The Hard Lessons on Love and Men…
I have this printed and pasted on my room wall..:D want to share 'em...
1. A man won’t let go if he really loves you.
Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really
loves you. There is another reason he is not willing to tell.
2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not
love you. Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.
3. Do not get hang up on your past.
Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt
you. Do not treat him or the relationship the same way. Do not compare. He will not react the same way as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not because you didn’t guard him enough or you didn’t make him happy enough.
4. Do not look into images.
How many times have you met a girl who didn’t have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice? Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your “supposedly” perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.
5. Always have your own set of rules.
Set your limits on how far you’d go for a guy. It’s perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it’s worth it. And it’s worth it if the guy is treating you right.
6. Do not be scared to lose him.
Don’t be scared that he’ll break up with you. Once you are afraid of
losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.
7. Avoid calling your guy.
It’s a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it’s the guy who’s calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it’s a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).
8. There is a guy who will value you.
There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and
loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So
don’t lose hope. Don’t settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to
women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can (*wink*).
Also, do not believe him when he says it’s just the way he really is. He’s not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.
9. Always be the only one, no matter what.
Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife,
girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can’t get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can’t leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.
10. He must respect you.
No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.
11. If he fooled you, end it.
Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person
again.
12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.
Do not steal another girl’s man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.
13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.
Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting
impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn’t come yet. Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc.. If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.
14. Do not settle.
If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly.
He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to
be. Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.
15. A relationship has to have love.
Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work. And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties.
16. Don’t be afraid to be single.
It’s fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you
want. You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free! Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. Do not settle.
17. Be a good girl.
Be a good girl to attract a good guy. Enter the relationship with sincere intentions. Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spending the rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after you had your bit of fun in your younger years). If you compare your flings from your real relationships, you will know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.
18. Love without limits.
Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some
things, if the relationship ends, you still get hurt. But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it. If you didn’t give your all, you get hurt for nothing.
19. You will get over him.
Love is over-stated. Love eventually ends and you are free to love
another.
20. Be the one.
Act like you are the one. Don’t be a nagger. Don’t hinder his gimmicks. Don’t give in to him too easily. Make him treat you as important. Don’t be easy. Don’t be like every other girl he had in his life.
I liked this post a lot....Thanks Owen..
this multiple personality thing ,,who is he really??? the man behind the cloak! the dark one!
well am the last one in your list owen
the other parts just come out once in a while...lol
do it right - the first time!
CQ, what exactly are you really, an editor/reporter or a surgeon?...:P
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Of course all of you did, especially you Owen ... you know her better than anyone else in this world ... living under your skin I guess, See to which degree? :)
shall i put that news in the papers.....?
i can see the head lines now....lol
do it right - the first time!
so it's a HER?!..*singing* King Edshel has a her, king edhsel has a her*stops singing*...really that much huh, 3 pages...do we know her?..sorry for prying..:D
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What is between me and her is only for the two of us :) Some will find the material of that e-mail bad to be published on public and might ask for it to be deleted ... Don't get me wrong, but being band is also a possibility :)
three pages???? is it related to this topic? why not post it here? :D can you, can you, can you...please..:)
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was with jack all the time, now I'm inviting him here :)
Well I wrote just a long e-mail of 3 pages to a very close friend trying to clarify as well as telling her about a lot of things there ...
King Eshel, why are you inviting jack here...he has been here long time...and we are enjoyin his company..want to join?..:P 1 hour? where have you been?????
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I came back and you take this thread to another level? Guess that Jack was there a long time a go and no one greeted him .. Hi Jack :)
hmmmmm hmmmmm hmmmm....maxximo! does he have eye glasses?...and lol, how did you know that he is cool and sexy on the inside? have you checked and... proven it?..:D
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hehehe! owen, my guy is geeky on the outside, cool and sexy on the inside.
you'll be amazed how fast you'll forget brad pitt with my guys antics.
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
still maxximo, if you will compare this guy of yours to brat pitt, i might forget my "LOve Sucks Big Time"...wishful thinking..:P
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Owen, “more than” means… he’s taller than a cockroach and surprises you like a creepy crawler. :P
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
I said love, men, relationship SUCKS..
YOU said...in your perspective, it's NOT
I said...GOOD for you
So...who said what????? Judging who????
Azzy, those “men” you were referring to are morons who doesn’t know the meaning of love.. their sex,sex,sex, and rock & roll.
my perspective? how do you know it's not good for me? can you be the judge of that?
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
should i be interested maxximo?..*anticipation growing here*..:P but..lol..you compared him to a cockroach...more than? like how many percentage of "more than" he is?..:D
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In your perspective it's not...GOOD for you...
