Relationships

He brought my Ex Lover back Contact Robinsonbuckler11@ gmail . com,........

hi i want to find out where is the al anon meeting ?

you have done it and wished you should not...

you posted your story,some believes,some not...

some judged you,some advice,some simply were ignorant with life i guess...

BE STRONG MY DEAR EVEN FOR YOUR KIDS ONLY... IF YOU LOVE YOUR KIDS AND WANTS THEM TO HAVE GOOD FUTURE,THEN THINK.... WHAT WOULD BE THE PROS AND CONS IF YOU ACCEPT HIM BACK...

YOU CAN NOT TURN BACK TIME, NOR ERASE THE PAST...

SO ALL YOU HAVE TO DO NOW IS FACE THE FACT...

A SIMPLE FACT THAT YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON GURL...

Girl! as other said move on..he is not right for...Just think the sadness he had bought to you n kids......

There is a guy out there who will treat you as a Queen...And i think you deserve that....stop worrying about him, he is not your responsibility...he is grown man who knows what is right n wrong..

Kids should come first then men.....

All the best....

Thank you Kumaran for the Happy Birthday wish.

I can tell you are a very good person too :)

May God bless you and your family as well!!

He is not living with us now, because I am concerned for my children first. If I wasn't then I wouldn't care that he smoke marijuana. But I do care about my children. That is why I told him that I would not let him back in our home, unless he got help for his problem and temper. He has never had a bad temper with my children. I don't know what you mean by martyr. I do know how to live without a man. I know I am very capable of raising my children on my own. I did it on my own for more than 10 years before I met him.

However, I have a heart that I know is rare. I empathize with him. I know about how he was raised and why he is the way that he is. I also know that if he wants to change then he can. It may be hard, but it is possible. I love him enough to be here if he is willing to try.

He is in a live-in religious based program now. He has been living there for almost 2 weeks now. He is not allowed to leave the premises for the first 30 days. After that only 1 day of the week and he has a curfew. They give him random drug test to make sure that he is not doing any kind of drugs or drinking alcohol. He is learning about God and writes our kids to let us know how he is doing. He has even written us bible scriptures. I am very proud of him and I pray that he can make it through. It took alot for him to go and it shows me just how much he loves us.

I think of God and God's love for us. We all have issues and problems, yet God never turns his love away from us. He never gives up on us. I know I cannot offer unconditional love, as I am not God. However, I can offer my love on the condition that he try to change his life around for the better so that we can have a better life together.

I will look into the book you recommended. I don't know many women that can be without a man for 10 years or more, so I don't know if even the author of that book has done that. I know I don't need a man to be happy. However, I am trying to not be selfish and just think of me. I want a father for my children and he loves them with his whole heart even though he is not their biological father. He has always been kind to them and treated them as his own.

Thank you for your comment. I truly appreciate your time and good intentions. Have a great day :)

i think as a mother of two you must be more concern on the welfare of your kids and yourself than being with a childish irresponsible man. He said he love you cause he has nowhere to go. Unless, you are the few ones of martyrs left in this new generation. Woman now a days know how to be fulfilled without a man.

i read a book "men are just desserts". The book empowers woman on the perception of "make your self whole before engaging yourself into a relationship cause no man is a whole and half to complete the missing half of you" (sorry i forgot the author).

"a step towards the right path is two steps away from evil"

You're right PM I was trying not to respond to your comment. I didn't care about it. I was trying to turn the other cheek to what I could sense as your negativity and lack of concern. If you didn't like my post, you could have simply left this specific forum. Easy as that. Yes, I do know what nationality is. I don't know why they have it listed like that. I checked it out because I was going to correct it, but I DID put it in the right spot. In the Nationality section, the question is "Where are you from?".. Sorry, there wasn't a section that asked Where do you live now..

So do you know what get over it means? Get over it already. Geez.

Who cares?? I don't. Like others have said. Does it really matter? Only you and like 2 other other people of ALL the other people made a negative comment. You know what that shows me? That you must just be a negative person. ALL the other people showed me caring and concern. And that's who's opinion I care about anyway. People with care and concern and a positive outlook. So thanks, but no thanks. So you were wrong. I'm not a liar. The account (that means statement explaining) of my story was true and real. Not some fabricated story. However, people like you don't admit when they're wrong and don't apologize when they've hurt someone's feelings. So I'm not holding my breath.

