As an older man with four kids I'll give you a man's perspective. Assuming you have a happy relationship and assuming you're in secure job(s)
Men "generally" want to prepare for life's eventualities.
So they want to have a good job with good prospects and they tend to want to get into the expensive things in life, like buying a house and a nice car. It's a male version of bulding a nest.
So questions for you to think about are;
1. Do you have a "nest"?
2. Are you financially secure?
3. Does your husband have a good career?
4. Are your husbands work colleagues family men?
5. Are your husbands social colleagues family men?
If he's risk averse he may want to be sure that you can afford children. it may be that you are happy to have children now but he isn't.
OK that's the easy bit, having dome some analysis (and I can already see the responses saying don't be so analytical just go for it!) you need to take some action.
Find the right time (you'll know when) and discuss how you feel. You may be surprised at what he's thinking.
Tell him honestly that you'd like to start a family (we men need to be told, not good at guessing) Ask him if not now, when does he think will be a good time? (and why)
Communication never hurts and you may surprise each other with how you feel.
Hi Princesse (Great name by the way)
As an older man with four kids I'll give you a man's perspective. Assuming you have a happy relationship and assuming you're in secure job(s)
Men "generally" want to prepare for life's eventualities.
So they want to have a good job with good prospects and they tend to want to get into the expensive things in life, like buying a house and a nice car. It's a male version of bulding a nest.
So questions for you to think about are;
1. Do you have a "nest"?
2. Are you financially secure?
3. Does your husband have a good career?
4. Are your husbands work colleagues family men?
5. Are your husbands social colleagues family men?
If he's risk averse he may want to be sure that you can afford children. it may be that you are happy to have children now but he isn't.
OK that's the easy bit, having dome some analysis (and I can already see the responses saying don't be so analytical just go for it!) you need to take some action.
Find the right time (you'll know when) and discuss how you feel. You may be surprised at what he's thinking.
Tell him honestly that you'd like to start a family (we men need to be told, not good at guessing) Ask him if not now, when does he think will be a good time? (and why)
Communication never hurts and you may surprise each other with how you feel.
Hope that helps.
Good luck
Stryker-UK
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