is it worth sacrificing?
1 year bak i faced a situation ,which made me to think of what am i doing here in qatar,n is it worth sacrificing my life for some extra money!
i had a very good neighbor right opposite to my house.she used to love growing plants.she kept a beautiful rose plant in front of her door.every single day she water it,hoping for a rose to bloom.
today wen i ws watering her plant,i noticed a tiny rose bud.i was so happy to c it n was eager to go n break the news to my neighbor who was at that time ,hospitalized for n ectopic operation.n was told that she wil be discharged tomoro.her parents will be joining her next week from srilanka to celebrate the sinhala festival. and she promised me that she will give me all their traditional sinhalese food to taste.she was very badly struggling to get the visa for her parents n was counting days to c her parents n to celebrate the festival in her new beautiful house.
it was around 1 o clock mid night,my phone started to ring.i answered the phone,n i got the most shocking news that i could ever get.MY NEIGHBOR HAD PASSED AWAY......
i was stunned for a while.i thought it was a dream.coz i just saw her in the evening at the hospital.i spoke to her n touched her forehead,just to show her that im glad she was recovering.
i got down from my bed n quickly ran to my entrance door,n wen i opened it i saw the beautiful rose fully grown.i screamed and started to cry.i realized my neighbor was gone for ever, n her sons were left without a mom.i started to utter every single thing she told me.i felt the frozen skin of hers when i touched her forehead during my visit to the hospital.i remember how i wiped a away her tear drops,wen she was in pain after the surgery.
my neighbors life was changed n disappeared in the thin air.it all just took three days.7 days b4 she celebrated her 39th bday.she was dressed up in a red frock n was looking stunning.n i remember her telling that she will not celebrate her next bday ,coz she will b 40 n thats too old for a celebration....n as she wanted,it was the last bday she could ever celebrate.
she had so many plans for her festival,which was just 1 week ahead.n she was not able to live just for another week..............
me my self i have many plans in my mind for the next year.n now im not sure whether my life will take me there.
life is uncertain.this moment is certain,the next minute is not.how much dreams and plans do we have for the next day,next week,next month and the next year? but will we be alive to fulfill all those dreams.?
dear friends,live your life now,this second....
you will never know how n what will take you to the next minute.be happy n enjoy ur life in the present.dont run behind ur life.pause n embrace what you have right now.dont miss n blame on anything that you have missed.life is short so make it sweet...when you are gone,you are gone for ever....n there is nothing you could take along with u.n no one will b there to accompany u,u came to this world alone n you will be leaving alone.
how many of us are living abroad by sacrificing our parents,friends,relatives just to earn that extra money to build a house or to do sum saving for our future?i my self is doing it.i miss my parents n my friends today,n im not sure whether ill be able to see them again......
coz im not sure whether ill be living on this earth another day.....
like my neighbor,will i live another week to see my parents? I DONT KNOW....
how much we sacrifice for our future? my question is.....will i be alive to live in the future which i have dreamed of?will i get a chance to keep a foot on my new house which im building today?is the sacrifice we are making worth while?
i guess everyone has this question in there mind,,,without any answers...........
i just went out of qatar., last oct'10, as i was getting sick and lonely there after 4yrs... im here in my home for good.. (for now...maybe..or will try some other country..) coz i had saved enough money though, and my sis started working after finishing college, no more big expenditures... :)
my cousin got cancer in saudi... just few days after i came home, he came as well and directly went to hospital.. after few days he passed away too. :(
when a person is getting sick (abroad)... you'll be able to forget all the dreams that you have, whats all in your mind is to be with your love ones, until you get fine...
and when you get fine... you will think again all the plans and dreams that you were thinking before.
thats the reality of life :(
but i guess, what matters most is what makes you more happy and contented.
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life is full of sarifices
Life is short...
Might as well make the most out of it
If she had stayed in Sri Lanka it may still have happened anyway. I am sure she supported her family at home and her children better than had she stayed at home. The sadness is that she died alone and lived alone.
Not having companionship can be a struggle anywhere. Life is full of tragic ironies. If you have a dream for a better life what choice do you have?
Such is life...unpredictable. When events happen close to home, we are reminded of our own mortality.
life is nothing but the choices we make or dont make...having gone through such a phase myself, the only thing i can say is to find your passion and then have the audacity to stick with it...all the best.
May she rest in peace.
Sadly, many of us become part of the rat race. We strive to better our lives and usually whatever we earn is never enough :O(
This is what LIFE is...
Feel sorry for your neighbour..
Not too much to say. I can only sigh.
really feel bad for your Neighbor and you are right tats the reality and we have to face it...
ths is life... the unpredictable tale....
so jay you hav mentioned "lets live life as it is our last"
so if today is ur last day,do you think that u will be able to meet ur family,giv them a hug n shed a tear n say goodbye to them? we are miles away from them,wil god spare us sum time just to reach home n to say our final good byes?
this worries me alot.my parents are old,n i dont know who will get the chance to c each other for the last time.will it b my parents? or will it be me?
whew... what a touching story..
lets live life as its our last.
@tinkerbell, the main reason why we're here is for our family and fulfill our dreams with them soon. just to bad we're miles away and its sometims difficult to express your love with them..
and sometimes its greediness that makes it even worst for the expats.
thanx Tinkerbell.even thought i wrote it as a tale,it was my reality.n its very difficult to com out of it.coz my neighbors widow husband and the 2 sons still live in front of my house.wen i c them struggling alone without a mom to cook good food for them n to help them with their home work.its heart breaking.i cannot imagine myself in a situation like that.....life is full of surprises.good n bad.........
I wish i could back and spend time with my parents. I feel very sad when i think my and my wife's parents are alone. They have grown old and i am the only son, i wish had the courage to leave this job and go back to them. When you are away from them you miss them too much.
I have been here now almost 4 years and desperately looking to go back to the UK.. Even though financially one is better off here!
section on QL you can post this there too under your blog
That's life, truly unpredictable. Live everyday as it is the last day.
by the way her name was Dhakshiny.my long gone neighbor.lov you dear.may ur sins be forgiven......