Thank you for repying to the post content. I'm glad to read your relation to it and sharing your experience of the subject.
I didn't word the sentence you diagree with well enough. I did not exclusively mean love is the need to validate yourself in a person. Now that I ponder it, I don't know. I don't think I've been in love.
But what I meant instead was that the instinctual feeling of wanting to find a partner is like an in-built yearning that you feel must be fulfilled. Say you're single and you hang out with friends who are in a relationship/a couple. Doesn't the thought of when you will next have a bf/gf come up if you kind of step back a bit or if the topic comes up in conversation about you being single/the opposite sex? That's what I mean. It's like the joke you see in sitcoms where a guy stops his girlfriend getting ideas about marriage by changing the subject. I guess that is the social norms thing, that we aspire/yearn for it because we see others in society acting in that way. This is what I was considering in thought, how much of it now is instinct and how much is social influence?
Thank you for repying to the post content. I'm glad to read your relation to it and sharing your experience of the subject.
I didn't word the sentence you diagree with well enough. I did not exclusively mean love is the need to validate yourself in a person. Now that I ponder it, I don't know. I don't think I've been in love.
But what I meant instead was that the instinctual feeling of wanting to find a partner is like an in-built yearning that you feel must be fulfilled. Say you're single and you hang out with friends who are in a relationship/a couple. Doesn't the thought of when you will next have a bf/gf come up if you kind of step back a bit or if the topic comes up in conversation about you being single/the opposite sex? That's what I mean. It's like the joke you see in sitcoms where a guy stops his girlfriend getting ideas about marriage by changing the subject. I guess that is the social norms thing, that we aspire/yearn for it because we see others in society acting in that way. This is what I was considering in thought, how much of it now is instinct and how much is social influence?
smile,
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