Hi!
I feel restless these few weeks, I can't make good decisions, I get sad more easily. I feel so low.
I think I have some symptoms of depression. I know I need to seek help before it gets worse.
"what is more important to you, your work here or being with your children?" Answer? My work here. Why? because if I have my work here, I can support my kids. I am not a type of parent that will sit at home all day and watch my kids when I can not give what they need. I guess it's not difficult to understand.
you are right in your decision all along, so why complain about your husband and your awkward situation?
All righteous men and majority of women will tell, "kick your husband ass and let him realised his mistakes and indifference". But will it make you happy? Will it make the situation fine. Remember, he is the one enjoying the company of your children and you are sweating here in this country trying to give everything for your children.
Let me ask you a simple question, what is more important to you, your work here or being with your children? Many made a mistakes already, they taught that giving the needs of their children is by material things, wrong, the guidance of a mother is very important. You have another option, get your children here, but, without the consent of your husband, it's next to impossible.
And I am telling you, Debeers, exposing your children to your husband more than you may have a great effect on their personality and level of affection towards you. Please continue to read between the lines. If I am offending you, I am sorry, I just want to help, POSITIVELY. Save your children's future but do save the relationship as it is starting to fall apart.
If the relationship between you and your husband is already unsavable, let the children stay with your parents and not in his. Anything less than this, do not complain about your depression, it meant to be.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Yeah, I know what to do. I'm not going to convince him again. I've done more than enough. I'll just move on with my life. I have a career, I have my friends. There's a lot in store for me. And I'm a survivor,I'll be fine.
debeers...there is this lady who received terrible burns all over her body after being involved in a car accident...and I mean TERRIBLE. She says she allows herself to cry and feel sorry for herself for only one minute and then gets over it.
Keep moving forward, whether or not you get sympathy, be it from your husband, or QLers (who I must say on this thread have been most helpful).
------------Virgos dont like chaos, gerrit? ----------
You're not at fault girl, you did the right thing for the right reason at the right time. Unfortunatly he sounds like he's a waster. Does it really stretch your imagination to see where your money probably goes back home.
Get a grip and next time you see him kick him in the nuts. It should at least slow him down for a while and save you some money.
As I am reading between the lines, it seems that you are trying to point out that I am at fault here. Do you honestly think that if I feel that he can support the family back there, I will be in this place with all the inconveniences?
It is always true that if you are a woman, no matter what you do, it's never enough.
Instead u are not helping bcz u are pointing fingers..
While it is obvious that the decision for going abroad was a decision done in agreement with her husband.. and as she already clarified.. the only reason she went first bcz she was presented with the opportunity first..
I have seen it a lot of time when the wife opted to go abroad (to work) and the husband is left in our country. Most of it ended this way. Temptations in the Philippines, and include the bad economy and high cost of living, the problem of Debeers is happening to a lot of couples.
My advice to all couples close to me, never let the women go abroad without the husband or it's the husband to go abroad and not the other way around.
Debeers, it's your decision or action what matters here. Forced your husband to join you here or go home and be with your family. The present consequnce is a result of an earlier action you made (going abroad without your husband).
Mind you, I know your reasons in going out, but did you not ready yourself for such consequence or the price you have to pay for such decisions?
I still stand by my first advice, joins us in our bonding moments and lessen your depression.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
I wouldnt advice u into giving him an ultimatum that if he doesnt come here you'll dump his ass. Marriage isnt always about making the other person do what u want all the time. Agreed your working hard to support family back home but the real problem here is not him not wanting to come here coz he doesnt want to leave the kids alone, the real problem here is YOU..you've made life for a MAN who is supposed to be the one that takes care of you, way to easy. Work on trying to make him more responsible, both husband and wife need to work together not only for themselves but now they need to work for their children's future and u cant do that alone and you shouldnt do it alone coz you have a husband...make use of him. Money doesnt grow on trees around here and your husband needs to realize that.
