HOW TO DEAL W/ DIFFICULT PEOPLE

gypsy_coy
By gypsy_coy

Step1
Try to figure them out. Why are they being so nasty? Are they jealous? Are they annoyed with you about something specific? Are they stressed out? Are they afraid? Are they mistrustful? You'll need to learn what makes them tick before you can stop them from ticking you off.

Step2
Don't take things personally. Troublesome behavior is habitual. Difficult people tend to be difficult to everyone.

Step3
Don't fight back. Don't become an adversary. It only feeds their negativity, and chances are they are better than you at being bitter.

Step4
Avoid appeasing them. You wouldn't reward a bad dog, so why let a difficult person get away with bad behavior? If you let them get their way, they'll only be encouraged.

Step5
Don't try to change them. It's impossible to change someone's entire being. Not only that, but people usually get pretty indignant if they sense you are trying to shape their character. Your only hope is deal with their behavior gracefully.

Step6
Choose your mode of confrontation. Don't lose your cool but be firm and assertive. Let them know you won't be pushed around, but don't exasperate the situation by fighting an unnecessary fight.

Step7
Never argue. If you argue with someone that is being difficult, it gives them a chance to justify their behavior. You'll be surprised at how many unreasonable arguments a strong-headed person can bring up.
Tips & Warnings
• Be reasonable. Be the bigger person privately. If you start acting like you are taking the moral high road, they'll try to knock you off your high horse.
• Don’t think that there is an easy fix or that you can change the situation overnight.

By lipstick• 29 Dec 2008 15:04
lipstick

hello mallrat,

it is hard to deal with difficult people,

but dealing with tasteless people is worst.

chaud

By mallrat• 29 Dec 2008 15:01
mallrat

.hi lipstick.

.indeed, it is hard to deal with difficult people.

...

.

.

By lipstick• 29 Dec 2008 14:53
lipstick

flirting? hideous word, have some taste.

chaud

By brutus_ceasar• 29 Dec 2008 14:45
brutus_ceasar

Flirting in QL eh... hhmmm...... mafi mushkila

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Heard your wife left you,

How upset you must be.

But don't fret about it...

She moved in with me.

By lipstick• 29 Dec 2008 14:42
lipstick

lol, excites me alot? you are leaving me with abdominal pain, lol

chaud

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 14:40
DaRuDe

yea the tongue which excites you alot now shush quiet

By janeyjaney• 29 Dec 2008 14:38
janeyjaney

I have a flat ass, thanks.

The internet is our revenge machine

By lipstick• 29 Dec 2008 14:37
lipstick

dar, do you know what is the deadliest weapon posted in BALNCE SHEET OF LIFE thread? go check it.

chaud

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 14:32
DaRuDe

fine i have seen how skinny you are.

By lipstick• 29 Dec 2008 14:30
lipstick

lol, i am slim but not skinny, and ye i have a flat tummy

chaud

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 14:26
DaRuDe

do you even have a tummy that skinny sack :P

By lipstick• 29 Dec 2008 14:24
lipstick

lol, dar, you gave me a tummy ache

chaud

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 14:17
DaRuDe

Cannon is not enough you need a 50tonne RPG

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 14:16
DaRuDe

Soccer shoes for kicking balls not Cannon

my Cannon is in workshop getting serviced.

and i still have that pistol but mafi bullets in souq :D

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 14:14
Amoud

lol, Azi, Da uses brass knuckles in such situations.

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"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By azilana7037• 29 Dec 2008 14:11
azilana7037

and aiming at you....

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 14:08
DaRuDe

next time if i honk at some one one dont try to pop your eyes out will poke em. :P

By angel_eyes• 29 Dec 2008 14:01
angel_eyes

let them be more difficult with you... after all being difficult with other people makes life hell...its their problem anymore not yours...

By anonymous• 29 Dec 2008 13:57
anonymous

finish!

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

By mallrat• 29 Dec 2008 13:57
mallrat

.

.fiery,

,if it fails, then you may use

a. hammer

b. bat

c. bat again

d. just bat

.

