"Do you love your husband?"

OmLayla
By OmLayla

Hello
It happened to me many times,here in Qatar and in my husband homeland.Women that happen to know I am married to Arab man,they blurt out with question:do you love your husband?
What kind of question is it?what is the reason to ask this question?I consider it very personal question and surely not to be talked about with everyone who feels like,not with anyone to whom I happen to talk barely few minutes and not with everyone who I might never ever seen again.
Few months before,a nurse in Hamad hospital after studying my medical documents,blurted out with this question.I really wanted to ask her if she was gonna put the answer in my medical records:)It is funny though sometimes annoying.

By vmakunhi• 10 Mar 2009 22:46
vmakunhi

Some children asks to other child when they get headache or cough., Do you have cough? if answer is from the later is yes, former get some psychological relief with an impression that not only me got cough but also everyone has same so no problem it will disappear.

similarly when marrital relationship between two get dangling into unhappiness, the victim may simply pose such questions to whoever close to them tne way you have been asked. so she get some relief if ur answer is matching with her situation as exmpled by me in the first para by children., it does mean that she is not loving her husband or she does't feel it unless this is a mockery stupid question comes from super-faggot egoism originated from the dughill., and such elements cannot be brought to light from the darkness because all their heart itself is infiltrated such a way to ask and think like the same way in their disoriented lifestyle.

By lamea• 10 Mar 2009 22:46
Rating: 2/5
lamea

simply say that u married him for the money!!! i believe 'ask a stupid question get stupid answer' so give them what they deserve.

OMlayla maybe what they are asking is whether it was a love marriage. u see if you both are from different countries then this is the first question ppl ask. i know because my husband doesnt look pakistani and ppl often ask me whether it was a love marriage or arranged.

By vmakunhi• 10 Mar 2009 22:14
Rating: 5/5
vmakunhi

This is a most important question if u just ponder about the relationship between husband and wife in terms of sharia, islamic law because there are solid contract between two people when they get marry as an obligatory duty to love each other once accepted and both of them are bound to adjust, fluctuate, forget and forgive things and differences of openion in conflicts to restrengthen or restore their original relationship status intact in their nuptial life. LOVE IS A UNIVERSAL PHENOMENON AND IT HAS DIVERSIFIED ATTRIBUTES,and digrees in the heart of human being based on certain psychological, and practical expereience also attachment with whatever we love or whoever we love that constitute a trend to love and acuire later in possession what we love as much as we can. Between husaband wife, this question is to be experienced, not in words, but in their interactions and life as a whole., that automatically answer this question without knowing that she love her husband and vice versa too. At a glance it would look like a very potential question simply because the reason of the impact of the relationship between two must be loved., that means no reson should be disliked eachother in whatever situation.

By vmakunhi• 10 Mar 2009 22:14
Rating: 5/5
vmakunhi

This is a most important question if u just ponder about the relationship between husband and wife in terms of sharia, islamic law because there are solid contract between two people when they get marry as an obligatory duty to love each other once accepted and both of them are bound to adjust, fluctuate, forget and forgive things and differences of openion in conflicts to restrengthen or restore their original relationship status intact in their nuptial life. LOVE IS A UNIVERSAL PHENOMENON AND IT HAS DIVERSIFIED ATTRIBUTES,and digrees in the heart of human being based on certain psychological, and practical expereience also attachment with whatever we love or whoever we love that constitute a trend to love and acuire later in possession what we love as much as we can. Between husaband wife, this question is to be experienced, not in words, but in their interactions and life as a whole., that automatically answer this question without knowing that she love her husband and vice versa too. At a glance it would look like a very potential question simply because the reason of the impact of the relationship between two must be loved., that means no reson should be disliked eachother in whatever situation.

By nali10• 10 Mar 2009 21:31
Rating: 2/5
nali10

sometimes we can`t avoid other people thoughts regarding arab people. when somebody knows that you are married with arab or having relation with one arabic man the first thing it will come to their mind is like this questions - " does she love him or just because of money?" which is very unfair actually. heart will not teach you to whom you will fall inlove coz it will just a wink of an eye when you fall inlove with a person and will not tell you what kind of nationality you will be involved. you can even fall inlove with a rubbish man or woman for that matter. and some people always have bad impression about arab men. fingers are not of same size so in every nationality you will always find a good and a bad one. arab people are loving and honest people as far as i know. my dear maybe that nurse was just jealous of you because maybe she didn`t hooked any arab man! heheheheheheee.... goodluck.

By OmLayla• 9 Mar 2009 09:57
OmLayla

Whether this is a woman or man,asking about feelings toward your husband is still personal and private issue so I would never ever start conversation with breaking that privacy.

By medhat_fahmy10• 9 Mar 2009 02:28
Rating: 5/5
medhat_fahmy10

Dear Omlayla,

if u received this question from a man, u have to be so agrresive, and u have to reply explaining to him that this is a personal issue, and that HE again HE is not allowed to talk about it anymore.

if it comes from a woman, then she is trying to get friendly with you and she has some troubles between her and her husband and she was trying to brake the ice so u can start confessing to each other.

life is so simple

By OmLayla• 8 Mar 2009 16:39
OmLayla

A friend's sister asked me:do I love my husband.It was the first time I heard this question and must confess I was speechless for a second.I told them in my country/culture we do not discuss personal thing/feelings with anyone except close family.I guess that was not what she expected to hear from me because since then she avoided me:(and yes-hearing my answer she looked so much confused.C'mon-think first before you speak:)

Another thing is I heard here and there that some women think foreigners get married to Arab men not for love but for money and I think that must be part of the reason for such a weird questions.

To the user who send me pm.No I am not married to Qatari and if you wanna join discussion please do it on open forum not by sending me private messages.

By anonymous• 8 Mar 2009 15:32
anonymous

women must!

By sunset244• 8 Mar 2009 15:21
Rating: 5/5
sunset244

u r in a country with differant nationalities living in it, so i think u have to reply them and know that there could be lots of reasons inside them, reply simply and try to take it easy, give every one the reply he deserve according to ur feeling and timing of his silly question.

ppl forgot that respect between 2 married creatures is more important then this word as it includes inside it the love, care, and feeling, which has 2 be existing between any man and women who decided to start this holy relation.my regards.

By Apple• 8 Mar 2009 14:16
Apple

Absolutely, YES!

Sorry but no further explaination for that......

By medo9944• 8 Mar 2009 14:10
medo9944

tell my answer and you will never loose

Arab PPL is SEXY ,HONEST,THEY CARE & still we have alot to achieve in our life thats why we are not sosite

By consciouseffort• 8 Mar 2009 14:04
consciouseffort

I have heard this kind of thing for the first time. Btw why do ppl ask this.

By MGZ1• 8 Mar 2009 13:59
MGZ1

if any body ask you smiler questions again , don't give hem or her chance ignore him or her and leave the place

live is so short , don't waste it in this silly things

forget what happen

ya i think love don't depend in nationality right ?

who ask you this question is sooo Racial

By bisdak• 8 Mar 2009 13:30
bisdak

okey fine whatever

By om Maui• 8 Mar 2009 13:24
om Maui

Om Layla, may i suggest next time a person asks that silly question, ask them back, and let them stutter and stumble to find a smart answer. Ha!

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