Who cares?....I don't...
We use our hearts and mind when we make a decision about things, especially when it comes to love and relationship...."some" men tend to let the "groins" make the decision for them....(j/k)
he's actually more good looking than a cockroach :D
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
Don’t loose your wits; our opinion varies from our perspective. As I’ve said “my way”
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
maxximo, hmmmm...i thought you are describing cockroach there..:/
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so..it's obvious we won't see eye to eye with our views on different matters particularly "relationship" topics...
So live and let live...got it?
The more you ignore it, the more it will haunt you…
it will come in the night unnoticed and creeps under your bed....
i knew a guy who would do such a thing. :P
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
azilana7037 said hmmmm...aren't we too mushy tonight... ...
Love, men, relationship....ALL OF THEM SUCKS (no pun intended)!!!! :-P
i hate to disagree w/ you.....
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
ewwwww maxximo, don't go over with your mushy thoughts here...kind of ewwwww..icky...:D
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Why can't we be like men and just care about the physical aspect and beable to hold back our feelings?
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
i don't want to fall either but guess that sooner i will be...i can feel it..:P and i'm afraid...and still clinging "tightly" to LOVE SUCKS BIG TIME..have to repeat that over and over and over and over and over in my head..lol
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you lost me there? :-P
i dont know owen, i think what you're saying is FRIGID LOVE! :P
as for me.....
Loving women…..my way…..I loved her like a baby, like a lonesome child, And I have loved her wild…… yeah azzy? you were saying........
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
I don't want to fall in love, I don't want to get married. I want to fall in like so I have a boyfriend for a little while and not meeting a new guy every other week. :P
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
the reason why you think all women are liars is because we have to lie to you. Always saying we are busy washing our hair, married, or not into guys just to get you away :D
tra la la
Love, men, relationship....ALL OF THEM SUCKS (no pun intended)!!!! :-P
gypsy that's the sad part of being inlove...the beginning has always its end...they end in different level of intensity (the pain)..so why bother to begin with it the first place, where you know that sooner it will end..(i know kind of selfish thoughts i have..but that's my stand now)
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You may think you've fallen in love...but it might be something else.
You might mistake it for "love" and in the end it may not be what you think it is...
I've been in love, I know how it feels, I also know how it feels when it ends, which is why I'm happier without it.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
You’ll know it when it hits you...your mindset will collapse and you'll give in.....your feelings will take control, not your mind......
that's LOVE.
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
I disagree. I think you need to be in certain part of your life and certain mindset to be ready to accept love, and then I think you pretty much fall in love with anyone who crosses your path.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
you know why...?
because love is not planned....
it happens.......
“I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”
Relationships don't make sense. Why do some people crave companionship and others don't? Why do some people like to fall in love, others don't?
Makes no sense.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
that's the big issue king edshel, sometimes one fails to be loyal...and that relationship you are trying to build (took you so many years to master on) crumbles easily if one fails..:( ...so where have all the years gone?..put into waste!
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While both are loyal to each other, there should be no problem ... otherwise ... all of this relation thing does not make sense.
yes, can name a few if i want to..:P (but you have to run after me..lol)
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kids are always innocent. wish i was a kid. and pure and didnt see all these things:)
men.. can be loyal. i want to be loyal and i am mostly:p thats all i know.. i am leaving to home now!
Know someone who can get hit with it? ;-P
azilana that's full of sarcasm...can feel it here..:P
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as men are loyal to their partners/gf, right?
i've been honest with my relationship..but see what it got me...nowhere..am i to be blame? yes, partly but majority because of him (taken from my past experience)...
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It's the first time I spoke of my "son" (he's 9 y/o btw) and mind you, he always tell me that when he grows up to be a man, he will never do what his father did...
Children nowadays are aware of what's happening around them...so don't generalize...
if u r not honest then i am lier:)
It's the Afghani in you Darude, always hiding in hills and caves. ;)
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
i like it up the hills :D
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eh gyspy i edited so i am down now..
lets check other girls. how wud u like ur son??
Of course we aren't honest. When we're honest the men always go running for the hills. :P
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
And so I say...DARUDE is a handsome young bloke, so nice and charming in person...
believe me...it's true, it's true ;-P
and all girls i know.. they want to raise their sons like bastards:) they want them to be a guy like just the shape u hate:) having many girls, playing with them...
actually u love it right?:)
I would never raise my son to be like that. I want my son to be gay.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
My handsome "SON"...
First: Is this for singles or married?
Two: As a women you have to first not expect to much. See, we expect as women for the man to take care and be the head. And when they do not live up to our (womens idea of a man)expectations we lose it and get up set and depress. There will never be anyone like our fathers.
