Goodbye my son - Agony and Joy

Adopted children tend to be regardless of the adoption situation Brit. I don't know any adopted children who haven't searched for their birth parents. And many eventually leave to be with their birth parents anyway. Adoption is never a simple answer.

Personaly, i feel that this causes more problems. Legal papers aside, the child could be pulled in two directions.

That's what the legal papers are for Brit.

The danger is that the biological mother may start to feel an attachment to the child , or even regrets and this could lead to real issues.

Lots of adoptions are open now Brit. It seems to create a more stable atmosphere for an adopted child, as they then know where they came from and know that they weren't given up because the parents didn't want them.

It's very tough on the adoptive parents, but it's easier on the adopted child.

may sound harsh ...

but it is good revenge on 18+ children who run away from home for their new found lovers .. giving parents a shock of their life ..

to your sister, she truly is a brave person. It takes a lot to make a decision as such, when you live in a world where everyone is concious of what others may have to say.

DNA test can prove the alleged fatherhood of the man if necessary.

The lady too, seems to be in a hurry to disown the newborn!!

Here I can find relationship of convenience vs naturally binding.

The choice is made. What worries me is that she is keeping in touch with the adoptive parents and even planning to visit them.

Either way the are consequences for the choice she has choosen, maybe she will regret giving up her child and also a possibility of a child that will forever be searching for identity because the child was adopted unless the child gets a very loving family. Lots of single mothers who raised good children that are now successfull, happy and content, its doable, she should have kept the baby.

Hmmmn....the lady and lad had a reckless nights and days together enjoying unprotected ..after the results ...the lady story ever heard but the lad...nothing... Now the baby is in the other hands...it will be confused in its later lifes... I hope it will not be a rough journey...

hopefully, the baby can grow up with a loving family...

My sister was faced with this same dilemma, but the other way around. She had prepared herself throughout her pregnancy to give her baby up for adoption, up until she gave birth to him ie! One look at his cute lil face and that was it...

Today she is a proud single mom and her son, my beloved nephew, a much loved member of our entire family. My sister has, and is still, sacrificing much due to her decision, but I'd say the rewards are certainly outweighing them all. Of course not everyone can do what she did, just as not everyone can do what the mom in the OP did. To each their own!

One day she is going to repent this......such a cute baby........

Father had his way out,

Mother had her way out,

Baby had his way out two times yet.

A bold decision though it will haunt her in future..for sure.

If she feels she's done the right thing, than she's done the right thing. Wonderful that she found two understanding adoptive parents who will let her be a part of her son's life.

condoms - it was invented for a purpose! people tend to forget it.

abortion - 1 less orphan in the world!

She did the right thing knowing that she wouldn't be a capable mom! you need to be brave to make a decision like that.

but her comments about getting her life back and getting skinny is dumb to the core.