why do some men beat their wives (UPDATE)
Just to let you all know that my neighbour who beat his wife has been released from the station after 2 nights in jail. his wife is staying with her sister and has decided to leave qatar back to egypt with her daughter. it has become a court case because she apparently has filed for divorce. the major thing is that she is doing fine and much happier than before, my wife told her how QL users all sympatise with her. so she is very happy and says thanks to everyone that wrote a comment on tuesday... thanks all again.
Men (so called) who hurt-beat-abuse mentally, physically and emotionally forget that they have a mother-sisters-unties, would they like their mothers to be treated that way, but in most cases (not always) they have been raised seeing this at home so they don't know any different, but i will say that anyone can make changes 4 the better, never to repeat the abuse n change their life 4 the better, if they only want n try...
Despicable
that's why I kicked her out of my life completely.
Being a fool once doesn't mean ur fool forever!
***** I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it. ******
its only true in rural parts of india...but apparently most of the Islamic world...
THis is true with many muslim households
Well first of all if it happened the first time..
I think a strong man would look at the situation and control himself.
then being a wise man as well he would think of why this has happened
And if he uses that wisdom then he would leave such a lady who did not respect him
Then he would not have the excuse that she did the same thing to him again.
If he does forgive her, for whatever reason, and it happens again.. Then I think he should stop forgiving her and get on with his life.
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
beating is not gonna solve this problem, its not easy to live with such a women. Hurting or abusing her will only worsen the situation. No point in living together then...leave her and live your life.
and you still forgive her and accepted her as your wife. Is it okay? and it happened again for the third time and for the third time also, asking for your forgiveness. I don't know if there's a man who will not lose his temper on this situation, specially if you really, truly love her.
***** I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it. ******
A strong man never loses his temper!
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
Well if it was me then I would pour hot grits on him. That way it sticks and he never forgets me ;)
I hope this lady has taken pictures, all police reports and has you give her a testimony eyewitness to the abuse Omar. From you and your wife.. along with anyone else who may have witnessed the abuse.
Has anyone thought of starting a QL fund for the girl? Our money can go along way in helping her never go back to the bastard!
And like gypsy and canarybird said.. Men love to kick us off on the streets even though they might be bloody millionaires.. The greedy bastards!
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
I think you are a crackpot and hope that one day you get the beating you deserve!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
... im just...... voicing out the wife-beater side, lol...
Women... dont let yourself become a punching bag, make yourself a better sparring partner .
***** I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it. ******
I am with you on this one, families are very akward in this kind of thing.
formatted, thanks... like i said on tuesday, it was not easy to get involved. i did not want to go, but the screams were getting scary, and my wife begged me to do it regardless of what might happen just to help the poor lady.and it took 4 weeks of constant screams for me to act , so im not a hero.. what if he killed her a week pior to my helping??? i am muslim too, though im british, so it was really hard to get involved, but i will do it again if i had to..
But how many of us dare to interfere in someone else personal life? What you did is really good, but I don’t think many people will put themselves in trouble, especially in this part of the world. If we see an injustice in the road we can react, but we dont go to someone’s house unless they ask for help.
You can't teach experience...
Please don't think I'm condoning wife beating!no way!An eye for an eye I think....look at whathisname Bobbitt, what a fantastic lady to do that!!
Absolutely CB! When they see me coming with the rusty scalpel they know they're in bother!lol
cuz they are jerks.
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"Be Like a Flower, Which gives off it's fragrance
even to the hand that crushes it.
I am sure she is treating her male patients like this lol lol - pity them if they complain about her services
mm theres some interesting things about how to be a good wife in the good book....like making sure you do not go to sleep until your husband is happy, or words to that effect. There was an interesting article in the Gulf Times on Friday about being a good wife!
whats so scary is how some brothers allow their sisters to be beat up by their so called husbands. i mean if my brother inlaw ever laid a hand on my sister, oh god that will be the day the earth stood still... it will be jungle justice.. eye for an eye. then he will know how it feels to beat a lady....
Hmmm, well I hear according to the Quran it's ok to beat her a bit if she just won't listen.
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Well said , Super nurse
Aunt Polly
What???? there is never a reason to beat your wife!
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come on there must be instances when a man should feel free kick the living daylights out of his wife....like when she doesn't cook what he wants,when she won't sleep with him,when the baby is crying etc etc when one is being a bad wife and not pleasing him, heaven forbid!! Then the wife should chop off his wotsit with a rusty knife and pour hot oil over the stump and shove it in his mouth...there.....happy wife again!!
alain_art do you beat your wife sometimes ???? is that what you are trying to say here??????
I think that women don't look at the world the same again after a man has beaten her up, I know I certainly don't and would even put a punch or two in myself nowadays.
Some people like me have no relatives to help them so what do you do then.
Men who are beating their wives are the lowest form of a cockroach that lives on this planet.
alain_arts, are you condoning wife beating if there is a reason then?
is stupidity... but there are instances that you lose ur temper on them...what you see next is a raging bull charging towards his wife.
***** I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it. ******
Mine kicked me out of the apartment, left me with hundreds of dollars in bills, and told all our friend I was a w##re.
Edshel, it's all about Pride for these guys, that's why the do it, it's a pride and a power thing.
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Tell me about it, mine cleared all bank accounts and took our appartment with him - he was Turkish, we had a big offshore bank account and apparmtent he cleared it all and not much I could do the lawyer was to slow and incompetent.
in that situation ... the wife has to understand her husband and he has also to understand her. What pride are you talking about guys? A man who hits his wife got no Pride or Dignity AT ALL ...
Life is not a mess so he can do whatever, she got her relatives back home and if he thinks that she is alone here and he can do whatever .. then there she is not and he will find men beating him to death if he will try to be a moron there again ...
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
I;m really afraid of that CB. Guys like that can be B##tards
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thing to know ... beating your wife like that is not acceptable at all for any reason.
Men doing that are really missing something really important there and ... they gotta somehow start questioning their selves being really men.
It always start simple, grow big and ... in the end sadly going out of control ... what are the reasons? There are a lot out there ... but none of them would be an excuse for doing that ...
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
A ama with you on this one chances are he might just to that, pride often lets things get messy.
Brave act of you. the main issue is to recover herself
Good that there is a court case, he cannot leave the Country soon. Otherwise he will go to Egypt and torture her more. Gold bless her and her child.
I'm glad she's leaving him. Not surprised the police released him though. Hope he doesn't come looking for revenge.
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thats such a good progress in for this case. hope the wife can be stronger person and can stand up for her right from now on.
thanks for updating. ask her to be online here and share her story. we all want to hear what she feel inside and whats keep her stay with him for long time.
Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.
well we will protect her identity for sure
Thats good......but I bet she just loved everyone in Qatar knowing she'd just been beaten to a pulp by her husband!!