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
Debeers that is very positive thinking.. u know that moving here was the right decision for ur childrens future and nothing should change that.. u just need to establish stronger communication with ur husband.. hopefully things will phase out once he begins to understand what ur going thru
to go out in the malls...do some window shopping (not necessarily buying). I heard from one psychologist before that this type of therapy helps to ease your depression. Also,as part of being a mother, try to be realistic of the situation. You made your choice to go abroad and you should stand by it. I think the best thing to do is pray,pray for the safety of you kids & family while you're away. That alone can help calm your troubled feelings.
I dont see myself as givng her negative advice in telling her to reduce sending money to her husband.. and to work on getting him to come to qatar so they can together work hand in hand to make life better...
I agree once again with Smoke.. Married life is a commitment; a promise to be together for better or worse.. and it is at the down times that we need to work harder on being together bcz thats were the right support comes from.
Debeers u have provided ur husband with too many comforts.. he just needs to understand what u are going thru.. when u talk to him.. dont build a nice picture of ur situation here just so that he doesnt worry.. no.. let him worry.. let him know that u need him here with u so together u can bring ur kids and live as a family...
When a person is working away from home.. they always try to make things easier for their family by not letting them know how hard it is .. well dont do that..
different people have different ways to see it. Maybe that's your opinion, but mine is different. What I am saying is not applicable to all. Mine is only an advice. Little knowledge is dangerous as they say, our friend debeers is spilling it little by little by your "encouragement" and it will will pull her deeper to depression. Agreeing with her does not solve the problem but maybe, "maybe" compounding it. You are pushing her to the negative solution instead of making the relationship remains and works.
One suggested that she return home and again, "maybe", talk the problem by themselves with the help of their loveones but not by strangers who do not know the whole picture. I suggest that you give positive solutions and don't make things worse as it seems.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
some things in life needs to be given deeper contemplation before jumping to any harsh decisions...
you are not obliged to take any bitter pill yet,
depressions can be cured by expressions..
express it out! voice it out! take a breather!
or find a shoulder to cry on!!
by doing these, negative energy build-up will dessipate and your dreadful feeling shall be lightened up.
tonight, go out and have some fun... bowling is fun!
whenever i felt angst in life, i go bowling and imagine the pins are my problems.. then i'd imagine the ball taking the negative energy in me, then throw it as if there is no more tomorow!!!
If you want to follow Smoke's advice.. which is the best ... i can suggest for u to implement an advice also given by someone else and that is to send money for ur daughters thru ur parents...
thru them ur daughters will be able to get the few extra luxuries that you are working ur a** for here to provide for them there..
how do u know that by sending the money which is disappearing ever so fast that ur daughters are effectively getting what they want?! how do u know its not being spent elsewhere?! maybe it isnt.. but since u are feeling that you are being taken for granted.. then work on it this way..
try to find a way to enforce ur husband to get his act together and come here so u guys can work together and hopefully soon ur children can join u ..
Sometimes a person feels better talking to those who dont know him/her and it makes it easier to express whats deep inside.. because u know these ppl do not know u and will not judge u...
Just because she wanted to ask for advice here does not mean she making the bad move.. and with different opinions coming in u cannot generalize and say that she will be pushed into more depression.. but instead she will definitely feel lighter knowing the number of people who actually cared enough to read and give an opinion.. whether supportive or not!
Not all Filipinos (not Philippinos) are as what you perceived.
Debeers, try to find somebody close to you and deal this thing in a more intent way, not this way of expounding the badside of your husband.
I would presume that as a way to comfort you (as they think), they will even push you to more depression by agreeing with your perception of your husband.
Even if it is true, what good it will give you. My advice, use the PM to discuss this matter as we do not know the whole picture of your relationship.
Cheer up, join us in Filexpat "bonding moments" and we guarantee that your depression will turn to happiness
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
"for sure I will come to that point when I will give him an ultimatum. It's either he comes here or he lose me."... - i do hope you come to that point soon enough....
for sure I will come to that point when I will give him an ultimatum. It's either he comes here or he lose me. I f he does not want to come here, then fine. That means he's showing that I really can not depend on him.