Three: If you say you love him one moment but then he does something stuipd and then you can not stand him. You really do not love him. You love the cute easy part of the relationship.
JUST REMEBER THE ONLY ONE YOU CAN GET PERFECT LOVE FROM IS GOD.
Christie D Elsayed
azilana don't make me..:P you know far better what are my views on them..:D just keeping my mouth shut or else....
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You should always listen to your Dad Azzy, they're the only man who will ever truly love you!
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
you won't even comment on your own thread...hibernating or had too much to eat at lunch ;-P
I always tell my father then "PAPA DON'T PREACH"...and get me trampled anyway...lol
I tend to be nutty (sometimes) when I'm in love...lol
huh??? wake up on what?...you'd better answer this rightly or you will get yourself in trouble here..hmmmm...:/
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when we click on the Recent Comments we reach the last comment its cool
no more scrolling to the bottom
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
lol..still azzy it doesn't fit the pink box!..:D
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Come on, girl...WAKE UP!!!!
"18. Love without limits.
-> DON'T...leave something for yourself. You need to love yourself as well so you won't get trampled in a relationship"
Bravo Azzy. My father tells me that one all the time. :)
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
11. If he fooled you, end it.
-> YUP...why waste time with a LOSER...
12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.
-> YUP...you might end up and BE THE LOSER
13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.
-> Honey. SINGLEHOOD is a BLISS
14. Do not settle.
16. Don’t be afraid to be single.
-> YUP...just be honest with yourself. If you don't love the guy, ditch him (in a nice way, of course)
15. A relationship has to have love.
-> Don't forget the TRUST and HONESTY...these three works superbly in a relationship
17. Be a good girl.
-> GROW UP, girl! Then be a WOMAN...THAT'S the first thing you got to do. So you can get a REAL "MAN"...
18. Love without limits.
-> DON'T...leave something for yourself. You need to love yourself as well so you won't get trampled in a relationship
19. You will get over him.
-> Of course, you will honey...friends will be there to help you through it.
20. Be the one.
-> YOU "ARE" the "ONE"...that's why you're his "LADY"...so behave as you should...
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Sorry, guys/gals/OWEN...just bored and nothing better to do...
1. A man won’t let go if he really loves you.
-> a man won't even let you go even if he doesn't love you anymore, they just want you to hang on...lying through their teeth.
2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
-> Why not? He wooed you, didn't he? So there's got to be a reason...too chicken to say?
3. Do not get hang up on your past.
-> EASIER SAID than DONE, Miss.
4. Do not look into images.
-> Looks can be deceiving, that is...
5. Always have your own set of rules.
-> Rightly put...
6. Do not be scared to lose him.
-> So many fishes in the ocean....all you need is the right bait...lol
7. Avoid calling your guy.
-> Hmmmm....what was the number again?
8. There is a guy who will value you.
-> (shouting) JAUNTIE!!! Do I start kissing the "frogs" now????
9. Always be the only one, no matter what.
-> Oh,so true...
10. He must respect you.
-> he ought to, if he knows what's good for him
see, the color pink box doesn't fit/cover everything you said there...or its just that you made a long post, you reached the quota..:) (some can tell im avoiding to comment on my post..lol)
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now you females wana pick on me come get me hey wait 1 by 1 am not a tarzan :D
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yup. girls are not also honest most of the time. and it is always boys fault. we are perverts when we get bored and leave. and when girls leave thats bec we are weak:)
girls can show their interest and it is a normal thing but when we show interest to a girl it may make the boy disgusting:) (sometimes)
girls may sleep with guys they dont know it makes them independent and if we show any interest on that subject we are bad guys again.
girls may date a guy just bec he has money and it is ok but we cant date a girl just bec she has big boobs:)
it continues..
eh i know why .. u want to control us:)
when it comes to being honest, I don't know why do you always make it an issue with men. Is it only the man who is supposed to be honest? I don't have any respect for men with multiple relations, because it means 'from the end' spending every night in different bed.
The simple rule is, treat people with what you like them to treat you ... You can't ask someone to be honest while you are not, sometimes it is that we see the others mistakes and does not look at our own. If you know that this man won't be honest, then forget about him ...
I would agree with Jax on trust your instincts, but sometimes those instincts will take you far away especially if you start using them in predicting what he might do next .. That won't be good at all and will put you in trouble, there are a lot of points here that needs more elaboration because some are talking about the same idea.
I don't see men posting things like that, are we really that bad? Guess that it is easy for the man to move on while the same is no applicable to women. That is why ... I prefer not to get in any relation, not unless I make sure or be positive about it and know that I would be able to be the man that she is looking for ...
