Ex Boyfriend
By Yasmin Hamza •
Hey everybody,
This might sound silly but I really do need your advice before I do something stupid.
An ex boyfriend and I are still in touch after we moved on with out lives got married and have kids.
We rarely call each other and but we text at times.
Yesterday I received a message on Facebook that I should stop sending him messages and stop calling him.
I knew it was his wife who sent the message but I got furious for him putting me in the corner as if it was a once side effort. I thought of replying a million things....
I didn't do anything until I opened QL account to hear your comments.
Hey, yazmin.. did you manage to forget about him.. juz wanted to know.. take care
Hey, yazmin.. did you manage to forget about him.. juz wanted to know.. take care
I wish my Cuban Shotputter would get in touch with me :O(
I think , relations should be in limits . if you are going beyond your limits then its mean that its you will loose one day .the way you talked I believed that you already lose everything .don't run after the fame ,run after the reality
No Sky Lily, it's not in their religion :)
A bad driver is responsible for wrecking a perfectly good car, it's not the car's fault.
I agree with u tweeter, its their religion teaching and brainwashing them to revenge and hope bad for people.. Thats y if u notice, all the chaos is happening mainly on arabic countries bec of their aggressive bahavior.
The world is so wide to look for someone else
he has now his family, so please don't disturb them even if his wife who sent u this msg.
Too much drama! If you are already married and have your own family, I am guessing you are old enough to handle such situation.
don't forget to share with your partner.
some process are painful but worth going through.
if you have access to Asianet Middle East in cable there is a programme (bharthakkanmarude shradhaykku) for the attention of husbands. c it even if you don't understand the language
you can simply unfriend that is the easy way. or you can become a real friend may be more to her than to him.
its your decision not ours the voyeurs enjoying the show.and if you want you can just copy paste e or the full thred into his post. don't forget to say u r hurt
a friend is a friend whether boy or girl.when it is ex we as a human being feel something that can only be experienced. and i think you don't have a problem.you as a person have a right to live and express your self with in the rules of the state and your personal values.
we become angry when we are hurt. right?
she responded that way because she is hurt. and may be you can understand her better than anybody else, because you were once in her place n you know your ex as a person. you can help them or close your eyes.
Did the message say so or did you assume this due to the content? Cos for all you know the guy must wish to severe connections with you by his own freewill(or perhaps due to pressure from his wife) . Either ways this is obviously not a healthy friendship if it causes such tension, ill feelings, and threatens the harmony of another's marriage. Just cut him off and think no more about it.. You lose nothing after all, right?
It was already told.
You need advise??? Seriously??? Geeez.
simply close this chapter
i think you should disconnect all your relationship with him.
unless you can handle the guilt of destroying a family(not because you want that, but your presence in the equation will do)
I have heard 100 reasons for starting QL Account your reason is 101... lol
Stop calling me! I told you we can't be friends anymore!
(but we can still be secret lovers, see you tonight) wink Wink!
No offense, but in my own opinion. You should have stop your communication with your EX. That's why he is an EX, not present. Even you are not doing anything. Put yourself on his wife situation, would you be happy or would you feel better?
yes, funny and sin. enjoy! y u care about his wife?
timepass.com why are u being so angry at them? :( why don't u pray for good things n guidance for them?
No matter how much ur husband / wife say that they trust u, in the end no1 wants ur partner to think abt any1 else, nd the ex comes in the top of the list....
Being in contact with ur ex might lead to stupid fights with ur partner and u might in the end feel ...was it all worth for....
In ur case, u may not have any prob with ur husband (u may or may not have told him that ur in touch with him) but what matters is that ur ex nd his wife is having fights coz f u..... so y to be a reason for any1's broken life???
Move on, forget the past, forget that some1 was there in ur life, nd enjoy the beautiful present......
Coz Life Rockzzzz
i wish that you will get all sarow and pain in your life i will paryer that allah will give you a taste of cheat some one
we got kids from whom from ex or the new.
see one thing cheating your new one even he has give you respect as wife which ex not given and you cheat the new one i wish allah gives you more pain and make your life meserable
i wish you new one gett all happines and leave you like a banana slip and you should suffer.
well, nothing wrong with being friends with exes, IF there are no strings attached and all parties involved are mature enough to move on in a healthy way. All parties include present spouses. If both are okay with your friendship, great. But if he is hiding it from his wife, there will be trouble. You have to let him go, keeping in touch will only complicate his life. Your husband is understanding, lucky for you.
Nice... & Funny..
@Rezirosca....Sorry your post applies to someone else. I am not single...
Thank you all for your comments....its not like there is a string attached....but I needed the advice because I didn't want to say something offending.
As per the message she felt like I am the only one messaging him and calling him...this guy must have deleted his sent messages.
If I removed him she might think that Ohhhh game over I got you and if I replied it will be something not good for both of them, because I am just gonna say it in black and white.
I think I should just leave it alone and never ever talk to him again and focus on my marriage and my understanding husband....
In general..stop all things you've been doing with your EX.. you can't bring back the old times. You both had moved on with your own families. Don't give a chance that both of you will ruined each other's life especially your marriage. If you can't stop that foolishness..one day your husband will kick you out from your home! Believe me.
My question is whats ur relationship wid tht guy for which u r making an effort to keep it as of now and whts the future of it? No sensible husband or wife accept such relationships, Ex means past n its gone... don't spoil ur life by losing ur inner peace in such childish activities because u r not a kid any more and spend this quality time wid ur own family and live wid peace...
God Bless You...
I agree with BritExpat ... Such type of relation sometimes lead to Sin.. Though definition of sin depends on your point of view.. For me If I see my wife in touch with her Ex and having some intimate chat, I will definitely seriously hurted....
I must agree with Osama, you still have feelings for your Ex, coz if not, the message his wife sent you wont take you here asking for advice. Right then and there you would know what to do. An Ex is an Ex, they cannot meddle in our present, unless we allow them to do so. Go ahead, unfriend him and move on :)
OOPS I didn't notice
Stop communicating with him.. Simple !
Troll alert. :)
Far beyond friendship is an enemy...
and don't try to convince ur self that u are just like friends coz the truth in the eyes of everyone surrounding u is different.
Sorry may be you understand wrong I mean to say that your ex boy friend have his family , and if u have already your family so this is good just take care for your family and only , only and only your husband could be loyal with you if u will take care for him .... again sorry for my last coment if u understand and feel something bad
what was ur husband reaction when u told him about ur EX?
in my opinion u should unfriend him in FB, and in that case u both will relax, coz definitely u don't want to sacrifice ur lifetime relation (marriage) just for few conversations with ur EX.
Guess it his wife after all, you said you are not anymore because he is married already and you are just communicating like friends no string attached . The earth is not dead when your ex got married so as your friendship will not end. Maybe be someday youl meet on an alley should you not greet him? Or else what are friends for only that, nothing else.
@Osama...shall I remove him from fb?? I think you have a point into his wifes way of thinking or maybe it is him who is not telling her whats going on in his life. For me, I have already told my husband that we still have contact....
@Ucozi, what are you talking about...I have mu own family now and have no bad intentions whatsoever....don't forget he is an ex....
In my opinion u should stop ur relation with him completely, not because his wife told so, but because this is the right thing to do.
even if he tried to contact u somehow, u should remind him that he has a family now and he should not permit himself to do things which might be considered as "cheating" in his wife's internal mind.
as my opinion your ex boy friend get married she have a wife y you want to wipe out there relaton world is wide enough look for some one good and make a legal relation i.e Marriage.