That's fair Gypsy. And the orthodox way of doing it IS to take permission from the first wife. Doing it behind her back is really cowardly in my opinion. I know a wife who had a blind girlfriend and asked her husband to take her as a second wife to give her a life that she wanted so much but had a weak chance of getting. Its not all selfishness Gypsy, and it shouldn't be all jealousy either.