"keeps blaming the wife and doesnt want to hear what the wife says.. what u think the wife should do....
when husband bluntly say he dont trust anyone in his life except him"

what an ahole! seriously, both partners should seek counselling. if the hubby refused, the wife should decide promptly on whether to stay married or not. i hope she would choose the former before that ahole could do damage to her and the kid. better separated and happy!