Selfish, ignorant, stupid, irresponsible, childish... are just a few words coming to my mind to describe the OP. Grow up!!! You did it and now own up to it! Seek professional help (or not, I could not care less) and start being a man! How dare you bring a life into this World and turn into a CRYBABY as if we should feel sorry for you? I feel sorry for your wife having married such a sad loser who will not seek professional help despite having been advised to do so. Fathers like you make my blood boil!!!!!