pink, so sorry for you. there are homewreckers everywhere, much to my shame as a woman. the fact that you're not working and totally relying on your husband makes it hard for you to quit. but you know what, get your family's support from back home, speak to your man, and just quit.

sorry for the pain but most women i know who had been there, done that, had emerged the happier ones in the end. let him be another woman's headache! you deserve to be treated better. good luck!