what iam trying to say is why be in a marriage and still have an extra marital affair?

if one feels that sexual attraction ,in a strong way that u want to sleep with the guy /gal, or emotional attarction it clearly states that u have stopped loving ur partner somewhere in ur life and it is time to move on rather than hold on to being married,inorder to get the benefits of marraige like security,etc

if u love someone deeply u attain some selfcontrol not to cheat on them.