.

lol

.

By anonymous• 29 Dec 2008 13:55
anonymous

Don;t be so difficult, just help out.

Always remember:

You are about to be canonize the First Saint Woman of Qatar living.

Just waiting for that miracle to happen, that way, I would finish sealing your papers of canonization.

By anonymous• 29 Dec 2008 13:54
anonymous

I always hang out with DARUDE.

FAIR WARNING, I'm always looking at people real funny, waiting to watch awkward HAPPENINGS. So be cool about it, IF i start picking on you.

By fieryangelinthesky• 29 Dec 2008 13:53
fieryangelinthesky

treat them nicely... but if fails... ignore them for life...

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By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 13:40
Amoud

Thanks Da, _____________________________________________________

"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 13:36
DaRuDe

Are you sure??

My next function is tonight in a wonderful place with wonderful QL ppl selected by me i will forward you the email.

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 13:34
Amoud

Alrighty Da, invite me to your next function and I will show up, kick the door in and slap the first person that looks at me funny lol. ;)_____________________________________________________

"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 13:32
Amoud

I couldnt possibly seen in public, apparently people feel I look like a troll :)

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"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 13:18
DaRuDe

Sure you can meet by joining the Social Group of QL.

and you dont need to be nice just be like a warrior a fighter :P

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 13:15
Amoud

Ok Da, so, if I meet you or your country folk I should give them a left hook to be nice lol

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"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By GodFather.• 29 Dec 2008 13:13
GodFather.

There is always a second option.. Close your hand stretch your arm out until he feels something on his face...lol

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HE WHO DARES WINS

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 13:11
DaRuDe

you better watch it i dont like too politness like you Canadians are. yea being like that damn blond bandit Gypsy works. Jeez my ribs still hurts last time when she punched it ouch.

By azilana7037• 29 Dec 2008 13:09
azilana7037

IGNORE them...

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 13:09
Amoud

lol, Da I think the term for them is brass knuckles, and I havent seen a pair of those in years. Please tell me where you grew up so I can keep a mental note to be extra nice to anyone I meet from there in the future.

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"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 13:04
DaRuDe

have you seen the metal punch you get them on your fingers like ring i used that also in my college days and broke few jaws :D

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 13:02
Amoud

Ok Da, I am starting to see your logic here, scary enough as that is. Do you also gauge the weapon by how pissed off you are :)

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"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By Bastook• 29 Dec 2008 13:01
Bastook

In the Cookies of Life, FRIENDS are the Chocolate Chips

www.bastook.com

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 12:59
DaRuDe

for this my fist is enough.

and with my fist i cant damage a car so for that baseball bat :D

By Amoud• 29 Dec 2008 12:52
Amoud

Hmm, Da, no baseball bat on this one or is that reserved for parking only ;)

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"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

By i2kreativ• 29 Dec 2008 12:18
i2kreativ

In MY office all people are same, very difficult to deal with them

Many times i argue, we never c eye to eye properly.

They think they win the world

The AdMan

4 ur advertising needs

call me

By i2kreativ• 29 Dec 2008 12:18
i2kreativ

In MY office all people are same, very difficult to deal with them

Many times i argue, we never c eye to eye properly.

They think they win the world

The AdMan

4 ur advertising needs

call me

By vamshal• 29 Dec 2008 12:02
vamshal

we also have one in our organisation, ha ha ha

Live Life To The Fullest.......................

By zayd• 29 Dec 2008 11:42
zayd

if you're really having trouble with difficult people i suggest you move to qatar where you'll experience a bootcamp-like training in everything from difficult people to impossible people to others that barely pass as people. Register today.

By anonymous• 29 Dec 2008 11:28
anonymous

By mallrat• 29 Dec 2008 11:20
mallrat

.HOW TO DEAL W/ DIFFICULT PEOPLE?

.

.treat them nicely.....

.

.

By Turbo• 29 Dec 2008 10:32
Turbo

if all else fails... sock'em!!!

By DaRuDe• 29 Dec 2008 09:53
DaRuDe

get more difficult with them simple

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