Why do Parents Reject the Chosen One by their Children ? ? ?

from my side i prefer the person how can respect his Religion coz when u know how to respcet his Religion he will respcet his wife and her family.

and she will be in her happiness and her gold kingdom.

what meaning for life if her husband have money but he cant give her the happiness .

i will try to respcet what my daughters wants but i will not forget to search for someone have his honest and his educated and after that both of them will build up their life.

because they are all my life and my treasure in my world whom am living for.

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@GG: Girl, how you doing...and sheeesh how unfortunate you don't have a young daughter...LOL...thanks for the gesture, but yes the Girl's father has to give a justification...hmmm..I hope he does give me one...maybe I'll get you to talk on my behalf...LOL or Rayyz...

@Ray: Hey bro, very funny...thank god you don't have a daughter at the age of marriage yet...but hey if I'd gone for your daughter dude...I would have ensured her utmost happiness bro...LOL...

@King: Quite a few many reasons, some of them valid some of them ain't...but then fair enough...thanks for the reasons...and I'm doing alright thanks buddy, how about yourself?

@Ram: Well, understandable again, but naaa...there's nothing wrong with that part of the reason as far as I see it...

@Corne: Well, hey there girl, not much you can do when Girl's parents just don't accept you...

Thanks guys and all you lovely girls, for the quick responses...

Cheers...

I'm pretty sure I'll pass this year just got one more month (and a half)...

I might as well head to Rayyz's Event, to cheer up...that is (in this month) by far, THE BEST PLACE TO BE TO HAVE A LOT OF FUN (if you understand the language)...so yea...O well...Life goes on...doesn't it....?

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What does the in-laws professions have to do with the groom and the bride themselves ? I just hate it when families from both sides start interfering in their kids marital affairs, and when one party is judged based on his/her family's actions.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

another reason .. when the father is not happy with the job of the father in law ..

or when there is a personal troubles between the two families .. but still it's unfair and so selfishness from the parents ..

both of these reasons r real and happening in front of my eyes ..

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I came from a strict family.. its not my parents who is over protective.. guess who??? my brothers!!!

And sometimes when your family is against with your "chosen one".. you can't be happy at all times... Why don't they just love the man who loves their daughter...???

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but when the time comes.. the first thing I would like to assure is if she will be happy! Religion, family background or financial status is not so important requirements at all, I know it is necessary especially for those who belong to the upper classes but then give the full authority to your daughter to choose whom she want to spend the rest of her life with... I believe that parents should only guide her for decision making because at the end of the day, she is the one who is going to live with this man..HAPPINESS IS EVERYTHING!!!

This is what I believe now.. Maybe it will change when I become a real mother ;)

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Poor bloke Salax! Big mistake posting your lines here. Feel for you mate. LOL

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Salax - i wouldn't let anyone marry you.....

I wouldn't send anyone into violence.

Also you have a big potty mouth.

You frequently write swear words to me.

From your comments your oulook about wife/marriage is very pathetic..its hard for you to get a girl..lol

Oh come on. It was only a joke. Knowing Ksarat, the fine guy that he is, he will take it in the right spirit.

And he never said its about him anyway.

Moral: Behind every cheerful guy there's a sad story.

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Come on Ray dont disappoint him..lol I would...if I had a grown up daughter. He is a very nice and a gentleman...

How are you doing buddy? Long time no see and I hope that you are doing fine these days. Unfortunately a lot of parents forgot these days that in the end the final decision should be for their children and not them. They forgot about the right meaning of happiness and run after shallow things that does not matter while they forgot about what really matters. I got a lot of points here that will go as:

1- The father wants the future husband for his wife to match him [Profession-Thinking-Habits] and some of them would go more far and offer you their house to stay there just to keep you under their eyes and make sure that you are treating their daughter good.

2- The father is very rich and can't afford to be the joke of his partners buy letting his daughter marrying for example a poor guy.

