Help needed!
im wondering if there are many women who find themselves in my situation..... My husband has been working in qatar for almost two years, I have spent time out there coming and going but last year I found out that he had met a Filipino woman who very cleverly got her self pregnant and went back to the Philippines to have their baby at just six weeks. Unfortunatley she lost it but went back to Doha and they carried on their relationship. He told me it was over between us late last year but he still messages me to say he misses me. He came home just before Christmas and told me he had found out that she has three other children with three different men, not sure if I can believe this but he went back to her during the Christmas break but had to come home again early in January for a bereavement. I found a valentines card he had bought for her with Fiancée on but apparently he told me thats what the Filipinos call their boyfriends, really!!! I found documents he had in a suitcase that suggested to me he is trying to get her into this country by way of a visa. He denied this saying he still had feelings for me and didn't know what he wanted. how easy is it for a Filipino to get a visa to Britain as I really don't want to be taken for a fool. Since my husbands been out there his debts have accumulated into a mountain but he's still burying his head in the sand. Yes I have seen a picture of them together and I guess some will say go to the authorities.... what satisfaction would I get from that? Is there another way for me to deal with this ludicrous situation??
Thank you I think that sums it up nicely....
Ok. When no trust left then better to end this relationship and move further ahead. The best you could do is seek for an end thru legal ways.
Well I don't trust me husband!
Whom do you trust more. Qlers or your husband.
British. sakaera
What is your nationality
Thanks chameleon
Criminal Evidences and Information Department (CEID) in Qatar.
Chameleon.... Who are the CEID? I thought my solicitor may be able to find out from the authorities if he's applied for a visa for her in which case this will be out of my control and the consequences suffered won't have been directly from me...
LEAVE HIM!! HE'S NOT WORTHY TO LIVED WITH!!
That was never a problem as my husband had my full attention, support and love in his quest to make him rich so I do believe the problem was with his greed not with my lack of interest "Dragonshark" If you knew me then you would realise what I've sacrificed for my husband and what I've done for him this last two weeks whilst he's been in the uk. Thank you for you "good luck" wishes but I think it's you that needs them as your narrow mindeness will never open your eyes to other peoples suffering. They say you make your own happiness in life and that's very true as mine was very blissful and contented until this man became hungry and greedy which in my eyes is material and will never bring true happiness to any soul. I think your on the wrong forum for help and advice as you've given zero input.
Problem & the solution with you maam!
Think before rejecting my idea.
Good Luck !
What is it you want to achieve dear? Vengeance thru legal means? You can probably secure evidences and report them to the CEID. Jail time for both of them I suppose....
Feeling sorry for you ! :(
Anyhow, whenever your husband is the toilet just check his wallet ? maybe he has kept some photos of other ladies, condoms etc. ?
Whenever you both go for shopping, just check your husbands reaction if oozes at other ladies...:)
If you came across such things, immediately SLAP him hard and kick him in between the legs and go home quietly as if nothing happened....:)
..... I've been very hurt by all of this and have looked at this in a rational way by trying to show him how much I still love and care for him by bowing out gracefully. I have been here for him since he's been home attending his own family bereavement and his attention was so that people thought we were back together but I can see now that it was all a front and I know I have to move on but I need to do this with respect for myself but let them know I am fully aware of what they are planning behind my back. I just needed a little advice on how I can do this as Qatar law is different from the uk. I know her first name so could cite her on the divorce papers but I'm not sure if that will have any effect.
Ditch the scumbag already! He is clearly a philanderer. Unless you are a masochist, please spare yourself the pain and have self-respect. This guy does not respect nor love you and is just using you for whatever reason. Move on and have a peaceful life. You deserve better. Goodluck :)
I hear you all & have had this from friends and family.... It is hard to walk away from someone who you love unconditionally as I have. I haven't done anything to instigate this Dragonshark except stand by a man who iclearly love
There is something seriously wrong in your man. He appears to be one of those men who is just not content with a single woman in his life even after marriage. After reading what you have stated, I think it is time for you to take some hard decisions. Just kick him out of your life. It is better to suffer for a day or two rather than suffer each day of your remaining life due to a person who does not understand the meaning of loyalty to a wife.
lol Ace... he sure is a guy... thats how they think i guess.
I need to leave this thread before I lose my head over comments like the moron "dragonshark" made. He also needs a kick in the balls. Good luck dear and if you need to talk, feel free to message me personally.
Like what Ace said.. If he had done this before.. he will keep doing it.. specially knowing that after all those cheating you are still there.. accepting him and loving him.. He clearly is using you for whatever purpose he has.. Do yourself a favor.. by the way i see it you are a loving kind hearted lady and you deserve someone who will treat you better.. not this guy who loves fooling around.. Please dont fall for his sweet i miss you messages.. one can even say i love you but would mean nothing... action speaks louder than words... Love does not hurt.. dont tell me you are not in any way hurt by his cheating? if he loves you he will not hurt you... wake up please...
Mamm! I think your side also have a mistake in this matter. Try to impress your man every time. Then he will not go for other women. Surely he will sacrifice you.
I wish I could speak freely here but I can't.. I wish I could sit you down and talk some sense into you! Whatever you once had is tainted now and things will NEVER be the same. THe fact that he can do this especially while you have been facing your own hardships just makes me want to kick him in the balls for you! We, as women need to stand up to this crap! The more we let them get away with it, the more they think they can have their cake and eat it! He has done this before, he is doing it now and no doubt he will do it again in the future! Please please wake up.. he will tell you and her and whoever else what he wants you to hear. You can start again. you deserve to be with a MAN not someone who will play around liek this. Whether she has 3 or 30 kids from another man it irrellivant. HE CHEATED ON YOU. That's enough for you to cut him off. You have to love and respect yourself as he clearly doesn't. If he is trying to save himself from financial ruin then that means he's now using YOU no? LEt him rot in jail here, why are you sparing him? You might say you still love him but he doesn't respect you for that does he or he wouldn't keep screwing around! How many others have their been that you don't even know about! Please wake up and show this man that you don't need and won't accept his crap anymore!
GTA Associates- my husband is weak as it's not the first time he has had an affair & doesn't think until after the event. We loved each other dearly & I've been a devoted wife to him. I have a daughter from my previous marriage who my husband brought up as his own. .... Ace1983 I fully agree it takes two to tango but when he told me she supposedly already has three children from three different men.....well wouldn't alarm bells ring in anyone's head or am I the only woman to think like that. I still love this man dearly so I guess that's why I haven't divorced and this all happened whilst I was nursing my dying father back here in the uk...he also messages me to tell me he misses me & when I've previously spoken of a divorce he has said he doesn't want one yet..but I now believe it's just to save himself from complete financial ruin as his new girlfriend believes him to be wealthy as he has cleverly hid all his debts from her. I know what they've done could easily get them thrown out of the country but not before a prison sentence......I don't think I could stoop that low..I just wondered if anyone has had a similar situation?
She "cleverly got herself pregnant"? Am I missing something here?! I have just had a baby and I'm pretty sure my husband played a massive part in that! For the love of god dear, why on earth are you still with this man? Wasn't that enough for you to divorce him?
it is better to discuss with him openly and to understand his intentions. Many a times, people would get in to such things for nothing, until the time they understand that they have a family.
Also try to understand what made him think like that to have another relationship.
Its very simple and easy but you have to handle with care.. Do you have kids??
What significance does this have?
Watch the hindi movie gharwali baharwali.