Otherwise, live with your broken heart, but don't break the others ...
what you girls need is a lie detector!!!!
lemme talk to some of the guys here n see if we can come up with somthing...lol
be sure to carry it on your date..lol
do it right - the first time!
i dont think there is such a list...u'll just have to trust ur intuition most of the time...and thats keeps it exciting...you dont really know most of the time if he's telling the truth or not, keeps you on ur toes and gives you something to fret about every now and then ;-P
"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."
They need a test we can administer secretly to see if they are being honest and to see what their intentions are.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
gypsy, that's kind of tough..and is there such a list? but who knows i might (crossing fingers) get some of them..:P (wishful thinking! specially how to tell them being HONEST):P
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Sadly I what I don't need is this list, what I do need is a list called, how to tell when he's being honest and how to trust again. If they made that list I would hang it on my wall. :P
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
if ur fingers are always itching to call, well, just delete his number, and dont memorize it or write it down somewhere before u do...and it also prevents you from doing drunk dialling ;-P
"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."
there is always a guy who will value you....
for some stupid reason, even if i dont have that much faith in men anymore, i still cling to that hope that i will find someone who'll value me and treat me right...i dont want a man who loves like a girl, i dont want him to be over emotional and too sensitive...i want a guy who loves like a real man, whatever that means ;-P
"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."
lol,luvhurts..trust me, been memorizing some of it now and trying to repeat some every now and then...hope it works..:P
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Now I know its a girl thing when my fingers itch to call, thought it's just me...
I might post it on my wall too!!
-A GUY WHO MAKES GOOD MONEY
-A GUY WHO ENTERTAINS HER
-A GUY THAT SHE LOVES
-A GUY WHO IS GOOD AT BED:P
My guys never have to worry about me calling them. I hate talking on the phone. In fact I've gotten in trouble in the past from guys for not contacting them enough. :p
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
this is a good one! the same is about the girls:
WHAT DOES GAL WANT?
-A GUY WHO MAKES GOOD MONEY
-A GUY WHO ENTERTAINS HER
-A GUY THAT SHE LOVES
-AND AN ENVIRONMENT TO MAKE SURE THESE THREE GUYS NEVER MEET!!!
I love that one!!!! lol....
From OWEN's post I agree with:
2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
6. Do not be scared to lose him.
7. Avoid calling your guy.
16. Don’t be afraid to be single.
and I disagree with
11.If he fooled you, end it.
if it was once and if he addmitted it was a mistake.....we all do mistakes...
r we talking about unaccounted for or unclaimed baggage?
just a silly observation, how come when we post long and the pink color doesn't cover them all?..is it a way of tellin that we should limit our long post?..lol...just an observation..:P
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at least has been worked with to a certain extent, new baggage.. hmmmm not for me..
~ your thoughts create your reality ~
Hey I disagree, Baggage is really cute. :P
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
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BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN - I don't recall this author's name but he was on the Oprah Winfrey show some time back..
~ your thoughts create your reality ~
Hmmm, they should add a section to number 3 saying, don't get hung up on your past but do learn from your mistakes. Sometimes you can just sense in a guy he's got the same issues as your ex and if you do, run away.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
owen, bear in mind number 8 and 3.
gypsy, true true true...:)
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Number 3 I think is the hardest one to do.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
here's something to cheer u all up
reposting an old one
WHAT DO GUYS WANT>>>
A GAL WHO CAN COOK
A GAL WHO MAKES GOOD MONEY
A GAL WHO LOVES HIM
AND AN ENVIRONMENT TO MAKE SURE THESE THREE GALS NEVER MEET.!!!
do it right - the first time!
love makes a person to do mushy stuff..... believe me u would also when your love sweeps u off your feet
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
mushy stuff again...;-P and u put this on ur wall...hmmmm...u really got it bad ;-P
"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."
Thanks for sharing this. Its an eye opener, for all of us not only to have the relationship we ever dreamed of but also to realize our self worth which is the foundation of a good life.
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lol
yes only trace was there
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
waaaaaahhhhh....i never expected that you will be also mushy tcom..lol
did you jog today?
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if u luv a person learn to let go
only then will u know true luv
if your luv returns its luv or else it was not meant to be
If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
hahaha. your funny. :)
dandy, yes and i still am holding that thought...and that's why i'm bein bombarded with email like this (it makes sense that's why i want to share it), hopin they would change my thoughts..:D inshullah...
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nice post! :) bdw, ate you the one who said " LOVE SUCKS BIGTIME!" (",) just joking. anyway, i appreciate the post.