Take care woman

Thank you mary faith.. I'm following my heart AND my mind this time. As hard as it is, I'm not letting him come back into my home unless he makes some promise of change and I'm not going to just accept his promises.. I'm not going to take him back UNLESS I see changes in him. Today I picked him up and we went to a Gospel Mission nearby and we checked out the "New Life Program". It's a live-in facility for the entire program. The first 30 days he is on "lock down" no communication with anyone for 30 days while he detoxs. After the first 30 days the next step is 3 months long and they help him work on roadblocks that are in his life. While he's there he can work on his education, social skills, anger issues, and gain work skills AND the program is FREE. They are church based, so they teach him about God. Which I would be excited about him learning about. I believe that everyone deserves to be loved and I want him back as a better, functioning, loving, sober person in society. He has to change his ways not just say he's going to change for me to accept him back.. We'll see what he does

No, INTER2006, I have poured my heart out and don't have ANY time to make up stories. The people that have read my post and replied with honest heartfelt words, have given me hope that there are good-hearted, genuine, caring people out there. They have looked beyond the scope of their lives and took time to help me. So I thank them all. If you don't like the forum then there are other forums that you can be part of and read. I selected the ADVICE forum because I felt lost and wanted advice. So I'm sorry if you don't believe me, but I don't appreciate you putting down anyone that took the time to try and help me. God loves and I believe that he brought me to this forum for a reason. And why would I have to state clearly that I am not from Qatar, I don't think anyone start of any of their post with, "I am not from Qatar.." .. That's just ridiculous. If you made assumptions, that was you and your ignorance. Any other negative things you say I will not reply to. This all I have to say to you

Thank you. I'm sure it was hard for you to leave your ex and I commend you for your courage. It's hard when you want to help someone, but they don't want to seem to help themselves. "Auto-destructive". That is the perfect summary to him. I believe I do love myself enough, but I don't like failure and if I couldn't help him with all the love that I have for him, then I'll feel like I failed. I'm trying to understand and accept that "you can't change or help someone, that doesn't want help".. I truly appreciate the time you took to reply.

you can try qatcom.com's business directory.

I personally don't think he's on the streets. I think like Tess said it is just for "show". I will stay stronger and not give in to taking him back if i believe he is ok and just staying at a friend's house. Sometimes they say Ignorance is bliss. I'd rather not know if he is staying on the streets, I would feel bad. But, I didn't make him leave though, he left on a moment's impulse in anger. I'll be stronger if I don't try to worry too much about where he's at. He's the one that left.

Again, I thank you all for your comments. I am going to take them to heart and mind and consider what you have all said and I'm going to pray about it.

Well, I think I've revealed enough

I am going to go to counseling myself to help with the low self-esteem issues that being in a relationship like this causes. I am not going to be subjecting my kids to this anymore. Again, if I chose to give him another chance it would be AFTER he got help. Until then, he needs to reap what he sows.

He's always treated my kids well, like his own, and loved them. But, although I love him, I don't want my kids to learn his unhealthy behavior. I don't want to fall into his "trap". I'm trying to be strong, but the "show" is a good one because he makes me feel bad. I don't want him to think that I don't care about him. I care alot.

I just think that as long as he's making an effort to change his ways and try and as long as we both love eachother, that I should not give up on him.

Thanks again for all of you that took the time to read and respond to my post and I appreciate all your comments!! Even the ones I didn't get a chance to comment back on.

I was prepared for the comments though and I did ask for the advice. I truly love him and I want to believe in him and not give up on him. If I decide to take him back, this time it will be CONDITIONAL on him COMPLETING some sort of treatment.. whether it be drug counseling, relationship counseling or both. The cycle needs to be broken somehow. Thank you for your kind words Huck!

Thank you for your thought out points Curious. I just am really "guarded" right now. I want him to go to a live-in recovery program so that he can take care of his problem and the mental effects longterm use of marijuana has had on him and so that he could have a place to stay instead of living on the streets :(

I know I can't want him to get help. HE has to want help. Thanks again!

