relationship

umm....lets hope for best

Communication is the best tools in relationship..

Love,Respect and Trust are very important..be calm and extend your temper..understand him and talk what ever problems u may have.Pray to him and HE will guide u.

Brit i accept your points ,it is very corrct even if she created this forum for research also.But Brit said golden rules for couples ( married..?)

@Chacko, One more man from Heaven........

thaaara.....jus dont do anythin these guys say.....jus give him tym....he will com back to u autoamtically.....jus giv him tym...nd be sure tht u look after him in perfectly durin this tym...i mean routines shud never be messed up....jus becoz ur also angry.....coz men sort out their probs on their own...pls dont nagg him.....

kalli....u read tht book ah....."men are frm mars and women frm venus"....no wonder...but i think u havent read it fully....

Pls Meera, Dont Start again, We wasted whole day on this topic, PLs check the Reply from Tara... Thanks re..:)

First try to speak with your husband and make him understand your feelings, if things not working out inform your mum and discuss.

Communication is better than to say nothing at all.

I am sure my answer brought a new dimension to the research..

qatarisun, I hope there are no needles involved.. :P

ops, she tried to turn all of us into experimental rabbits...lol...

Kalli valli, do you really needed to post this petry type thing here. You could have created a new forum topic for this.

Any way Thara: if you are really having problem with your husband of any kind, best way is to cook a nice dinner for him or go out to some good dining place (quite & peaceful) and talk to him over dinner. Just explain him how do you feel and i hope result will be good for both of you. P.S. Also listen to what he has to say for it and try to understand his point also.

In every marriage, times like these comes. No matter how perfect it seems, we always undergo such situations that will eventually make our relationship stronger (to one another and to ourselves). So if your husband comes home and you feel that he is distant, find time to console him by TALKING (not nagging) and making him feel that you are always ready to listen. Ask him how his day was. Most probably, he is feeling like that because he had too much pressure at work, or had a very bad day. It is our responsibility to lighten the mood. Of course at times we also undergo such pressure, but hey! at least we know we can handle it better than the guys ;) If you know what I mean? Prepare him a good dinner, or give him massage to relax him and then when you know he is relaxed, sit down and discuss what's happening to your marriage. We don't have to talk that much, just listen and you will understand things.. Good luck!

The sample is a bit small for statistically relevant correlations.

Brit are you still glad you took the time to answer a researcher?

Glad we could help in your research Thara...on that note how much do you get paid for such time consuming research? I might be interested in some side money.

a research on what? dysfunctional marriages?

Duh!

Thara are you TheLucyShow?

I am not attantion seeking stuff.............I go through all the forums and the peoples perspective every day.........I wanted to see how many here are constructive and destructive in making relationship. this was part of my research. Any ways thank you so much for all of you.

Always think positive when you comment on some one,,,,, Judge others as you wish to be Judged!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are welcome Lucy

Thank u so much

kallivalli, now that you've let that out of your system, would you mind switching your CAPS LOCK off... :|

MAN IS FROM MARS AND WOMEN IS FROM VENUS

YOU CANT STUBBORN ON UR VIEWS ABOUT UR HUSBAND

AND THE SAME FROM THE PART OF HUSBAND TO WIFE

WHEN YOU FEEL SOO DOWN..

THINK ABOUT THE MOST MISERABLE THINGS AROUND YOU

THE PEOPLES, THE HUNGER, THE VICTIMS, STARVING..

AND THEN.

THINK ABOUT THE NICE THINGS, MEMORABLE MOMENTS THAT YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND SHARED IN UR GOOD DAYS

THINK ABOUT THE GOOD QUALITIES OF HIM

AND BE PATIENCE....

TIME CAN HEAL ALL THE WOUNDS

IN A GOOD MARITAL RELATIONSHIP THERE SHOULD BE A QUARREL IN BETWEEN..

AND PLEASE DONT OPEN YOUR WINDOWS TO OTHERS LIFE

LOVE WHAT YOU ARE...GOD MADE YOU PEOPLE TO LIVE TOGETHER

YOU WILL REALISE LATER

GOOD LUCK

yeah..you're right with that..

>MUTE OFF<

Brit send her a PM will you and get this private and personal shite off a public forum.

This is attention seeking. No wonder your husband is struggling with you, you keep telling everyone about your private life and seeking sympathy and attention from them.

You crave people feeling sorry for you.

Seriously Lucy or whatever your name is, you really do need help AND I AM NOT JOKING or MESSING ABOUT here. QL is not going to solve your problem, seek professional help.

Forget everything that everyone is saying...just follow him and see who he's screwing around with.

Which part of the relationship are you have problem with? Can you be more specific? Before we can offer you advice!

Understanding is a two-way street.Talk to your husband in a loving & understanding way so he could fully understand ur sentiments..Men don't want nagging..they want women who understands. Don't wait ur husband to sense that there's something wrong coz that will never happen,unless he has the ability to read your mind..TALK.LET HIM UNDERSTAND..

thara, really needs a good advice for this..tsk!

Do you really think you'd get some advice here? A professional psychotherapist will need a week to analyze the cause for your situation, and he will charge you 10.000 Riyals for his work.

>MUTE

agree with brit

Come on people...... help the poor lady .. Whomsoever it is..

Thara: We all go through bad patches in our relationships. Part of the price for getting married :O(

Anyway, rather than looking at the negatives, why not look at the positives and try and compromise a little.

Also, if possible, perhaps someone could "counsel" you and your husband.. A family member or friend.

Don't let things get you down...

you claim yourself to be complex then how can your husband understand you???

Both of you come and see me tomrrow at 8pm. Bring a strong baseball or cricket bat too.

you created this id just to tell you have problems with your husband???

Do you want us to get involved in your personal issues?

A women's success is in her patience

B Useful to Others......:)

duh pedrito!! > 'you dont know may be your husband is going through a lot of work pressure in their office'..i can never accept that as a reason for him to treat you badly.

So Lucy, are you attracted to any other men at the moment? Perhaps this is the cause of your dilemmas.

that's the best thing (advice) i can say...

It's incredible that people can give advice without even knowing anything about what's going on..

I am myself the culprit of it at times so not saying anything to anyone, I am just wondering aloud..

keep yourself busy..

Dont Spoil your life like this... Try to see gud things in your husband... Nobody is not Perfect in this World...we think "for Someone, Someone is Perfect", So that you've to make by yourself. Try to Sort-out all small problems.BE HAPPY always.....:)

God has created man and women that made the pairs also. This sort of things are just mind matchning and then you may have more love and affection towards ur hubby.

Keep enjoying thats life we all are facing in different ways at our homes

just stay calm and give more patience,you dont know may be your husband is going through a lot of work pressure in their office.try to understand him..i am sure by that way everything will be find.

TB...I think its Santro...:)

Are you Pregnant ?

Go counseling..That's the best option..

Lucy is that you?

WK!!!!!!!!!!

Go to sleep during those times or get drunk..

or combine the two and pass out drunk...

I don't quite get it what being a "psychic" has got to do with your problem at hand... did you mean "psychotic" by any chance?