I guess it's also a mistake on my part that I have always been responsible, that he did not have to worry coz I will take care of everything.
Anyway, everything has a limit, we'll see what will happen. Thank you all guys. Have a nice day ahead.
Charan, and as a foreigner you're making generalizations? Nice eh!
Oh don't get me started with the places I have been to in my own country. ;)
Anyway, you should have said that the Filipinos that you have met in your 'short' stay in the Philippines made you conclude that the majority of the Filipinos are lazy.
It's a weak generalization my friend.. but then, we're all welcome to our own opinions and sentiments.
only send money through your parents not him....he's workin there so i dont see why you should send him any money, who knows where he's spendin your hard-earned money...
Indeed, he's what i would call a house husband, someone who would rather take on a house wife's role but only difference is that he's a a$$ crack :) What u need to do is stop sending any money back home, tell him your going through some financial difficulties here, save the money you'd normally send him every month and send it every two months or so, that way he'll be forced to use what he earns to run the expenses back home, and start to be more responsible.
Now to solve ur depression just keep looking at my Kat shake its ass
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
debeers, well then stop being depressed! I'm sure you have lots of friends here. I know it's easier said than done, but you can at least try. Qatar is a fun place especially when you're with great people!
he's not worth the depression, believe me.. so he's a jerk and an a*hole, and he doesn't care about saving for your kid's future? you know what to do.... ;)
I just been reading what you wrote...I must say you need to get your husband's ass freaking realizing what you are going through here...otherwise kick his balls up his freaking mouth and then he might realize how much pains you are endorsing here in your daily struggle for their well-beingness...and that jackass (pardon my language) is lazing his azz around...
I had a good job back home. I was working for one Universal bank as aupervisor. I was receiving fair enough but I'm thinking of the years that my children has to go to college, I need to save, etc, those things. Now I realize it's only me thinking and worrying about these things. I mean, c'mon, others would realy find way to come here. In his case, Im doing the job for him, he just have to pack his things and head for the airport and he does not want to do that.
mj, he's working, but I'm paying everything, absolutely everything. I don't know what happens to his cash. One time I asked him, coz I left him some cash before I left for Qatar (70,000) and in a span of 1 month, gone.
What's a secret CD? Is it the same as "The Secret" book?
My friend has a copy of that. I also have "The Law of Attraction" but it simply does not subtitute to this matter. I know I sound dramatic, but I just need to release this.
My husband has always depended on me for everything. I am thinking that he is happy there because life there is easier for him. He is with our two lovely daughters,his family and friends plus my family and of course an allowance that he just to get from the ATM Machine. He's so lucky, I envy him. He does not have an idea what I am going through here.
think positively always. Beleive deep in your heart that things are going to go fine as you always want it. If possible try to see the 'secret ' c.d. It motivates towards positive thinking and you would feel that you can overcome any hurdle in life. It has worked for me and many of my close friends.JUST THINK POSITIVE. All the Best
I've been here in Doha for a year now. My family is not here and I miss my kids so terribly. I found a way to bring my husband here and eventually (hopefully), my kids. The sad thing is that my husband does not want to come here, why? because he does not want to leave the kids.
The bottom line is, I will always be the one to support the family. I am a mother and I am suppossed to be with my children but I am here because I was the one who first got the opportunity.
I don't know if I am right or wrong but I am starting to feel that this is not fair. I have always taken cared of everybody since I was young as I am the eldest. Now, I want that somebody will take care of me, but seems that it's not close to reality.
hmm, that's very typical here in Doha. try and talk to people dear. especially to the ones who you can open your heart too or even just talk to friends and have a hearty laugh, it would feel better. and try and do things also, anything that will take away some of this depressing moment thinking session, :)
and remember there are people who care for you. be better... :)
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Dear ....im also here wd ma Kidoos n their dad out of town mostly...so just get ur kids wd u ull feeel better
"what is more important to you, your work here or being with your children?" Answer? My work here. Why? because if I have my work here, I can support my kids. I am not a type of parent that will sit at home all day and watch my kids when I can not give what they need. I guess it's not difficult to understand.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
you are right in your decision all along, so why complain about your husband and your awkward situation?
