: I see here you gave up smoking.

Pardon?

Dad says you told him you had given up smoking (3 months earlier)

Ah! I told him I'd given up smoking

And?

He asked when I'd given up - and I told him since 11 p.m. the night before.

HA !

I hope you're fine :)

It's a new dawn.

It's a new day.

It's a new life....

You know How I feel ....

I know exactly How You feel ..... lack of self discipline is real handicap.

In fact without such a discipline you can achieve nothing at all in life.

I have though good news for you ( or let's say for me ):

I decided to give up smoking.

This is my first non-smoking day.

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too funny

and ready to go work out with hubby at gym, then got those weird little cold sweats and queasy feeling at the grocery store and I had to go back home. Perked back up, went to dinner and poof...Scarlett nosedives into the table cloth.

you will be OK in a day or so. I do feel for you lol

I so hate that 'I'm fine - no jetlag - doesn't affect me - fall face down in the dinner' syndrome. :P

I just have to get my feathered tail on the elliptical...thing stands and stares at me in SUCH an accusing way...I have put on a bit (umm cough cough) weight since being gone and its bugging the ever living out of me. Not being able to exercise was SUCH a good excuse but I don't have that any more..sighhhhhhhhhh

Yep..yeehaw time is making my life miserable...almost fell face first into dinner last night at the restaurant and hubby had taken me to such a nice one...so went home (after wiping the hummus off my forehead) and went to bed at 8...then woke up at 2 am, bright eyed and ready to rock and roll! I have GOT to get this sorted!!!

what are yu doing up at this time of the morning?? Still on Yeehaawww time?

agree with you on the 'once you get into a rhythm' 2 weeks thing - trouble is I broke that rhythm 2 weeks ago :(

I suffer from a lack of that...I LOVE exercise but it is getting into the routine that is a killer. Funny thing is, that once you start, it takes about 2 weeks for ANYTHING to become a habit, and once that happens, especially with exercise, it becomes addictive and you can't do without it. Unfortunately, you have to just about beat yourself into submission for those 2 weeks! I'm about to start that process..today in fact...no more excuses of jet lag and shoulder surgery! What I've discovered tho, is that I have to exercise early in the morning right after breakfast or its a lost cause because then I get busy with other things and I can "put it off" until later and then later becomes night time and I'm sleepy.

That's about my only weakness with procrastination..ohh no its not..packing is...I HATE to pack and will put it off until the very last minute..such as right before I left..I packed EVERYTHING at midnight when I had a 7 am flight... ;)

I was like you in college...play or in my case, party, until the first exam, get a bad grade, study like a demon for one day then give up and party until right before the next one.

What I found is that you have to KNOW your limitations and deal with it from that perspective. If you can only study for 30 min, then do that much, get up, do something else, then go back and study another 30, just don't leave the house without having studied at least and hour and half,total (and yes, that does NOT include the time spent up doing other things!) what you will find is that in the long term, you will be able to study for more than 30 minutes at a time because you've trained yourself to. Might start with just a few minutes more, but hey..anything will be an improvement! Good luck, my friend!

Yes it sure does- your right adrenalin...as well as state of mind

>>>it doesn't help staying up to 4.30am ...lol

'Our freedom is but a light that breaks through from another world'

i always decides to study really hard after evry bad result and b4 a new term and try to remain concentrated while attending my classes but even then whn i am back home , i cant study mor thn 30 mins continuosly depite having a gr8 desire to get good result in coming examz.

thats the biggest and the most bad habit in me

i really want 2 concentrate on my studies but every time i fail to do so i dunno how to get rid of this cursed habit.

i will b really very thankful if someone will tell me the solution.

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We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors; but they all have to learn to live in the same box.

I watched some science programme (meant for kids) on TV this evening. adrenalin has a lot to do with motivation.

Once the adrenalin kicks in (by fear or whatever does it for you) then you become more focused and physically stronger. But we can't all go on a Roller Coaster on a daily basis - oh! just realised ... that treadmill which inspires me is probably the same - it's getting ON it that's the problem.

Once I DO what I think I should do, THEN I'm in the frame of mind to tackle the world.

I'm usually in a good frame of mind, but I get into a BAD frame of mind when I don't get motivated! does that make sense?

I find that if I'm in a good frame of mind, mentally fit, I feel motivated to do anything, whatever they may be.

It has all to do with what mental state your in! That's where motivation and self-discipline come from!

