its nice to see that there are people out there going through the same path in life!, i thankyou all for your support i have been amazed at the number of replies i have recieved to my post and it has made me feel a little better that people can be so kind, thankyou all so much and i suppose it is a learning curve that isnt easy! as for the company we are not going to let them get away with it and currently building a case against them.
i send big hugs to all that have been or are going through the same situation, if you feel you want to chat with me, pm me and i will give you my numbers

kay
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