We do still have fun together and laugh.

I truly appreciate your feedback Miss Saigon!

Many more returns of happy birth yesterday.

you can allways feel the goodness of people from their words.

God bless you.

Thank you Miss Saigon!

Yesterday was my birthday and those nice words were so kind that it made me smile today and it was just as good as getting a great birthday present. It means alot when someone you've never met can still sense a goodness in you. I think he is a very lucky person to have me and I am a very nurturing and loving person. Unfortunately, there are too many men that take the good women for granted and end up losing them.

I am very proud of him for going into a program for help. It's church based so if anyone can help or change him, God can.

I hope your life is always blessed with happiness :)

personally, i would never let myself be involved with a man who uses weed or any kind of illegal drugs, especially i have a kid.. but if you feel that you want to give it another go, it's your decision and whatever the consequences or turnout of that decision might be, you have to accept and live with it.. so i wish you good luck.

get over it

you're man is a very lucky man to have you, you are such a nurturing & loving person.

all the best:)

Hallo only 1 u want,

Now here time is 10.30PM and dont what is your time.But i hope good time started in your life.Hope he stepped into church for a life change .It is the wish of God also.So you come to a turning point,which is going to give a bright change in your boy friend attitude.so your childs will going to see a different passionate father for them.

Great your prayers accepted by god and he started to help you.

Already god is started to bless you.

Have a good pleasent life in all your near future .

They say the truth hurts. I appreciate your honesty. I believe the saying is "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". I know what you meant though. I am with you. My mind tells me you're completely right. My self-esteem is shot and yet I know i deserve better. My heart is the one that is glutton for punishment because it still loves him. I know what you're saying though. If I try and move on, it will pass. I'm really trying to take Everything, Everyone on here has posted in response into consideration. Thank you all!!!.

Good morning Kumaran_63 :) I do have faith. I've been praying for him and praying for me and my kids. My kids do care alot about him. And he has always been good to them. As I had mentioned one of the things I really admired about him was that he did treat the kids as if they were his. Even their real father, who lives locally here, hasn't seen them in years. He never smoked weed around them or brought it to our home. It was always at his friend's house or his brother's house. His brother is moving to Ohio. Thank God!

My boyfriend had asked me to marry him in December, but we had been waiting to save enough money. Now I know that it wouldn't be a good idea, unless he improves himself. I do have pure love for him, which not all people can say they have or have ever received. I love him with all my heart and that is why I haven't given up on him. I dropped him off at the live-in treatment recovery program this last Thursday morning. He had his suitcase and gave me a big hug, as tears filled his eyes. I felt bad because I know a year is a long time, but I know it's for the best. And they said that the program is in steps so that if he get's better sooner then he may leave sooner. He's making a big step for his life and ours. He said he's doing it for me and the kids because he loves us and we're the only good things in his life and he doesn't want to lose us. I believe in God and his mercy and his power to heal. So thanks again to all of you that had kind, good, caring words to say. Thank you for your advice and letting me know of the things I should consider and think about.

May God bless your lives.

only?

you can't change it

ha ha ha

Thank you very much for your comment Mr.Muham mad only.

Good morning to you only 1 u want.Now here is night time 10.00pm.Since you are working in customer service /call center,i hope you face lot of customer queries and attended also.

So be faith ful for your lovers treatment.Pray and pray and so lot of divine love to him. and ask your daughters also love him very much.He will be turn his vision on all your pure love and may be take care all of you.Sure he will give good care for you all.Let me pray for your happiness.

Long happy and peaceful life to you only 1 u want.

have just opened yourself up to the biggest pervert on QL (aka Tomsware, huckleberry, bode and now majidmajidi.

The part of your profile that says USA is called NATIONALITY. You do know what nationality is, don't you? For example, my nationality is also listed as USA, but I LIVE in Qatar (as do most people who post here -- either present, past or future).

The fact that you wouldn't answer legitimate questions that were asked repeatedly with the intention of trying to give you helpful advice made you look bad. Don't blame it on others now.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

I did listen to some advice in my own way.