'Our freedom is but a light that breaks through from another world'

is more to do how one uses self-discipline to persevere in, say, going to the gym or regulating your eating, and the will power NOT to hit someone when you really want to!!!!

"Everyone possesses some addictions or habits they wish they could overcome, such as smoking, excessive eating, laziness, procrastination or lack of assertiveness".

Or .. want to hit someone! :D

Lets not compare apple and lemons. Genetics still at early stages.So is DNA research. They just started to discover and learning to tinkle with it.

Is your mind vs your heart Sra....

I love the movie Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde is so close to our own lives.

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like with animals ... they mate with the strongest in their pack to promote a stronger gene.

Or does the will to succeed come from within ...

It's not that I didn't achieve my 'goals'. I never really had any! But I see others who have 'goals' and go for them.

What I wonder is why some of us aren't disciplined enough to go for goals.

What makes one person self-willed enough to HAVE a goal and GO for it? Whilst others just really arent bothered or sufficiently self-motivated to try, even though they may envy the winners in this life who do have that self-discipline.

Hi ram xx

Some of us were not born to be doctors, lawyers and teachers. Some of us are the benefit of others weakness. Is how much you put your heart into something you like, is beneficial for you and you succeed in doing so.

For example: Invested in real state a long time ago, bought and sold, stock's, put money in high interest CD accounts, bonds and minerals. I successful established an income for me, without working so hard. Of course the people I associated with are in the same mind and state. I help others, donated money and personnel time to others.

I Read a lot on finances, taxes and real state, but for the benefit for my self only goal to be financial independent. I had my up and downs, but eventually, did bounce off the dry docks. I'm solid because, I choose another way of making money. Did neglected a few things.

Is just because maybe you are not happy with yourself, should I said: Satisfied with your goals...

Unfortunately education is not the whole game for me. I got my degree a long time ago, I look at it like toilet paper, never work it..... I don't care about it. Is just a piece of paper with black letters. The reality is other.

Keep working out, maybe I'll drop by with my inflatable water ducky wrap around my waist teasing you....

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

But i guess the topic shud be How can we fix this? How can we start? how can we stay in the way and never give up and turn back?

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This is a real good thread .. which i like it but it really hurt .. cuz it's telling the truth to me .. I lack the self-discipline too ..

A long list of things that i wished to do but i didn't ...

sometimes i start and quit after a while .. i dunno how to gain this will power inside of me .. The most things of my wish list is to quit smoking and be athletic .. but it seems that they will remain in the wish list and they never moves .. and the same thing goes to the rest of the list .. that's really too bad .. i thought that i'm the only one but thanks God i'm not alone ..

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I really get a buzz out of doing exercise, whether playing a sport or swimming or just on a treadmill - it's just actually motivating myself to get up and go and DO it that's the problem. :(

Even though I know I will feel great afterwards!

It's a bit like some woman once said about sex: You don't feel like it, then you do it, and afterwards you're glad you did :D

But getting back to what I was really talking about ... In general, I think I lack the self-discipline and motivation which I so admire in others.

My motivation is my age group. I always put in my mind the marathon man running early on the morning and the sunrise on his back....

I don't count in motivation from others, mostly I'm a lone, doing and planning stuff... I'm my own motivator. In money games and my most resent work outs.

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The worst part of working out, is doing it. I started recently and I'm trying to fight my body every time it hurts here and there. What I like best, How I feel the next day, Its outrageously good and addicted. Is one of the promises I made myself for this year.

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

"Sometimes, you wish to go for a walk, knowing how good it is for your health and how wonderful you feel afterwards, yet, you feel too lazy, and prefer to watch TV instead. You might be aware of the fact that you need to change your eating habits or stop smoking, yet, you don't have the inner power and persistence to change these habits."

I can't believe I'm alone in this lack of self-discipline but I get psyched by people who DO have all that will power to run marathons, or swim the English Channel or whatever ...

Interested to see who on QL will admit to being one or the other!

LOL

Will see how far the server takes its pounding....

Sorry If you are lacking enough gifts for your birthday. Maybe you need to tell your husband to spend some hardcore cash for your next anniversary.

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

your addiction, which lacks self-discipline, is to avoid small signature pictures, I guess :P

Jauntie

Our American Fiscal year is here, Taxes are none avoidable, so is death.

To procrastinate and postpone a few other goals in life and be able to obtain other personal financial goals for a better future is called SACRIFICE!

I don't see the relationship with my person at all. I'm wealthy and not rich because I choose too. Being POOR OR RIDDLE WITH DEBTS IS OUT THE QUOTATION MARK!

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