Interview with Gays therapist
Having same-sex tendencies is a tough experience, and the task of the doctor who helps homosexuals get over such feelings might be tough as well. IslamOnline.net's (IOL) Health and Science Page conducted this interview with Dr. Awsam Hanna, an Egyptian psychiatrist who has experience in reparative therapy.
IOL: What are the main reasons that lead to same-sex tendencies?
Hanna: Many factors are responsible together. The most important is the failure of bonding between the child with the same sex parent (the relation between the son and his father, and the daughter with her mother.) Other genetic, upbringing, social and cultural issues play roles. For each individual those factors interact together in a unique way and result in his/her attraction to the same sex.
IOL: A question that might come up on many people’s minds is how does it start with homosexuals? How does one feel that he or she has this tendency, and how do they decide to eventually seek treatment?
Hanna: Since early childhood, the child who will be attracted to the same sex is different than the members of his or her gender. By the age of 12-15, the adolescent starts to feel different, with some romantic and/or sexual attractions to the same sex. Usually, there is history of sexual play with the same sex. At this age, the sexual play becomes more serious.
By the age of 16-17, the adolescent starts to realize that he or she is totally attracted to the same sex. Most of the times, he or she keeps this secret to him or herself and tries to stop or change, but very few of them seek treatment.
Usually, the treatment is not successful or they are not persistent in treatment and they either feel frustrated and depressed or seek to reconcile with the fact that they are "gay." Many continue to be depressed even after reconciling with their sexual orientation.
Some adolescents may go through a period of confusion about their sexual orientation around the age of 14-15, and then by the age of 17-18 become attracted to the opposite sex and forget about it altogether.
Others may keep a dormant attraction to the same sex or remember the pleasure of same-sex sexual play and may practice it from time to time as a form of a "secret life" even after they have gotten married and live a heterosexual lifestyle.
IOL: How does treatment work? Is it the same in all cases, or does it differ from one case to another?
Hanna: Treatment aims essentially at "growing out" of homosexuality. We believe homosexuality is an arrest in the psycho-sexual development because of failure in the bonding with members of the same sex as well as the person's own masculinity (for men) and femininity (for women).
It is also a part of the whole "homosexual personality," characterized by low self-esteem, lack of social skills, disconnection from body, and emotional isolation from society with varying degrees in different individuals. The isolation is not just because of the hatred and homophobia of society, it is an element in the psychopathology (disease process) of the disorder itself. Of course the homophobia of the society adds to it, but it is not entirely caused by it.
IOL: Do homosexuals take drugs as part of treatment or does it depend entirely on behavioral therapy?
Hanna: Treatment is essentially behavioral, cognitive, and psychodynamic (i.e. dealing with the dynamics of the family of origin and the healing of the inner child). Drugs may be used for the treatment of accompanying emotional problems like depression and/or anxiety.
IOL: Do homosexuals need to go to any other medical speciality after they finish their psychological treatment?
Hanna: Not necessarily.
IOL: According to your experience, do you find that homosexuals are shy to seek treatment?
Hanna: Yes, but this is slowly changing now.
IOL: After treatment, how can you be sure that the one you have treated will not have a setback? Is there a kind of follow-up that protects them from relapse?
Hanna: Nothing is sure. It is like the treatment of addiction. As long as the person is pursuing a healthy life, he or she will remain abstinent. With longer periods of abstinence as well as emotional growth, the attraction decreases gradually, and the opposite sex attraction starts to develop. After 15-20 years of abstinence and living a heterosexual lifestyle, the same-sex attraction almost diminishes.
However, with every "fall," the attraction is revived again and so forth. Of course following up is the rule. As in the treatment of addiction, you have to stay healthy all the time or you'll go back to the old lifestyle.
IOL: Is it a tough experience for you as a therapist to treat homosexuals?
Hanna: It is a great learning and personality development experience. Homosexuals taught me what it means that unconditional love and acceptance overcomes prejudice, cultural isolation and heals the hurts of the past. I always say that I have become a better person because of helping same sex attracted people. It is them who have healed and are continually healing me from my homophobia.
IOL: How do you view the solution to this issue?
Hanna: Fulfilling, deep, non-sexual, non-romantic same sex relationships are both the prevention in childhood and the cure in adulthood.
IOL: What do you say to those who think homosexuality is biological and that it should be left untreated?
Hanna: As a matter of fact, biology is part of the condition, not all of it. As I said before, it is a complex phenomenon. And I want to tell those who attack the treatment that they should respect the freedom of choice of those who seek treatment and want to change.
If you're comfortable with your sexuality, then someone else's won't bother you. Simple fact.
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I thought the Egyptians invented homosexuality.... thats why Cleopatra was so happy to see Anthony...
but then the disease spread from the Egyptians to the Romans and thru europe....
I dont see anything wrong in posting this, much informative than so many other craps which are being posted. Let the mod do their job, why members are worried??
though i dont agree with the doctor, wher the biologycal side and influence of it is been ignored.
Hijacking of the thread is illegal i guess.. mod should have some control on that part of it i guess.
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You are ahead of 500million people who live in this world.
gAYgOD??? DAMMED , I'm laughing and taking this one to mY confession Booth...
go ahead my son confess, confess and confess your hate for gaygods,...
Go ahead my son make my day!!
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i guess you earned your QL points with your name calling. Peace Man I decided to stay away from this crap OK?
have argument with other people.