All righteous men and majority of women will tell, "kick your husband ass and let him realised his mistakes and indifference". But will it make you happy? Will it make the situation fine. Remember, he is the one enjoying the company of your children and you are sweating here in this country trying to give everything for your children.
Let me ask you a simple question, what is more important to you, your work here or being with your children? Many made a mistakes already, they taught that giving the needs of their children is by material things, wrong, the guidance of a mother is very important. You have another option, get your children here, but, without the consent of your husband, it's next to impossible.
And I am telling you, Debeers, exposing your children to your husband more than you may have a great effect on their personality and level of affection towards you. Please continue to read between the lines. If I am offending you, I am sorry, I just want to help, POSITIVELY. Save your children's future but do save the relationship as it is starting to fall apart.
If the relationship between you and your husband is already unsavable, let the children stay with your parents and not in his. Anything less than this, do not complain about your depression, it meant to be.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
hey good for you.... :) im sure you'll do just fine...
Yeah, I know what to do. I'm not going to convince him again. I've done more than enough. I'll just move on with my life. I have a career, I have my friends. There's a lot in store for me. And I'm a survivor,I'll be fine.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
you ought to confront him now whether or not he is interested at all in joining you here,.. if he says no, then, you'll know what to do, i trust....
http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Sadness
http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-with-Depression
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"The most destructive force in the universe is gossip"
debeers...there is this lady who received terrible burns all over her body after being involved in a car accident...and I mean TERRIBLE. She says she allows herself to cry and feel sorry for herself for only one minute and then gets over it.
Keep moving forward, whether or not you get sympathy, be it from your husband, or QLers (who I must say on this thread have been most helpful).
------------Virgos dont like chaos, gerrit? ----------
Yes, I know Im not wrong and I'll never regret coming here.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
you are certainly not at fault...dont listen to those who says so...
You're not at fault girl, you did the right thing for the right reason at the right time. Unfortunatly he sounds like he's a waster. Does it really stretch your imagination to see where your money probably goes back home.
Get a grip and next time you see him kick him in the nuts. It should at least slow him down for a while and save you some money.
just eat another pie
As I am reading between the lines, it seems that you are trying to point out that I am at fault here. Do you honestly think that if I feel that he can support the family back there, I will be in this place with all the inconveniences?
It is always true that if you are a woman, no matter what you do, it's never enough.
Im out of here.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
Instead u are not helping bcz u are pointing fingers..
While it is obvious that the decision for going abroad was a decision done in agreement with her husband.. and as she already clarified.. the only reason she went first bcz she was presented with the opportunity first..
WYSIWYG
I have seen it a lot of time when the wife opted to go abroad (to work) and the husband is left in our country. Most of it ended this way. Temptations in the Philippines, and include the bad economy and high cost of living, the problem of Debeers is happening to a lot of couples.
My advice to all couples close to me, never let the women go abroad without the husband or it's the husband to go abroad and not the other way around.
Debeers, it's your decision or action what matters here. Forced your husband to join you here or go home and be with your family. The present consequnce is a result of an earlier action you made (going abroad without your husband).
Mind you, I know your reasons in going out, but did you not ready yourself for such consequence or the price you have to pay for such decisions?
I still stand by my first advice, joins us in our bonding moments and lessen your depression.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
I wouldnt advice u into giving him an ultimatum that if he doesnt come here you'll dump his ass. Marriage isnt always about making the other person do what u want all the time. Agreed your working hard to support family back home but the real problem here is not him not wanting to come here coz he doesnt want to leave the kids alone, the real problem here is YOU..you've made life for a MAN who is supposed to be the one that takes care of you, way to easy. Work on trying to make him more responsible, both husband and wife need to work together not only for themselves but now they need to work for their children's future and u cant do that alone and you shouldnt do it alone coz you have a husband...make use of him. Money doesnt grow on trees around here and your husband needs to realize that.
