Facing the Enemy
One of my closest colleague whom i trusted and knew about me and my life is now fighting with cancer. It is a very sad news. Way back from our University years, she was suffering from insomia and other sickness, cant determine what really is. Few months ago after series of test it was confirmed she has Lupus, which is an incurable disease. Its the same enemy that killed her mother.
Im the first person who know about this and not even her family. It just makes me feel bad that im a thousand miles away. What can i possibly do? She requested not to inform her family. She in great stress, add to it her responsibilities at home and their business.
Has anyone been in this situation? How did you deal with it? What can I possibly do in this situation.
I would also request for your prayers that she will be healed. Miracles do happen...
Thanks tatzkie, DMS and LIB.
Personally i want to inform a family member of what she is going thru. She is all by herself going to med check ups from time to time and battling with her emotions too. I will see her in a few months and i will discuss this with her.
Thanks for your prayers for sure the Lord hears all of us. God bless to you all.
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Any disease however terminal does not rule out the miracles. Please tell your frined that having a disease is not the last she will get from her lord. She needs to feel from the depths of her heart that she is getting better.Tell her to actually start believing that she is healing. She should not keep her prescriptions,reports etc in front of her all the time.Tell her to hide them. She should believe that she is getting better.
My prayers are with her.
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physically to support her bout. Its not clear in your posting whether there are others who knows the condition also but what she needs now is someone to talk to physically and someone who will boost her morale to go on with life despite the diseases.
And for me, her family is the best option! Encourage her to tell it to her family. No one could love her more than her family (unless......)
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lovinni in my opinion your friend's family should know about her condition. I know it will be hard for them to accept it but it will be much harder for them if you just keep quiet. Your friend needs the tender loving care, support and love of her family as she is battling her sickness. Advice your friend to just lift everything to God. And to have faith in HIM. My prayers are with her.
I wish her all the best, and hope she can make it. Its life, she has to face it with strong will. If she knew other people who have bigger problems than her, she will think hers is nothing. Anyhow, wish her good health and recovery. Its not impossible for faith.
Existence is a heavy burden, only high spirited ones can bear it.
so sad to hear it.our prayers are with you and your friend. God bless your lovely freind.
be there there always by her side and make her mentaly strong.
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Hi all, just want to express my deepest gratitude for all your prayers and sympathy for my dearest friend. i received her message today:
"Guys, Thank you for your prayers. I am clear with cancer and lupus for now. (But im ok)
I have to have medical check ups from time to time though.. ... ..."
Yes MIRACLES do work. And with faith and continuous prayer things will be ok. I am so happy, cant describe how i feel. I can say this is my best gift this season.
We may be facing different enemies in our daily lives. We just need to hang on. In the end...it wil be all good for us.
THANK U SO MUCH, DEAR QLERS FOR YOUR SUPPORT!
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Oh lovinni, thats awful. My prayers are with you and your friend.
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mj..the treatments dont treat the disease itself...only to fight back back with the symptoms. its still incurable...thanks for your concern and also to you, who.am.i...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
lupus or SLE is like an auto-immune disease which attacks virtually any system in the body, but there are treatments available... i hope for the best for her...
wow.. i admire you're friend..
she doesn't want to convey her yokes to her family..
well, all she have to do is pray, pray and pray..
I'm sure God will hear her..
I'm not basically a religious person..
but every time i got a problem, he always help me..
cheers,
paul
mj... dont know the details yet..but it has something to do with her uterus/ovaries. as i mentioned she is also positive of lupus which i heard that it is also a cancer - correct me if im wrong...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
arien and owen thanks a lot. yeah its very hard to be away...she can bear it as she usually says but i know its not easy. i cant even describe it how is she getting through each day. and its hard for me to do something. yes i can communicate more but cant give her a hug nor even cry with her. im just crying miles away...
apologies for this sad post...just wanna share this and ur comments give me strenght too and would allow me do something more to her...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
what kind of cancer is it? if you dont mind me asking...
it is hard enough that you can't be there for her physically (miles away)... just always see to it that you communicate with her regularly to keep her strong..
informing you this is a challenge for you, it is silently seeking help from you to make this bearable for her... keep praying for her, keep her strong.. we will pray for your friend as well...
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Lovinni.. Sorry to hear dear.. mental strength plays a damn big role in healing these kind of conditions.
Make sure you talk to her, assist her takin decisions on business and family and make her feel you are there by her side which will give her confidence.
Do all possible to boost her confidence and make her mentally strong. believe me it helps, have seen someone who had cells grown 22 years back and still alive though she had to go through couple of surgeries. She use to console us on her way to the theatre, sayin keep cool , i will b back.
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thanks for your prayers...
thats a good idea snowyowl. im getting teary eyed.im also feeling a bit guilty coz i wasnt able to reach out to her in a couple of weeks. we just have this very short chat from time to time. and i came to realize last night about this thing which hit me quite hard. this is real. how i wish its just a dream...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Being positive helps the healing process. When a friend had cancer back home, another friend made her a treasure box and inside were dozens and dozens of card each with a message starting with "Today Lianna sends you..." then she ended with a postive word like harmony, incentive, sanity, etc and added funny ones like sending a peas as world peace was too expensive, a nice non interferring mother-in-law, permission to skip the boring bits etc. The friend with cancer pulled out and read a different one every day, even took it into hospital with her and says it really helped to keep in the right frame of mind and reminded every day she was loved. Maybe you could do something along those lines?
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for your friend lovinni... miracles do happen! have faith
from what she's telling me she is taking her medications and constantly seeing specialist. she is battling lupus and cancer...dont know if these diseases are related. im not just into medical field. we dont really get to talk because she is busy taking care tons of things...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
i cant seem to imagine losing someone so dear at this time. why there is still no cure for cancer? and i know a lot of people out there are in the same boat. earlier i watched an oprah show on women who survived breast cancer and they shared their darkest moments. they have one thing common that is the drive to live longer...i wish she may have that same force to keep her going...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
I know the temptation is horrible but the most you can do is just ask her sister to back off of any stressful situations she might place upon your friend...that she's going through a bit of a rough spell at the moment. Your friend will tell everyone when she comes to grips with it.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
thanks scarlett... sometimes i get tempted to tell her sister whenever i see her online. i think ur right i have to respect her wishes until she is ready...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
.you bet, miracles do happen.
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.keep on prayin..
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and not tell anyone. She will do it when she is emotionally able to handle it.
Just be there for her when she needs to talk...buy her a phone card or offer to help with her phone bills because you know she will need to talk things out with you. Or get skype...that would be best of all. Tell her to try and reduce her stress level because that in itself can make you ill. It lowers your immune system and that's what she really needs to have at an all time high right now.
You've got any and all prayers and well wishes from my side...God bless you and her, lovinni..
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.