IF he does make a change, then I love him enough to stay with him. I want a good pleasant life with him and my family. I think that if we both love eachother still then I should give it a chance. I'm still not letting him move back home until he completes a program or something to that respect. Show me change, don't just promise me change and not come through.

IF he's not willing to make a change, then I'm moving on, moving forward, and getting stonger. Anyways, I don't want the abuse that he's capable of now..

Yes, we are all human beings. We should love eachother and appreciate each other for our differences too. Good night everyone. And I have to work tomorrow in my new job. 1-800-225-5322. I work customer service in a call center :) Good nite everyone

ONLY 1 U WANT,

wow , you understood this ,Then what you walk,decide as you wish only.You see in normal world we used to say some common lie for good purpose also.But here we understood the real feelings in your forum.

So lot of QL's responded with out any expectation.and also they didnot know each other.Here we have to understand pure humanity is all over the world and it is unity also.No country/religion can not come forward to ask patent for humanity.

ha ha ha go ahed as you like and get good pleasent life with your kids and your betterhalf.

yeah, I understand and you're right. I just don't like being called a liar and you know I didn't respond to any of those comments on purpose because i was trying to turn the other cheek, but they just kept on and on. i just felt bad cuz I was pouring my heart out and i felt it was just disrespectful for them to call me that, you know? Internally, I'm going through alot right now :( and someone being more mean to me when I'm trying to not hurt anymore was just not cool.

Hallo Only 1 u want,

I see the painful words that you wrote in this forum.

Dont disappoint with the comments.you can see in the world that good and bad are allways available side by side.What we have to do ,select good only.Likewise the advice give by good soul only you have to adopt or have to be taken in to consideration as per your wish.Where we born is not the subject.where ever we born that is not necessary but all we are human being.May be colour/ longuage/religion may change.But basic Amnities of food/shelter/dress are identical. Hungry/smiling/crying/,,,,,,etc are common to all human being.So D'ont get panic.If any subject comes in public for getting idea/it will be reviewed from the indivuals point of view only.So d'ont expect all comments should come in line with your thinking.

God bless you.we are living in this universe with lot of colours. ha ha understand friend.

just move on with your life..remember you have children that needs you...by and by you will forget him and give yourself a chance to grow....

THaNk YoU Majidmajidi!!! I never lied I never said anywhere in the account of what was going on in my life that I lived in Qatar.. I did a search one night when I was troubled and it led me to this site. If the other people that were so adament about insisting that the details and account of my story would have just looked, they would have seen that on my profile it says "United States of America". And I posted not in any of the Quatar specific forums.. I posted in the "Advice" forum where I Specifically read that it said, "Discussion and banter about your home country, things happening in your life and other general stuff that doesn't have anything to do with Qatar" So why some, and I won't mention names.. why some.. were hating and calling my story false were just simply out of line. Why would they treat a person like that or call others that actually cared enough to offer advice, naive or dumb? And the "about" section of this website didn't say you had to live in Qatar it simply said even thinking of relocating to Qatar. Regardless, I'm a person with feelings just like anyone else and it shouldn't matter where I live or where I come from. That's what's wrong with this world there is too much hate, racism, and judgments. So Thank you Majidmajidi. I truly appreciate you saying that it shouldn't matter. I never lied. They just ASSumed and you know how that saying goes. Anyways, I think that this site would not want others that are living elsewhere to believe that Qatar is a community of people that hate, discriminate, and don't want outsiders. So NO I wasn't lying and NO I didn't make any story up. I simply asked Advice on an "Advice" forum, imagine that. I put my heart out there and received that type of treatment from some. If those people had a shred of decency, they would admit when they were wrong and apologize for any hurt they may have caused me or others. -- For those of you that accepted me as a person and showed me genuine concern and heartfelt advice and stood up for me like Majidmajidi.. thank you. I believe any religion would teach love and compassion as good traits to have.

Next question, how can I delete the blog I posted? To have people know your business for one night or two is one thing. To have people judge you and not understand is another. Thanks

The Real question is do you watch "Days of our lives", Smoke?

