how they amuse me.
I'm a Filipina. I work in a construction company. My colleagues are Engineers and Architects. Professionals indeed!
But what's so undeniably frustrating about this is the way they're acting as "professionals".
Female employees who get "attached" to their employers, specially to their male employers, were almost already "normal" situations. And of course, even if silent stories circulate in the office as gossips but can be heard as loud as the sound of the mosques' speakers, they wouldn't confirm... But of course again, who would confirm an elicit affair?
I have one co-employee, and sad to say, also a Filipina, is known to be a "LADY" of our boss.
Before I come to Doha in 2008, this girl is the person i know i'll be getting along well at work place.
Yes, it happened, on my first few months here. That was when I still don't know what she's doing.
When I noticed that she's been going out too often with our boss even during our four hour lunch break (office timing is split, 8-12, 4-8), i began observing, subsequently, asking...
Then I learned everything...
Everybody in the office knows what's she's doing, even the tea boys know.
I asked her about it and she DENIED.
But going out at least twice a week with our boss? who would believe her?
And you know what's the sad part on this?
She's married. Plus, her sister is working with us in the company.
And the saddest part of all...
She's sitting right next to me. I can see everyday, all the sweet smiles, the dirty winks, the way my boss holds her shoulders as he lightly squeezes them, the phone calls in our department asking anyone who will answer the phone to send his lady to his office...
By the way, she's not the executive secretary, whom we all know should be the one to attend meetings with the boss. She's another engineer who wants to live beyond her means.
She will always say, she only got little money on her wallet, but will always go home with "a car trunk full of groceries and shopping galore items"...
Haaayyyy, what a disgust!
Here's some more, newbies came, and though they know the elicit act of our boss' lady, they would mingle together. Defending each other from the gossips in the office! And stub each other's back once they're not together!
Come on...
Pity those people who got angry on people who flirts on chats, texts and calls but love a person whom even without confirming is having an elicit affair with someone!
I am already done praying for the lady that she may get away from her situation pretty soon... But i don't think she will be able to do so. Why? She doesn't want to loose what she's having right now, and that's MONEY. everybody's necessity but the root of all evil as well.
The lady is on to a month vacation, and guess what? the boss will be following her in a week.
(Letting her lady spend a week with her hubby first... lol)
More! more! more!
She's not the only "lady" in the office! there's two of them! and... they're BEST FRIENDS!!! WTH!
(Don't you dare ask if I'm the other LADY, i'll hunt you whether up or down... hahahaha! kidding aside, i'm happily married, and we're together here in Doha ;))
As they say/ask... What to do Yani?
I hope i can transfer to the other office, i don't want to see this everyday... :(
It sucks, it really do!
:)
as "are you having the same business?" means staying on the topic? Get a life! Read my posting and stop arguing with it personally. STAY ON TOPIC!
stray cats just can't seem to mind sticking their noses on someone else's garbage...
"man raqab alnas mat hamman"
arabic proverb means
" who watch people and stick his nose in things, he will die by sadness"
why do you care?
pls....stop...nothing is new in this kind of issues with filipina...
And the purpose of this post is???
Wats the heck wd my points,flor?.. does ur big points make u lyk 'somebody in QL!' lol.. dnt try to change the topic of the thread. avoiding the topic? uh-uh!
it's most likely YOU are!! 10 points in 1 year, you must start catching up, my dear!
dazzle are you true Filipina?... half half?... dont point any nationality even same yours we need to respect each other... even you see on your eyes you dont have any rights to broadcast the nationality... you know what im appreciate other nationality here is very careful saying about nationality than you and very proud to saying it very funny dazzle not good.....
consenting immorality is just like doing the same...
just wanted to know flor: ARE YOU DOING THE SAME BUSINESS???
Poor people... loosing morality..
...if you're really focused on your work as you claimed to be, you will not see anything around you.
I can't understand your motive in posting this issue but you're doing more harm than good to yourself ---you really sound jealous and bitter....
Sorry, but that's how people see you now.
If you think she is immoral and has no value at all--let it be. It's her life after all!
garce, you hit the nail on the head...
Exactly!
That's what I've mentioned in my comments. Why the hell she is reacting like this? She just has to go on with her life-- eat plenty, sleep peacefully and enjoy her married life!
If she believes she has done her parts and had prayed for her..Kalas!Why bother????
If she is really concern about this girl..she should not flaunt her story like this. She should talk to her instead--heart to heart. If nothing happens and she doesn't listen ---KALAS!!
It's her life after all that is destroying. An she cannot give her what this girl gets from his boss!!
