from my point of view its not the physical appearance that is important what matter most is your whole personality the totality of being you...how you deal with people...how u treat them...for me its better to have a good heart...being fat its only physical but people will love you with your attitude...i think its unfair to judge a person for being fat...u have to know him or her well before u can say that he or she is a good person inside out...being fat there is so many solution to loose weight but being a bad person i think its hard to change...so love yourself then everything will follow everybody will love u in return...a fat or a sexy lady will like you if ur sincere honest and faithfull with all your actions...so smile...theres nothing impossible to a person with a strong determination so if your willing to start and change your life and add more bonuses on your good personality just give yourself a break as long as your happy with your life and your not hurting other people who cares stop worrying about what people might say or think about u just be yourself...