Haha.. just playin

That means truthfullness. But I don't expect you to understand that.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

does it really matters where she lives?

the matter is the decion she should take baesd on thoes info, no matter the region !

think again.

I think it is a fantasy story of yours. Why didn't you answer when people asked you information about the homeless shelter? about the weed??? You should state clearly that you are not in Qatar!!! If you are in the States then the story "could be" more believable, but you didn't. If your story is true my advice to you is take care of your kids first, forget about the "Bum" lover of yours. Don't be selfish. Give your kids a happy life, they deserve better treatment then you fullfilling your selfish desires. You are the only mother they have, but you can have lots of "bums".

I still think your story is fake anyway.

Geeze what is this "Days of our lives?"

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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Hallo friend only 1 u want( It menas you want only one that is your present lover, eventhough he is good or bad ha ha ,am i right friend)

I hope your heart filled with love on him.

Better dont leave him, and send him to rehabilitation center to forget this bad smoking habit.

make him to understand you , that how much you love him.If he will not change,i hope he is going toloose a very good soul from his life.

Pray god to make him to understand your divine love.

Try to change his working environment.support him to get a good job.

I understand that your full heart is loving him so deep.So you come this forum to get good valuable ideas from the QL's/

Hope that a miracle may happen to his attitude.

8 th question i asked you whether you respected his intimate willingness?( His personnel likes).

Any how thanks for reading my comments and again thanks for understanding the contents.

see you friend. Have a good peaceful life as per your desire.

KUMARAN.

10 answers to 10 questions.. :)

Answers..

1) Not really, I didn't think about it because that would be weird.. haha.. but I guess in a way I did. I didn't want someone like my father. I just wanted someone that would love me as much as my father loves my mother now. She suffered for a long time because of the abuse, but then he changed and loves her so much now. They are both 100% faithful to one another and that's what I want from a husband too.

2) I think I answered this in question 1

3) No, 99% of the time it was no. I never threw out my dad or mentioned my father in our arguments. I did realize that his jealousy and anger issues reminded me of my dad in his younger days and 1% of the time I would tell my ex this.

4) No, usually it was 40/60. With him dominating me 60% of the time. I usually would cater to him. Serve him his meals, wash his clothes, etc.

5) In a way yes, I would tell him that I needed someone that would be there for me like I was there for him. I would pay for alot in our relationship and I told him that I wanted someone that would pay for stuff for me or take me out like I did it for him. I told him I wanted that someone to be him. That I wanted him to do nice things for me too.

6) No, I didn't tease him. I did tell him that he needed to be more motivated about finding a permanent job.

7) No, I did show him soo much love and affection and would flirt with him and tell him how he was the only one I wanted and loved.

8) I'm not sure I understand this question. sorry.

9) Yes, because he didn't have a job. I found myself paying for everything for him including paying his bills.

10) I complained about his brother mostly. I told him that if his brother loved him that he wouldn't convince him to smoke weed everytime he'd visit his brother. I told him that if his brother loved him and respected him that he would not do it at least while my ex visited him.

I really liked your saying. I didn't realize it but yes it's true. Everytime I pointed a finger at what he was doing wrong. He was pointed more at me to tell me why it was my fault and how he resented me sometimes. thank you again!!

only...

best of luck.

Yeah.. the way to lasting peace is to remain stoned. :0)

Well, if you think about it, why is it the countries where the populace smoke the most amount of weed are all the most peaceful nations? :)

I volunteer to be a distributor! Me ! Me! *bounce*

Like in the coffee shops of Netherlands? Cool!

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

OMG PM you just gave us a wonderful idea! How do we stop people from having children before marriage? We give them weed and make them all gay! I dont see how two men can get each other pregnant...plus they can get high too its a win win situation. Now Weed doesn't seem all that bad does it?

Quickly someone tell Iran to start developing Weapons of Mass Weed Distribution.

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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Smoke, "...lots of Gay pride too :P"

You're forgetting lesbo pride. Tsk! tsk! Not pc.

It's the WEED that makes us so GAY!

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

Hmmm PM and how do you think THAT happens? It all starts with the WEED :P bloody Emricans no moral values and lots of Gay pride too :P

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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All us Americans have illegitimate children and sex outside of marriage :-P

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

Nothing is more relaxing than flying like an Eagle in Heaven !!

