You Are Fortunate If, Your Mom Is"'Mean''!!!
Some day when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, i will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you
enough... to ask where you were going, with whom, and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your new best friend was a creep. I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken me just 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children: Parents aren't perfect, you know.
I loved you enough to let you assume the responsi-bility for your actions even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, i loved you enough... to say "NO" when i knew you would hate me for it. Those were the most difficult battles of all.
I'm glad i won them, because in the end you won, too. And some day when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them. Was your Mom mean? I know mine was.
We had the meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches. And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were doing with them.
She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less. We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labour Laws by making us work.
We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs.
I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for us to do. She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
By the time we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone else could date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16.
Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalising others'property or ever arrested for any crime.
It was all her fault. Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was. I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
ok Pajju.. wait...its not yet lunch time:)
huh? lol... very well, i hope english accepts it
...listen to the sound of silence....
FS were is my b/fast ?
Kanjoose is a new word in English which means someone who is very generous...:)
what is kanjoose?
...listen to the sound of silence....
saggi dont bother I will cut and eat it myself...lol
Why all these girls are all Kanjoose :(
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arien....maybe i'll make a gud mom,afterall :-P LOL
FS....u're welcome anytime....make sure u bring the cake too....i'd happily oblige to cut it :-D LOL
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Saggi beware you can expect us anytime...:)
Maggie - you are a meano even b4 becoming a mom. :( Grrrr
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Nothing is more relaxing than flying like an Eagle in Heaven !!
nice post my friend. 10x for sharing.
oh...the b'day treat?i had it y'day :-D LOL :-D
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
Maggie .. ok ok ..accepted. the thanks.. now tell me wher the heck is the Bday treat
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that was so nice really.....and i wholly agree with every word!thanks a lot for sharing,arien!
Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor
'over protection' and patrolling your children.
i'm mean...so am i gonna be a mean mommy someday? :P
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* Love me or hate me...go figure *
for reminding me that the world still has people like that :)
we are running out of mean mommies these days. there are lots of mean children out there.
progress
Really true....Thanks for sharing Airen...I miss my parents so much....
Funny how the "mean-ness" of our Mums turn into good parenting skills the older we get.
Before I got married I had SOME theories and NO kids. Now that I am married I have SOME kids but No theories!!!
Here's a salute to all you mean moms out there! No one has a clue how much work this job really takes!!!
i hated her during those times...
...listen to the sound of silence....
No kid realises, and when we become mom/dad and go through the tough task of bringing our kidoes up, we start loving them more n more :)
And at stages when they need us around, we are away :( ..Miss them bad.
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Arien Thx for sharing... its so true... we seldom reallize it when we were kids... now when we look back we feel thier unconditional love..
Nohashakib Not mine dear, received from a buddy,and couldnt hold it for long and thought of sharing.
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believe me, nobody messes with moms! Being strict doesn't mean she doesn't love her kids, she just know what's best for them.
she knows before you disclose your plans....
I liked your article so so so so much, thanks for reminding me how I THOUGHT my mom was, and how I realized she was only loving us, and how mean I am now to my daughter in the exact way..
"There are too many ways to die, but only one precious way to live"
N.F SHAKIB
So true... I always swore when I was younger that I would let me kids do what they wanted, when they wanted and how they wanted cause I never could...
Guess what?? I had kids - and that philosophy kinda went down the drain... yep... I wanted to know who they were with, where they were going, why they did not have time to have a proper breakfast and they obvioualy thought that I was a meanie too....
Its strange but its only now that I realise why my mom did it... because she cared and she loved me enough to make sure I was not another vandal ...
Thanks mum
So dear moms ; Be meanoes from today!!!
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