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
Debeers that is very positive thinking.. u know that moving here was the right decision for ur childrens future and nothing should change that.. u just need to establish stronger communication with ur husband.. hopefully things will phase out once he begins to understand what ur going thru
WYSIWYG
instead of talking to somebody elses, it's your right to discuss to him with whatever bothers you.
i think you maybe taking the worries too far without establishing first some facts.
get his view on why he does'nt want to join you here. and weigh that down, then get other peoples advice if his reasoning still confuses you...
KNOW THE PROBLEM FIRST BEFORE THINKING OF THE SOLUTION!!
I'll not go home for this no matter what.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
to go out in the malls...do some window shopping (not necessarily buying). I heard from one psychologist before that this type of therapy helps to ease your depression. Also,as part of being a mother, try to be realistic of the situation. You made your choice to go abroad and you should stand by it. I think the best thing to do is pray,pray for the safety of you kids & family while you're away. That alone can help calm your troubled feelings.
I dont see myself as givng her negative advice in telling her to reduce sending money to her husband.. and to work on getting him to come to qatar so they can together work hand in hand to make life better...
I agree once again with Smoke.. Married life is a commitment; a promise to be together for better or worse.. and it is at the down times that we need to work harder on being together bcz thats were the right support comes from.
Debeers u have provided ur husband with too many comforts.. he just needs to understand what u are going thru.. when u talk to him.. dont build a nice picture of ur situation here just so that he doesnt worry.. no.. let him worry.. let him know that u need him here with u so together u can bring ur kids and live as a family...
When a person is working away from home.. they always try to make things easier for their family by not letting them know how hard it is .. well dont do that..
WYSIWYG
Please call your good friends or call me...PM me..I give you my number.
different people have different ways to see it. Maybe that's your opinion, but mine is different. What I am saying is not applicable to all. Mine is only an advice. Little knowledge is dangerous as they say, our friend debeers is spilling it little by little by your "encouragement" and it will will pull her deeper to depression. Agreeing with her does not solve the problem but maybe, "maybe" compounding it. You are pushing her to the negative solution instead of making the relationship remains and works.
One suggested that she return home and again, "maybe", talk the problem by themselves with the help of their loveones but not by strangers who do not know the whole picture. I suggest that you give positive solutions and don't make things worse as it seems.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
That time of the month eh ?
It'll pass..
some things in life needs to be given deeper contemplation before jumping to any harsh decisions...
you are not obliged to take any bitter pill yet,
depressions can be cured by expressions..
express it out! voice it out! take a breather!
or find a shoulder to cry on!!
by doing these, negative energy build-up will dessipate and your dreadful feeling shall be lightened up.
tonight, go out and have some fun... bowling is fun!
whenever i felt angst in life, i go bowling and imagine the pins are my problems.. then i'd imagine the ball taking the negative energy in me, then throw it as if there is no more tomorow!!!
ALAS, if i strike them out...
i FELT WONDERFUL thereafter!!
why don't you give it a try? SEE YOU TONIGHT ;-)
dmigtysolomon - may be :(
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
If you want to follow Smoke's advice.. which is the best ... i can suggest for u to implement an advice also given by someone else and that is to send money for ur daughters thru ur parents...
thru them ur daughters will be able to get the few extra luxuries that you are working ur a** for here to provide for them there..
how do u know that by sending the money which is disappearing ever so fast that ur daughters are effectively getting what they want?! how do u know its not being spent elsewhere?! maybe it isnt.. but since u are feeling that you are being taken for granted.. then work on it this way..
try to find a way to enforce ur husband to get his act together and come here so u guys can work together and hopefully soon ur children can join u ..
WYSIWYG
loulsy, you said it right...