Melts the butter for the bobcorn and waits patiently.....
If you know stories like this - just keep it to yourself coz u'r not going to benefit from it. If she wants to be in that relationship, it's not your problem anymore. We should not meddle or interfere with other's life coz they were given to choose between bad and good - the choice is always theirs.
This is the reason why many people tend to look down on Filipinas --- they usually wash their dirty linens in public!
we only have one lady, an Indian woman (our secretary)! And all of us here respect her very much. Nobody can harm her in any way!
lol so do I need to submit a character certificate to you flor before making any comment on QL?
hey dazzle,if u r not jelous and really considering her for her bad act wth her boss,u can make her realise tht she is doing wrong and help her get out of evil if she wish or else as u said u juz keep praying for her and hope for best.
she is doing bad thing ..so people in QL mentioned the same. so why do u have to support her saying that its not right?? :P.... by the way... no i doubt u are the boss which mentioned in the story ;)
can you re-read the postings?
living, do u have ne pblm with me?? i've not uttered even single bad words for u, y r u behind me??
the lady is already doing a bad thing, why need to call her such a word coming from who? A righteous person?
Flor1212...
the "so called country people" are screwing around all over qatar .. or lets say all over gulf..if you just search in QL itself you will have atleast 10k threds on same subject. so please dont try to support them even if they ur country men.
isn't it better not to speak when someone's mouth stinks?
i guess, you forgot it ... :)
hei! no offense !
That is just creepy..... Today is a creepy day ....
i have them here deepb. :))
Where did I leave my bobcorn and bebsi?
Done with jokes already??
I thought you will carry on for a while :(
and GOOD DAY! Lol!
lol..
contributed something positive in this discussion! I'm also amused how you live your life! I understand now why you look like that in meet-ups! I would really feel uncomfortable to be with you on QL meet-ups!
I guess I have to start a thread, how flor amuses me.. lol... I am sure they play cards or drink coffee when they go together for 4 hours..
sex is only in your mind. So technically, she is not a prostitute. I agree with definition, but does that fit her?
Before WK mentioned prostitute, and after I asked the definition, he said, anyone that sells her body for money, where is sex there? That's why I said, "mind your word".
DeepB, no argument about the definition, but the word prostitute is not proper. She may not be bad but does prostitute fit?
living, don't entangle me in between...ok..This is none of ur business to know whether i could think gud for others or not..
i won't be, don't worry. :p
you can not think good things, do you?
daz: dont be jelous !
thanks... :D
i know she is not ..and even i know few cases like this ;)..but what to do .. helpless.... i am not a boss and i am not a female .. no money :P :D
shez not jealous actually..she has a big heart to think about others as well and especially if he/she belongs to same community..
no comment now, as FS said, i should be a good girl. :))
she must be good at "JOB".. thats why she is being paid ...dont be jealous ;)
acts the sex? Sorry I can't start teaching English now.
Try this mandi - http://www.qatarliving.com/node/1128702
dazzle..good girl:) your happiness should be mroe important to you!
posting in QL really will give us various way of thinking , and that's what i like here.
we all can oppose and suggest.
get angry but in the end pays a good decision to make.
Thanks again.
I'll focus on my work, act blind.
I'll mind my own business, hear nothing.
I'll forget about them, feel numb.
=)
Definition of a prostitute - One who solicits and accepts payment for sex acts.
deepd i am the one who acts the sex not the young man...he cant be a prostitute.
dazzle, forget about her..Think about ur happily married life..THATS IT..
aftr all, grown up ppl have brain to think, voice of conscience to choose watz rite & wrong.... so as long as thy never feel guilty, ther z no point in criticizing... in every nationalities u can find thm.... u jus ignore... nothin is goin 2 effect u +vly or -vly.... lets live our life in a +ve way!!!
Ofcourse the young man mandi. Whats the confusing part in that? The one who accepts payment is the prostitute.
and the lemons are sweet as well. :)
deep if i like having sex with young man and i will pay for him the services he rendered. whose the prostitute?
yes, she did once but not directly... some sort of asking "how can she divert the attention of our colleagues who talks about her?"
and after that, she cried and fainted. :(
Dazzy, if it doesn't affect you personally, IGNORE thats the keyword there.
Oh hell yes deepb ;)
flor.... Definition of a prostitute - One who solicits and accepts payment for sex acts.