Listen to ur heart and to ur mind and decide. we cant advice u about something we do not know.

A, B, C, and D work in different sectors that are ABLE to get it in. Lets not get into this now you know your facts and i know mine. khallas :)

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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Good luck getting enough for a month's supply!! But the source's are never continuous. You go to X who's out, becahse A, B, C, D are out.

Gypsy you mentioned about "quantity" required to feed the requirement of an addict is not available, which is true. I was talking about having the source to get it, one time buying is like may be a months supply of it. By continuous source i mean like, If i want it, i go to X who gets his stuff from A, B, C, D. Either of these become the continuous source. But like i said never seen or heard of addicts in Qatar coz "quantity" is not available.

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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But those people dont' have a continuous source. This country goes "dry" fairly often, and it can be months when no one has it, no matter how much "wasta" they have.

If you know its available here then you'd also know those people will have a continuous source to get it. I've not come across any so called addicts either. Plus its not easy for an expat to get a hold of such stuff unless u really really have good wasta. So now is the bf a Qatari? Homeless Qatari lol thats like saying i saw BIG FOOT!

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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I know weed is available here Smoke, but I also know that it's not available in the quantities needed to have a "problem"

You'd be hard pressed to find enough to smoke a joint on a daily basis, much less wake and bake and stay stoned all day (which to me constitutes a problem).

Ok from this whole story i can come to 2 conclusions 1. Its all fake and we shouldn't be wasting our "advice" on this person. 2. She mentions that the father of her kids lives locally, so it could be that she's separated from the husband, and having an affair. If your asking about the "weed" trust me its available here ;)

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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and notice how PM has over and over asked her some of these questions which she conveniently never answers. I think it's a troll.

Yes I can understand he had a weed problem in the US but how is he getting enough here to constitute having a problem?

Elementary my Dear Gypsy...she comes from the US of A and everyone knows Emricans suffer from weed problems!

Ok that was a joke take no offense i'm not a Racist Kat :)

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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Where the hell is he getting enough weed to have a problem? Where is a homeless shelter? How can the both of you be unemployed here and not be kicked out? How do you have two kids here with you without being married? (Or are you committing adultry).

Sorry but this story leaks like a seive.

All i saw in this whole episode is the word WEED. now to solve your problem i need to get to the root cause of this issue, which is the WEED...point me to its location woman!!

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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Al-Anon is for families suffering from a loved one's addiction. Call.

Mandi

I think you people are naive and dumb by giving answers/advice to a story made up by somebody whose just testing this forum. As somebody ask "Weed in Qatar"??? Homeless in Qatar? "Only 1 u want" Are you so bored you have to make up a silly story like this and drag people along?

Only REAL mean are committed. Others are cowards. I like the idea of marriages. If not then both the parties are on a boat with no insurance policy. Both parties stand to get hurt. Neither are under obligation to remain faithfull. You unwittingly sign this agreement when you embark upon this journey

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" Failure is Not an OPTION "

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... in love, there should not be mistrust... if you dont trust him, you should leave him... if you do, give him a chance...

and most of all, listen to your heart....

best of luck...

You can't teach experience...

Only 1 u want, i want to ask you the following?

1).Did you comparing your Lover with your Dad?

2).Are you expecting the Quality of your father from your Lover?

3).When ever argument starts between both of you, did you said this to Him?

4).Are you dominating him in your day to day life cycle?

5).Did you say to him "You are not capable to take care of your life partner?"

6).Did you teased him for his inability to earn more money?

7).Did you dont know to show your love in smooth way?

8).Did you respected his personnel willings?

9).Did you helped him to meet out his economical needs?

10).Did you complain about his family allways?

Relax and answer all my questions one by one with your peace of mind.Dont irritate by my questions.

When you pointing one person by your index, other other three fingers pointing you also.

So calmely think about this and then frankely speak with him.Have a counselling of both of you.

we are having 5 fingers in our hand.But all are in different size.Like wise man are having different personality.So dont search your father from him.He is a different nature man.So from his mentality you check what best he gave to you and show pure love .May be he will change his attitute because of your divine love.

