Martial Arts of the Mind.
This may seem like an odd topic of discussion but this goes out to many Women out there esp in Qatar who sometimes are faced with situations where they find themselves having to escape a pestering motorist asking for their number or to get in to the car by giving them a smile instead of a slap.
I call this being Street Smart - Martial Arts of the Mind. Dont get me wrong, actual martial arts is always good for your body and 7 out of 10 times will get u out of trouble when you are in a physical fight, but seriously how many women actually get into physical fights? But learning to defend yourself from mental attacks is as important to a lady as defending herself physically. A good self defense starts from your MIND first.
Many times i come across threads where ladies are being molested by their bosses, asked to work late - alone, followed home from work/parties etc. So how do you go about saving yourself from such kinds of attacks?
Let me give you a few point for you to work on.
1. Sexual harassment: Nobody has a right over your body.Stop thinking you are weak. You are not. If a male at work is harassing you physically/mentally/sexually whatever that makes you uncomfortable, doesn't matter if its your boss, know that nobody has a right over your body. That body of yours belongs to you and you bloody well defend it. Dont be afraid to tell them to their face to stop it. If its your boss tell him you'd rather QUIT than work for a b*stard. NEVER give into blackmail or false promises of getting a promotion/deported/fired etc.
Also do not be afraid to report such incidents to your husband/boyfriend/guy friends/girl friends/POLICE.
2.Coming home late: When you know you'll be coming home extra late you stick with a friend even if your traveling by taxi. You don't know the taxi driver, he could be anyone. You also make sure its a registered cab , and you mentally note down the license plate number just in case . Traveling with a friend can be safer especially walking. Its much harder to attack two young girls than one. Make sure you phone up someone to let them know where you are if your late.
3.Walking home late & alone: When walking on the road walk on the opposite side of the road where cars are going away from u rather than in your direction, this will help you avoid anyone trying to slow down to get your no. or ask u to get in the car with them. try to avoid situations where you are walking home alone in a dark area,use well lit areas instead keeping to paths that are open rather than confined.
4. Dont be afraid to SCREAM: If the instance arises where you are scared or in danger. Scream. Scream for all your worth and draw as much attention to the situation as possible. Let your attacker know your not afraid.
5. Dress up properly: If you are new in a place, make sure that you are dressed appropriately. You do not want to stand out in the crowd and attract significant attention from robbers. You should not also wear expensive and even fake expensive looking pieces of jewelry and carry big bags as those may also compromise your safety.
6.When you are astray: Consider asking directions to a family or women with children. This will make you safer and free from robbers or stalkers. You may ask for directions or the landmark of the place and say that you will meet somebody there so they will not suspect that you are alone.
Please note that some of these points are NOT my own (i know i look smart lol) Please feel free to add your own thoughts and suggestions.
ntropy - ?????
Since when did Guyz have problem with Road Side Romeos ???
Gay thing is really getting into the society I guess....
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000 - Qatar is safe for women ???
You gave you gave away your age here... you are so 66 for sure now.. :)
Smoki - you piece of Shait.... You are the one who shall be of no use to women...
Ksa can save them for sure... and so can I... even if it is by talking the stalker to death.. (even the last resort is a good one).. where is youe swinging Tail and a Foul mouth with pathetic jokes gonna help chicks ???
Even Rizks can blind them off for some time.. if Its a Full moon Day.. or night.. whtever... :)
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I never felt so ! Qatar is one of the safest place to live.
lol @ Rizks.
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well i agree with all the comments here. One has to be prepared for the worse. Anything can happen anywhere. Mental preparation and being proactive can reduce your chances to actually getting in the worse situations. And then of course your athelitic body can do the rest. Therefore more exercise,yoga,swiming and less eating can add to your best weapons.
Really Arien ?
Oh tats SAD. Why this Martial ART thread not posted B4 ?
We would have saved those 2 filipinnas ...:(
Damn u Smokey.
000 .. why in Qatar? No place is safe.
Many are happening here too my dear , though its not getting reported. Didnt you read about the filippina who was dragged in to the car from the road and raped by two??
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hehehehhehe.... sowwy :P
"Ali Baba and 40 thieves" are now "Ali Baba and 30 thieves" ; 10 were laid off.
Hello you two..how is this little chit chat of yours going? dont make me whack you two for hijacking my informative thread. Grrrr
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Its not bloody raining now... thats a problem... i mean it looks the whole day like its going to rain and then it drizzles and its soooo pissing off...
Work is as usual... going on...
"Ali Baba and 40 thieves" are now "Ali Baba and 30 thieves" ; 10 were laid off.
Awwww that's alright honey...I'm fine thanks, indeed very busy, doing a lotttttttt of work these days...not getting a moment to sit infront of the computer as well...just on and off... indeed QL is kinda different these days...but yeah as such things are going kewl...hows it going in the Garden City...raining or not...and hows work? are they still mamking you slog girl???