Sometimes a person feels better talking to those who dont know him/her and it makes it easier to express whats deep inside.. because u know these ppl do not know u and will not judge u...
Just because she wanted to ask for advice here does not mean she making the bad move.. and with different opinions coming in u cannot generalize and say that she will be pushed into more depression.. but instead she will definitely feel lighter knowing the number of people who actually cared enough to read and give an opinion.. whether supportive or not!
WYSIWYG
I thought of that but I felt guilty that my daughters will not have what they need.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
Not all Filipinos (not Philippinos) are as what you perceived.
Debeers, try to find somebody close to you and deal this thing in a more intent way, not this way of expounding the badside of your husband.
I would presume that as a way to comfort you (as they think), they will even push you to more depression by agreeing with your perception of your husband.
Even if it is true, what good it will give you. My advice, use the PM to discuss this matter as we do not know the whole picture of your relationship.
Cheer up, join us in Filexpat "bonding moments" and we guarantee that your depression will turn to happiness
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
I don't think 3 years on & off basis is a short stay.
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
May be he is spending the money in a nearby KAROKE joint :)
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
.good advise, smoke.
.
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"for sure I will come to that point when I will give him an ultimatum. It's either he comes here or he lose me."... - i do hope you come to that point soon enough....
WTF are you doing...Where are you jackass...missed you from the morning honey... :P
for sure I will come to that point when I will give him an ultimatum. It's either he comes here or he lose me. I f he does not want to come here, then fine. That means he's showing that I really can not depend on him.
I guess it's also a mistake on my part that I have always been responsible, that he did not have to worry coz I will take care of everything.
Anyway, everything has a limit, we'll see what will happen. Thank you all guys. Have a nice day ahead.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
Charan, and as a foreigner you're making generalizations? Nice eh!
Oh don't get me started with the places I have been to in my own country. ;)
Anyway, you should have said that the Filipinos that you have met in your 'short' stay in the Philippines made you conclude that the majority of the Filipinos are lazy.
It's a weak generalization my friend.. but then, we're all welcome to our own opinions and sentiments.
only send money through your parents not him....he's workin there so i dont see why you should send him any money, who knows where he's spendin your hard-earned money...
Indeed, he's what i would call a house husband, someone who would rather take on a house wife's role but only difference is that he's a a$$ crack :) What u need to do is stop sending any money back home, tell him your going through some financial difficulties here, save the money you'd normally send him every month and send it every two months or so, that way he'll be forced to use what he earns to run the expenses back home, and start to be more responsible.
Now to solve ur depression just keep looking at my Kat shake its ass
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
janeyjaney - I am sure you never ever been to the places in Philippine where I stayed as a Foreigner
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
give him an ultimatum this time, but you have to mean it like one...
Based on My stays at numerous places like Phagassinan, Buggio, Illucos Sur, Illucos norte, Batangas. Bulacan...... Etc. Etc.in philippines.
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
.ask him again.
.
.your line this time will be "help me or ill ditch you?"
.
debeers, well then stop being depressed! I'm sure you have lots of friends here. I know it's easier said than done, but you can at least try. Qatar is a fun place especially when you're with great people!
Majority? How many have you met? Millions I bet huh?! Good on you!
he's not worth the depression, believe me.. so he's a jerk and an a*hole, and he doesn't care about saving for your kid's future? you know what to do.... ;)
My comment is applicable to the majority of Philippinos back in philippines (based on my experience). not your Overseas Workers Population :)
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
I will not go back just like that, it's not worth it. He needs to sort things out, he is the problem, not me. **************************
Everything happens for a
reason.
debeers, if you're not happy here just go back to your family and leave Qatar. It's not worth the depression you're going through.
Sounds like your husband is a typical as*hole. :D
Oops, did I just say that?
I just been reading what you wrote...I must say you need to get your husband's ass freaking realizing what you are going through here...otherwise kick his balls up his freaking mouth and then he might realize how much pains you are endorsing here in your daily struggle for their well-beingness...and that jackass (pardon my language) is lazing his azz around...