Have a good peaceful life.

Move on. Once drug addict he'll most possibly stay like that. I left my ex, after hundred of chances for a change (he was into drugs, not me). Perhaps you just do not love yourself enough to accept he is a loser. Sorry this hurts, it's also meant for me to remind me that if somebody loves you enough he'll stop being so auto-destructive. You are not helping him, let him go and find somebody else to really change!

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I think you hit the nail on the head. I appreciate your advice. I think his self-esteem and morale are low because of his inferiority complex. And not all people know how to communicate efficiently or in a healthy manner.

He used to say I made him feel stupid because I was so much smarter then him. I never meant to make him feel stupid I think that it was his own insecurities that made him feel that way. I may be smart when it comes to other things, but love.. not so much. THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS. I believe love and prayers will see me through one way or another. Right now I'm going to try and love myself and get counseling. I love my dad so much today because he's my dad and because he loves my mom so much. I want the type of love my dad gives my mom now.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

just go in and delete the text of multiple entry.

I am trying to find if there is a shelter in Doha because I worked with one when I was in the States. However, to the best of my knowledge there is not one. But if that is the case, then you realize he is lying to try to be more manipulative.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

I'm new to this forum. Does anyone know how I can delete the duplicate comments I accidentally left?

xyned said Take relationships seriously. ...

I take interest in counselling. All non-commiting relationship indulgers end up with unsettled/unsatisfactory results. Face the facts. Its 2009 and soon 2010. Its baby boomer generation. Join the bandwagon of the sensible. Live your life. Be committed."

Hey, where were you when my ex-bf needed counseling??? Ah well.. too bad. This boat floated away already.

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

I really want to know for reference and I think it would be a great charity opportunity.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

If you are worried about him being homeless why dont you buy him a cardboard box????

easy question - is he a good role model for your children?

All I advise is becareful, especially if the kids father lives locally. Remember what happened to the British couple in Dubai

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Hai Only1uwant,

Wow from your ID it is Only 1 you want.That is great. So you are in deep reallove with that man.

As you said send him to Drug rehabilitation center.

let him recover from his Marighuvana habbit.

Love is the best weapon to change anybody.

But this will work out for addicted people.

In the middle of argument if he go means he dont have stable mind to discuus the problems with you.

May be he is having inferiority complex, because of he is earning lesser than you.

Try to help him to get a good job?

Then his attitude may change.

What you said in this forum is the Universal ladies problem.

I pray god for you to succeed in this issue.

I know, most ladies loved to see that their men cried over them. But mind you, some guys are thus showing it to make their ladies stays with them. I might sound blunt and rude in this part but thats the reality. Men can react to it anyway... I can hear their chuckles now...

Gurl, to the point that he is really Unmanly and irresponsible,you shouldn't stayed with him for long... U said that lately that he is crying over you and he is depressed on things? like he dont have a job!!!.. hmmmm, I am doubting how he get some drugs in some ways... I tell you one thing, if he really loves you, he must prove it to you.. He must be responsible enough for himself first then he should settles down everything. I can sense that you are too overwhelmed with the idea that he is over you!!

I hope you realize one day, that when you love a person, YOu should be the one who is responsible also with his life... I dont know how you treat him also and I dont how you dealt with him. I hope it doesnt offend you but as a lady too, we must be diligent enough to make our man do the righteous thing..

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I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

... i always heard of my heart when it comes to my family and love...

no matter what you do, my best wishes with you... take care...

haha.. I know. I never thought I'd be the obsessive gal that forgives the "Bad guy" every time he hurts her. I always used to roll my eyes at that girl and now I've become that girl. Love makes you blind and dumb sometimes. I don't think anyone plans to become "that girl", I used to not take crap from any guy.. then I fell head over heals for this one and now my heart has been steering the car. I'm more guarded though and trying to think more with my mind instead of my heart. Thanks for your comment!

I appreciate you taking the time to read my story and yes counseling fascinates me too. I'm alot better at giving advice though then seeing my own situation for what it's worth and listening to my own advice. lol. I highly believe in commitment!