KSA Sweetie, how are you? Sooo sooooory for not minding:) Just thought you're busy:) I'm doing very well and so is everyone just very very busy. How are you?
Miss your morning threads, QL is kinda different nowadays:)
"Ali Baba and 40 thieves" are now "Ali Baba and 30 thieves" ; 10 were laid off.
Uhhh hello SN...do you remember KSA...what is this...how rude...I'm right here and you dont even tell me a HI...sheeeesh how could you be so mean girl...? Hw are you and hubby, and hows things back home???
A tenor!!!! Poor Mugger:D
"Ali Baba and 40 thieves" are now "Ali Baba and 30 thieves" ; 10 were laid off.
3 yrs for the guy...yikessss...STAY AWAY FROM ME! :P
As the mugger who tried to rob me in London found out to his expense...
I literally brought the house down on him. The poor soul got three years for his troubles. Those were the good ol days.
King Kat was never OUT of the good books for your kind information. I was always on the first page :D
Good points ladies, what i did forget to mention was what marycatherine said about being approached by people in cars claiming to be CID officers or under cover cops. Always ask for ID card...NEVER give out any personal information about yourself without proper identification of the person asking. If in doubt call up the police it doesn't cost you anything. Remember these are all sleezy tactics used by men around here to get to talk to women.
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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1. Finding a place where there are other people if you feel in any way threatened (a petrol station for example)
2. Call the police - if you feel that you are being followed or if you have been approached and asked any question you feel are inappropriate. Take out your phone, call the police, give them the number plate of the car (if there is one) - take a photo of the car or person - you have no need to feel embarrassed or paranoid - just a right to feel safe and secure
3. I mentioned this one in a previous post where an Asian woman had felt she had no "choice" but to comply with an Arab man in a thobe's order to get into his car. She was on a busy street - approach another car (preferably one with a white Western woman in it like me :D) I'll get out and tell this guy where to get off AND I'll call the police and report him and his number plate. We have to help each other.
4. If you are only a witness to such deviant behaviour - step up to the plate - become involved. Ask the lady if she wants you to call the police, if the deviant tries to get in your face - call the police.
5. Don't wait until it gets physical or dangerous - call the police, try to get to an area where there are lots of people, do something first - don't let it happen.
Signature line > "You can't fix stupid"
I see the Kitty is tryin to get into the good books of the Ladies:)
Anyway a few things women should keep in mind when walking home in the night, other than the things already mentioned:
1. Be aware of your surroundings.. do not dilly dally and walk about day dreaming.
2. Keep a small pen torch in your purse. Will be useful in case u have to cross a dark patch of the road.
3. Keep a sharp object in ur purse and use it in case of emergencies, like a nail file, pen etc, didn't u guys watch bourne identity, the way he uses a pen to kill an assasin:)
4. In case ur attacked the main thing is not to panic and be very aggressive, use your nails, teeth, elbows, knees(and u know where to kick them right?)
"Ali Baba and 40 thieves" are now "Ali Baba and 30 thieves" ; 10 were laid off.
Why these martial arts in Qatar ?
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as for weapons,i would recommend these ladies to bring a cola in can and a scarf to wrap the cola.it can be used to hit an attacker.
pepper spray is also effective.:D
Ashwindork is of no freaking use. He'll just end up talking more like he types in QL.
Most phones come with "speed dial" options learn to work it, make it part of your daily phone call routine.
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Even my number is to remember.
Even a 2Yr old kid remember my number.
How about DO NOT LET KATS ENTER YOUR PURSES LADIES! :P
Naaa, jokes apart...seriously, Sometimes, it is only right to note down number plates of cars that you think are following you...
Keep useful phone numbers handy or in your mind rather than in your LARGE purse somewhere...
Dont freaking stop anyone on the side of the road asking for lift...HE could be anyone...you might as well drive a bit further and stop at a Gas Station with Lights!Being so Kind can freaking get Your sorry azz into trouble :P
And ladies two numbers you could keep in handy in times of trouble (Smoke, KSa, you can add Ashwindoke as well) :P
About carrying weapons i know its against the law but if it comes to throwing a hard punch, consider punching someone with a lipstick in your palm, knocks them out hard. Or perhaps a roll of 50dhm coins could also be used as a punching weapon.
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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i dont know smoke... i wanted to get one.. maybe i will when i go on holiday, i will bring some back..
MJ do we get pepper spray here? May i recommend chilly powder instead :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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soooooo totally agree..... it may be worthwhile to always keep some kind of weapon in handy, even if it's just a pepper spray....
to all ogling men out there, DO NOT underestimate women.. :P