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lol,
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show some respect to a gayGod.
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Is that a word? No not as funny as you are trying to be with your stupid and idiotic posts. If they can cure homosexuality maybe they can also cure stupidity. If this is the case, we better make an appointment for you.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
it seems to me you are disparately trying to being funny.
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what is your point? tigasin.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Got any plans for tonight? If not, call me. You have my number.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
realsomeone's got a cure for your horrible disease.
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reasomeone, are you gayGod?
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Good afternoon to all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
rofl hahahaha good one :D
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I'm not disrespecting what he's posted (though I don't agree with it), I merely wanted to know why he'd posted it. He's explained that now, but could have saved me a lot of time if he'd offered an explanation in the original post!
Thats freaking hilarious about Talibans...thats superb...ROFLMAO...brought my total office into laughing...reading this...and especially Number 1....
Duh! Brilliant! A Masri opinion on gays - give me a break......................loooooooooooool. Thats the best laugh on QL for months!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
because it's a new fact he discover that will strengthened his previous argument regarding this subject and I think there is nothing wrong about it. If anybody in the community "tumble" and article or news items that is related to previously-discussed topic, I think it will either compliment or contradict whatever discussion made before.
For me, I respect Realsomeone's whatever intention he has in his mind in posting this topic.
Like I had a smile after reading Gypsy's piece above. Let's respect each other opinion, my friend!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
on one of my favourite websites which is banned in Qatar
nothing like some satire...hilarious
the valid point is there is many homos in QL that also need to know that there is cure for this terrible disease.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
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Personally I think the doctor does have some valid points if you look at homosexuals in this region. I truley do believe there are some people here who were not born gay, but rather became gay because of the strict sexual segregation.
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and the point of posting it on QL realsomeone?
A guy goes into a sex shop to buy a blow up doll...
The shopkeeper says, 'we have three types of doll... Muslim, Christian or Jewish'
The guy asks, 'what's the difference?'
The shop keeper says, 'You have to blow up the Christian and Jewish dolls but the Muslim one blows herself up'.
gays has low self esteem??
when was this interview made..1960!
LOOL in fact that made me laugh so much Gypsy thanks for posting.
Tallg, i am not an expert but i believe homosexuality is disease and can be cured so i will agree with the doctor.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Marrying your first cousin makes me want to projectile vomit.....so different sexual practices shock different people
Gypo we are laughing in Bulgaria!
Damn you bandit lol
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I agree with all you say dmigtysolomon, but my question was why has realsomeone posted it. He's offered no explanation, which makes me think he's put it there purely to spark an argument. If there's a valid reason for posting it then that's great, but if there isn't then why not just leave it on IOL?
Ok Da, but you asked for it!
10 signs you might be a Taliban
10. You refine heroin for a living, but have a moral objection to beer..
9. You own a £1,500 machine gun and a £5,000 rocket launcher, but you can't afford shoes.
8. You have more wives than teeth.
7. You think vests come in two styles: bullet-proof and suicide.
6. You can't think of anyone you HAVEN'T declared Jihad against.
5. You consider television dangerous, but routinely carry ammunition in your clothes.
4. You've never been asked, 'Does this burka make my arse look big?'
3. You're amazed to discover that mobile phones have uses other than setting off roadside bombs.
2. A common compliment is, 'I love what you've done with your cave.'
And, the NUMBER ONE SIGN you might be a member of the Taliban:
1. You wipe your arse with your bare hand, but consider bacon unclean!
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also, it's not IOL to believe or not, but was the doctor being interviewed a credible one? Again, it will be debatable. Although I don't believe in IOL per se, the subject being discussed by the IOL and the doctor is a legitimate subject. So it's up to the reader whether to accept or not. It's hard to solve a problem if the person is in denial stage....so they say
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Joke on Taliban? Post it
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Just send a Pm to QATARI.
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I just got forwarded a joke "The Top ten ways your know you're Taliban" now if I posted THAT there would really be chaos and mass destruction...oh so tempting.
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Like i said, we need to ban these subjects. Realsomeone, no offense, but these kind of things create chaos and massive destruction.
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You have the right to post things here realsomeone, but at least offer some opinion on what you cut and paste. Do you agree with it? Disagree?
I kind of agree with your Angelical comment.
Maybe that person is related to PEPE LE PEW.....LOL
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you bet. lol
chaud
I got a question?
How come they don't lock this thread?
Justice should be deliver equally..
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Realsomeone is quite obsessed with it really. You know what they say about homophobes, the more you hate gays, the more gay you are.
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Gayz... this is the 456,876,989th time this topic had been discussed B4....
Guess what, I am trying to find a treatment for people like you...read the interview and contact the doctor.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
gypsy, neither do i
chaud
That's providing of course you believe anything IOL has to say. Personally I don't.
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dmighty....
sort of according to IOL
chaud
What a pile of bull.
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Guess you are a gay then because you know tonne of topic about gays were posted you can go check that to satisfy yourself with it. WHY REPEATING IT.
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This is public forum that every member has the right to post anything that isnt against the guidelines of this Site.
therefore its not your business to question why i post. if you want senseless argument. expect it not from me.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
can we say that homosexuality is a kind of abnormality????
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
DaDuDe - a LadyBoy :)
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then why did you post it?? just to stir up the forum once again which you are used to and find it interesting.
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with all due respect. I am NONE of the two you mentioned.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Or lesbian??
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