Thats the spirit. Actually I never really asked my wife to do anything. She takes care of herself "look wise" and I do the same, although I seem to be falling terribly behind in that department.
As for everything else in our 5 years of marriage, I can sum it up to one word "Compromise", thats how we get by the little stuff and focus on actually living with each other and not assigning roles :-)
War...War never changes...