When did I ever say don't inform the first wife? All I'm saying is that in Islam it is allowed. This practice has nothing to do with being independent or educated. This is a religious issue cut and dry. There are plenty of independent and educated women who are married to men who have more than one wife. In fact if you think hard enough you may even think of one who lives in Qatar!!! So are you saying she is not independent or educated because of her situation!!!

The bottom line is this is part of our way of life. If someone wants to marry more than 1 woman, then he should keep this in mind when he marries his first wife. Nonetheless, it is his Islamic right to do so if he wishes. This concept is radically different then the western view. I think we should let it go and agree to disagree.