hi Amoud, i agree with you. we need to be a healthy complete person to be able to succeed in any lasting and loving relationships like marriage and family.

I guess the phrase "revolving around your husband" can be taken negatively or positively. but because i deal a lot with divorced people, i do see a trend going the extreme way among modern wives (in this part of the world mostly) who defy their husbands, in an effort NOT to have their life revolve around him; or the other extreme, when the wives try to control their husband's life, thinking it's her duty to make him a better man, thinking that she can (LOL), and ends up not liking the man her husband has become, because he couldn't be himself.