Custody

I am really sorry for what has happened. I am not married yet

but I have a friend who had a very difficult

situation... She is a single mom with her

son in 20s mentally ill and they put her son in

prison for some unknown reason but after she produce

the reports everything is alright..

She used to attend some seminars of how to manage

your life when you have some difficult situations

like urs.

They used to say you have ur own rights to live

and u have ur rights for ur kids as well but should

be balanced.

If you have tried all ur options and still you did

not get any solution then you have to be happy in

ur life..

I used to advise her that " we have a cosmic

relationship among our blood relatives and true

lovers who meant for us...like if my mom is not

feeling well in my country which much far away from

the place i live..

i still used to have some strange feelings in my

heart which means there is something invisible which

keeps the blood relatives attached together...

so if u want ur kids to be happy u have to

be happy..."

I wish you all the best and I pray May God make it

easy for you to accept the situation and make it easy

for you.

Angelina.....Dont bother yourself!!! If you are not a parent, then move on and do not worry yourself!!! What is weird to you might not be to other parents who are depressed, and trying to reach out to other parents here in Qatar far from their kids.

it was to reach out to other PARENTS who might be facing custody challenges like me. The question is :

anyone else that might be having challenges with international custody battles? How are you coping with missing your kids..

If you read a post that has nothing to do with YOU, don't be mean and comment or be even more mean and PM hate words to me

Anyway thanks.

Actually your post is on a PUBLIC forum not a private blog so people are free to comment.......I just think its weird that's all.......

THX Brit,

working on it, just wanted info how other parents in this situation deal with it.

the post is not a joke, it was to reach out to other parents who might be facing custody challenges like me. The question is :

anyone else having challenges with international custody battles? How are you coping with missing your kids?

If you read a post that has nothing to do with YOU, don't be mean and comment or be even more mean and PM hate words to me!

All for blessing and prayers.

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Why do you feel the need to express such things on QL?? Very odd.........

I'm very sorry to read this. While I cannot give you any advice, I will make sure to remember you in my prayers, so you are reunited with your children and ease your sorrow in this very trying situation!

Hope it will sort out soon!

Ouch...seems like a painful predicament your in good luck resolving it...always thought the mother had a greater say in custody situations guess I was wrong

I cant begin to imagine how you feel (being apart from your kids), but then I have loved and lost (so I feel your pain).

There is SKYPE, and if they are old enough, or if your ex is willing, then try and keep them close to you via video chats. I know it is not the same, but still, it is better than nothing.

good luck...

:(

Hope you find an amicable solution to your problem. It si not easy and much too common for rxpats. good luck and don't give up hope.

Prozac is available over-the-counter in Doha. But that is, as you say, irrelevant to your heartbreak. I'm so sorry, my dear. These cases are the most difficult issues in our world.

Mandi

And I think I know about this case as it was posted here on QL not long ago with an FB link.

It is in my daily prayers .. wishes .. to beg for a permanent resolve for everyone's painful life issues.

I agree .. regular communication is the single biggest assurance one can depend upon.

On the otherhand , to get more positive energy one needs to find an anchor in a new partner .. Asians turn to spirituality and it works for them .. I would say.

I can see that, although it was hard for me to be seperated from the kids, it can be even harder for a woman. My current wife found it very difficult leaving her 18 year old son behind in the UK and wants to talk to him every day.

Life is hard.

One thing I am certain of, it is almost impossible for a parent living outside the kids' home country to be awarded custody. There will be an automatic assumption by the judge that the kids will be better off where they were born, and close to extended family.

:( I can't imagine how tough this must be for you.

Isn't it nearly impossible to keep relations on 'civil terms' with someone who is not resiprocating in the same way .. ?

One of my closest friends here, also an American, shares the identical predicament as you do. It's now been over three years since she last saw her kids back in the US. And just like your ex her ex also doesn't allow the kids to come to Qatar even for a visit. I know how sad this all makes her, though she does have kids here from her husband, all her kids from her former marriage are back there. The fact that she is left out from so many occasions and milestones in their lives is something she can never truly ever get used to. She only bares with all patiently.

Truly you have my sympathy and well wishes. As a mom I cannot even begin to feel the pain you brave ladies must feel,as I know how much I miss my daughter if she's even away from me for a day. Insha Allah I truly hope things will work out such that you will get to see them sooner. God is truly able to do all things! Take care.

I wasn't joking or suiggesting anything. I was simply asking how do you get antidepressants in Qatar where they have a prehistoric view that mental health issues like depression don't exist. If you are one of the lucky two in three people who DON'T suffer from any mental health problems at some time in their lives then bully for you. Don't shove it down my throat.

I found that the best way to cope with not having the kids around was to ring them regularly and religiously, every week. I also visited them or had them come and stay with me two or three times a year. Each time we had very high quality holidays where they got to do something completely different from what they had at home (travel to amazing places).

I am afraid it doesn't get any better with time and all you can do is keep trying to be the best you can be. Be honest with them, open with them, and don't try to be the disciplinarian or try to change them when you see them. That is not your role any more.

Keep on civil terms with your ex-partner. Try very hard not to run him/her down in front of the kids. If you are very lucky you will have the opportunity to build a new family. Always try to keep the love for YOUR kids unconditional.

Were you married to an Arab?

Did your ex marry again? how old are your kids?

just console yourself, and think deeply to resolve the issue... hope things will be better. just believe.

hope it somehow reslove soon.

The children suffer most in these kind of custody battles.

the post is not a joke, it was to reach out to other parents who might be facing custody challenges like me. The question is :

anyone else having challenges with international custody battles? How are you coping with missing your kids?

If you read a post that has nothing to do with YOU, don't be mean and comment! I sincerely hope no one has to feel the pain and suffering parents like me face being separated from kids they love and miss so much!

sirlenfin, As for happy pills, it was just a statement to wish for something to help me sleep a bit, not to comment or suggest I am Mental!!!

Please don't comment on posts that you do not personally have knowledge about just because your bored and feel like hurting someone online.

Hope someone with similar situation can answer my post.

Salam.

How did you get happy pills in Qatar? We don't have mental health issues here.

how sad :(

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