3- Some of them still believes in such old fashion traditions such as the Cousins are for each other, my daughter will marry no one but her cousin.

4- The daughter is the one who is working and paying for most of daily life expenses and the family is relying on her and if she get married, who would be taking her place?

5- Again believing in old fashion traditions, the younger daughter can't be married before the elder one. What would happen if she did not and she got like 4 or 5 younger than her?

6- The high percentage of divorce cases these days, afraid that his daughter would be one of those one day and will return to his house again and find no one to marry her.

6- Different nationalities and religions also can be an issue for some families.

7- Afraid that their husband won't make her happy and would treat her bad.

8- The husband is having lower salary, bottom line he is looking for someone [in the father opinion] not to support him, but to take care of his expenses.

9- The educational level of the husband or his profession is something completely different than his wife [she is a doctor then should marry a doctor, how come this guy is an accountant?].

10- The mother want the girl for her relative [her sister's son, her only god knows how this guy is even relative to her].

11- Both of the parents agreed on not to agree on him [someone says yes, the other says no].

12- His family is from one of the families that have some issues [criminal relatives or having always issues with others, but com'on ... the other family members should not be effected because of someone did bad things].

13- The father is leaving the country soon after reaching his retire age and want his daughter to be there in his home country in front of him when he goes back.

14- The father believes that his daughter should continue her studies before getting married [some husbands promised to insure that, but later they force their wives to stop] and he got the right to ask for that [spending money for like 4 years and in the last year getting married and stop? just unfair and a waste of money].

There are more KSA, but those are some of the reasons, not my reasons of course ... Not a father yet but would love to see my daughter ending up with someone who would love her and always cherish this marriage.

Take Care dude ...

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LOL!

I for one won't give my daughter to someone nicked Ksarat16 on QL or outside! :P

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What’s happening dude? how could you hide your love story from us..lol

jokes apart.. if the boy meets all that you mentioned above...then I don’t see any reason, Maybe the father is not convinced that the boy is mature enough to get married/settle down or he thinks its just his daughter's infatuation. whatever.. ..the father got a responsibility to give a justification for not accepting the daughters choice.

There is not much serious thinking and writing to do in this subject. It is straight and simple "AUTHORITY" which parents consider will get eroded if they permit thier children / wards to choose their partners.

..**.. ""They walk among us. They vote & they even reproduce"" ..**..

Indeed girl, don't change when you actually become a Mother, I'm sure your daughter would be quite thankful for atleast this lifetime that you are her mother...

Thanks for the input girl...

Very valid indeed...its all about Happiness...

In this particular case, even the Happiness is there...but there's something that the Father isn't approving for...and that is quite hurting to think about...but then ...Such as LIFE...

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i hope you will not change then.your daughter will be thankful for this little freedom.

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I know its not always that Father is right

I would rather have one rose and a kind word from a friend while I'm here

Than a whole truck load when I'm gone

i call it overprotection.and fater thinks he knows the best but he does not always.

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Its called protection

or fater knows best .... lol

I would rather have one rose and a kind word from a friend while I'm here

Than a whole truck load when I'm gone

Ladies, how are you both doing today...Alexa: hows your kiddo son...

Swissmiss: When are you going to come back from vacation, so many waiting for your swiss chocs...

I guess, from where both of you come from, its not about parents having that power Alexa, I guess I would put it as how Swissmiss put it...you need to respect and realize that your daughter also has the right to choose...and is sensible and knows what she wants in life...

Well, I'm awaiting some responses lets see...

Thanks girls for dropping by...

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I dont know why.I never did.My daughter is 21 now and i respectet her choices always.Just told her to be careful.I cant live my daughters life and always said she is old enough to make her own desicions and i trusted her.And we parents cant keep troubles always away from our kids,they also must make some bad experiences to learn and to do it better the next time.

Myself i cant understand why many parents are so restrictly with her daughters choices.

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spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.

Keep the faith!*