I don't see how we all are getting paid for sexual acts.... If you got dibs on some gigolo services please let WK in on the deal also. I'm sure he would be interested :P
Looks like the grapes are sour.
you're absolutely right! hahahahahaha!!!
lol flor.. you are always amusing.. Maybe for you it is not, for me it is.
i get it right. :)
well, thanks for your comments.
at least i gathered some sort of influential good things i might adopt.
QL is an outlet for me.
thank you guys and gals!
i appreciate the various reactions. :)
so enlightening.
lol FS..
dazzle, but still we think that u shldn't put much attention on what ur co-fillipina is doing..its her life..u r happily married so make ur married life more blissful rather than seeing ur surroundings...
It shouldnt bother you unless they strip and mate on her work table infornt of you.
No need to be so curious and watch all the winks and smiles they exchange. Do wht you are entitled to and chillax.
dazzle it might be your filipina office mate has an attractive sex appeal which you dont have.
may I ask? Are you not also selling your body for money, we all are!
flor anyone selling their body for money is a prostitute :o)
I am an expert on human drama.
she's not a prostitute! ANd now my turn to ask you, are you an EXPERT on this kind of Pinoy drama?
well we keep telling them that, but they still think otherwise.. you cannot control what's going on in other people's minds and you cannot change their way of thinking.. but you don't let it bother you all the time right? because if you do, you might just end up in a looney bin and you'll feel 100 years older..
ask for your advice how to end the illicit affair? Or are you initiating something that you're thinking that is not okay?
another filipina versus filipina colleague sh1tt1ng each face in the ql forum...
if that was your only concern, you wouldn't have mentioned about her trolly full of groceries and her wallet without money!!
I can understand people getting worked up if its a relative or close friend. Even then posting a thread on QL serves no purpose. Who appointed you the moral police for all your colleagues ? Ignore it and try to focus on your work instead of others personal matters.
I don't mean to contribute to the negative connotations to us Filipinas, remember, I am also a Filipina.
I just want to tell as well everybody in QL that not all Filipinas/Filipinos are the same, we are also of unique personalities.
I know my co-filipinas will get pissed off with me for posting this...
But maybe, we have to realize the other point of the story.
I know my officemate would like to get out of the situation, but how can she do it?
I know as well, that's it's not easy to be on her situation where everybody else talks about her.
what can you do in such situations? come on, just focus on work matters.. what these women do, let them deal with the consequences of it.. it doesn't concern you.. just get on with your life.
FS it happens but happens covertly..
come on WK...it happens in most offices...as long as he/she is not disturbing you or hitting on you..why should it bother you?
MJ ofcourse it won't and I would have appreciated if she didn't mention any nationality but I can't question her for being bothered by it.
hmmm... filipina again?
And would you also come and post it on QL, even though it serves no purpose WK ?
sorry to say, but I can't be jealous to such things...
I am focused on my work, but how can u be focused when somebody beside you is doing "something else"? i would gladly appreciate your advice on what i can do to such situations. :)
WK, and this will help solve the issue at hand?
you are not contributing any positive thing! But the other way around, more negative views about Pinays!
I don't know why you guys questioning why is it bothering her.. I mean working alongside prostitutes will bother me too.
Lol now Filipinos are leading
and you're bothered by this because----?
Well people, i know you're right, MINDING my OWN BUSINESS is the only solution.
(If only I can cover my eyes while working, ill do...)
=(
i know that, and its frustrating. How people look at us Filipinas is so saddening. Even if your not one of those people, they're thinking you're just another one... :(
dazzle, yes she deserves her privacy. She is your colleague, and I don't think she owes you anything. It's upto her if she wants to make a mistake. Who appointed you the judge? Mind your own business.
The sad part it one person of a specific nationality (whether P/F/I/A/W) will do something and UNFORTUNATELY every other person of that particular nationality gets painted with the same brush.
i got disgusted because i used to value this person as a friend and as a co-Filipino. It's in our culture, valuing not just your family, but even our co-Filipinos especially when your out of the country... You may not understand why we all want her out of her situation, but at least you can preview the future outcome of this.
Privacy? do you think she has the right to privacy whilst we all know she's breaking a family?
Changing job? how i wish i could? maybe your familiar with NOC... :)
what's the point of posting this? Are you still amused?
whats bothering you??you sound a bit jeleous...mind your own business.. and focus on your work!!
Damn!
Nothing new.
Thats none of ur business buddy to intervene in other's privacy..Let that LADY to do what she wanna do..Ur advises are not gonna to washout her brains...Can't u change ur job if u think this all things r DISGUSTING??
It is everywhere in Doha, where will you run.. people are doing anything and everything for money.
Since you're also Filipina, ppl will assume you're game as well. And that really sucks.