I do love him alot and the reality is that I've realized that I don't have a lot to lose if I move on. It will hurt, but if anyone will have a lot to lose it'd be him. I'm hoping that tough love will motivate him to clean up his act and finally change for the better. Thanks eagle!

...give him a chance, if you FEEL like to provided that if he wants to go through that rehabiliation program....

... dont give him a chance if you dont FEEL like to.... no matter what...

dont discuss it here.... take your own decision by yourself...

sometimes, ppl should go what her/his heart wants, sometimes, brain....

best of luck, no matter where you live in ....

You are both jobless ex-pats living in Qatar? Where is the homeless shelter in Qatar? I've lived here 10 years and never heard of a homeless shelter here. Sorry but this seems a little fishy.

But whether the whole story is true or not, you still don't seem to get the idea that you are subjecting your children to harm. I would say that your self-esteem must be really shot, too.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

no matter what..love wins at the end..

While I greatly sympathise with this lady, each story has two sides as we hear all the time..

in addition what PM stated about how strange this incident is which is worth noting i believe!

whats up? and about?

yeah the lady should lose the guy who loves to beat her up,doing drugs and makes her feel unimportant.

go for someone who will love you forever.......

Shame on you when He fooled you once, shame on him when he fooled u twice and You are crazy and nuts if you still accepts him for everything he'd done wrong to you!!!

C'mon, life doesnt end there without him.. GET some life and move on. This kind of man doesn't deserve u at all. He is just one big A**h**E... Havent you realized how unmanly he's treating you.. After all, you still love him like craZY... well, as what they've said, Love is not blind, only lover's do.....

Give a break for yourself,, you ARE just to blinded with this person....For sure, u can live without him...He's a freak..... with all the things his doing in his life and to u.. Pls do some recollection lady.... YOu deserve someone better!!

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PM, I thought it sounded fishy when I read it, too. Either it's fake, or the OP isn't in Qatar.

Have never heard of such a thing. Also, I have to wonder if you are both working here then why is he not in company provided housing? Is he American also?

This story seems a little strange.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

problem in your children's lives? If you are not careful you will wind up in bigger legal problems and maybe even lose your kids.

Lose the loser. And get in some counseling to figure out why you have such low self-esteem that you love someone who obviously is not good for you.

There are good counselors here. If you are sincere about wanting help, send me a private mesage and I will give you some names and numbers.

I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM

MOVE ON!! unless your one of those women who likes to be beatten up or abused and still cling to their man.

Move on. I would not have anybody around me that did drugs, or lots of booze.

They are addictive personalitys.

Get somebody healthy.

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if youve been hurt before physically and psychologically,heal and then move on.

my crystal ball showed me that you dnt have a bright future with him.

dnt be the victim,masochist,hurt obsessive gal thats been longing for the love of a BAD GUY...ok?

beurk!!!(thats french for eeeewwwwww)

gal, move on!!!!

u could really use JIMI's advice, u know?

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If you are thinking of giving him another chance....Were you ever married? Don't go through he loves me...he loves me not cycle. He loves you - very true. But, his is the love that you dont need.

I take interest in counselling. All non-commiting relationship indulgers end up with unsettled/unsatisfactory results. Face the facts. Its 2009 and soon 2010. Its baby boomer generation. Join the bandwagon of the sensible. Live your life. Be committed.

Agree. History WILL repeat itself esp. when he knows you love him and you have so much to lose. Walk away. If he truly loves you and wants you back, he'll do something about cleaning up his act for real. That is motivation to change for the better. Anything else is just bs and taking advantage of your weakness.

I would say give it another go conditionally if he:

1- If he admits his mistakes. This could be done by discussing what happened and expressing your concern of things happening again. Depending on what assurances you could feel, you may have a better ground for a better judegment whether take him or leave him.

2- If he does not hit you physically. Depending upon point number 1 above, the worst scenario could be lived with in case arguments happen again.

I don't recommend asking for the recovery program but no matter what program he undertakes, it is him who can decide!

Good luck!

so just have the guts to get it done

brit said it all.

do you still have fun together, aside from s_x? can he still make you laugh? does he physically hurt you?

The history gives a hint of the future.

MOVE ON!