I am in exactly the same situation. I have been offered a great job, free housing, car and tax free salary. It all sounds great. I have even told my potential employee of my domestic situation (civil partnership) which I have been told that it is fine. After all, 80% of the country is expats albeit a lot from India and other Middle East countries.

So far so good.

However, when I visited I did find it restrictive - not as bad as say Kuwait but it is a small country. My driver for the day was Indian and kept asking me why I wasn't married (on my first visit I thought it best to just not say anything to anyone except my potential employer). I have to say it became increasingly uncomfortable. I haven't been in this situation for a long time.

It is also one of the first questions I got asked! Qataris are so friendly that they don't think twice about asking this sort of thing.

For my job I would need to network etc and am considering whether we could do this i.e. entertain at home etc, given our situation.

It doesn't help but we are seriously considering whether we could really go back to the 'dark ages' where we couldn't even acknowledge our relationship if asked.

It's good to be able to talk about this as I need to make a decision very shortly.

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