I had a good job back home. I was working for one Universal bank as aupervisor. I was receiving fair enough but I'm thinking of the years that my children has to go to college, I need to save, etc, those things. Now I realize it's only me thinking and worrying about these things. I mean, c'mon, others would realy find way to come here. In his case, Im doing the job for him, he just have to pack his things and head for the airport and he does not want to do that.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
Actually Charan, again I beg to differ. As much as you say you know a lot about Filipinos, this time you're wrong. :) This guy is LAZY.
.typical filipino?
i beg to differ..........
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.enough already, join us tonight, will go bowling..
.pm me for details....
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.go with us at mag chika tayo magdamagan,(will talk 'til dawn) promise.
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debeers - Your husband sounds like a Typhical Philippino :)
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
Kakaiyak lng, I'm doing almost everything for the family. If you're a woman, no matter what you do, its never enough.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
mj, he's working, but I'm paying everything, absolutely everything. I don't know what happens to his cash. One time I asked him, coz I left him some cash before I left for Qatar (70,000) and in a span of 1 month, gone.
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Everything happens for a
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What's a secret CD? Is it the same as "The Secret" book?
My friend has a copy of that. I also have "The Law of Attraction" but it simply does not subtitute to this matter. I know I sound dramatic, but I just need to release this.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
.now your making me blue.
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.you talk to your husband about it.
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so you're husband just stays at home without a job?
My husband has always depended on me for everything. I am thinking that he is happy there because life there is easier for him. He is with our two lovely daughters,his family and friends plus my family and of course an allowance that he just to get from the ATM Machine. He's so lucky, I envy him. He does not have an idea what I am going through here.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
Take happy pills. :p YAY ME!!!!!!!!
think positively always. Beleive deep in your heart that things are going to go fine as you always want it. If possible try to see the 'secret ' c.d. It motivates towards positive thinking and you would feel that you can overcome any hurdle in life. It has worked for me and many of my close friends.JUST THINK POSITIVE. All the Best
i'm feeling with you...
.hey drama queen of the day..drowning your sorrows????
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.don;t let this happen to you.
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.you take a shower and hit the malls, buy an LV(lol)..
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.or better yet, join the QL Filexpat group, join one event and after that you'll end up, wondering when is the next event...
and worst..
youl develop big eyebags (dahil ikaw ay magiging babaeng walang pahinga)
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then youl totally forget 'sadness",,
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Only Love & Respect of Others Make us Human.
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Rest will get better. It does always. Human relations are the most important factor in our lives. Enjoy while you can.
If its not possible, you may be looking for a new relationship Unintentionally, Innocently :-)
Find a hobby you enjoy and where you see results-mine is wood working. Always gets rid of my depression.
I hope it's as easy as it is said.
I've been here in Doha for a year now. My family is not here and I miss my kids so terribly. I found a way to bring my husband here and eventually (hopefully), my kids. The sad thing is that my husband does not want to come here, why? because he does not want to leave the kids.
The bottom line is, I will always be the one to support the family. I am a mother and I am suppossed to be with my children but I am here because I was the one who first got the opportunity.
I don't know if I am right or wrong but I am starting to feel that this is not fair. I have always taken cared of everybody since I was young as I am the eldest. Now, I want that somebody will take care of me, but seems that it's not close to reality.
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Everything happens for a
reason.
engage urself in productive activities
Try Retail therapy :) spoil urself !!!
Last thing u should do is sit at home n feel sorry n lonely ... tht will just make it so much worse !!
hmm, that's very typical here in Doha. try and talk to people dear. especially to the ones who you can open your heart too or even just talk to friends and have a hearty laugh, it would feel better. and try and do things also, anything that will take away some of this depressing moment thinking session, :)
and remember there are people who care for you. be better... :)
What kind of help you want?
"Love is built on hope. Sure it is filled with risk and with disappointment, but it is still something that gives your life a greater meaning."