what can a filipino spouse do on the other girl if he learned that his spouse has an affair?

unick
By unick
By alsboy• 15 Jan 2009 16:36
alsboy

Y is tht u people can neva decide who ur life partner is? Seriously... U guys love doing this? I have a bunch of filipino friends at my work place who keeps telling me about cheating on their partner and tht its a very common thing back in the filipines... Man...!!!

By pinoyaccountant• 15 Jan 2009 16:21
pinoyaccountant

I admire the answer of rimlaw. Good point. Whew!!!

Men are born polygamous. But ask why there's a lot of relationships that last that long. It's because of the patience and the loyalty of the women most of the time.

As the word "ilaw ng tahanan", we must admit that women plays an exemplary role in moulding our children. And as for you, you should talk to your husband and settle things once and foremost.

Be and stay positive. We will pray for you.

By corcaoich• 15 Jan 2009 15:21
corcaoich

being from a similar religious background, big presumption but follow the majority, I can understand the hurt that someone feels when someone who has made a lifelong commitment betrays in this manner. Whatever action one takes, will it help? In the end someone who has made that commitment has to evaluate whether this is more important than his or her immediate gratification. If it is not why keep him/her anyway, why punish others for this great betrayal it is his/her fault not the other persons. Remember vengeance is mine said God. Any attempt to take on His role may end in disaster. See what can be salvaged from this hurtful episode, it may strengthen your relationship if u can work thru it. Seeking vengeance will only complicate matters and may hurt u more than u can imagine.

By rimlaw• 15 Jan 2009 14:45
rimlaw

Let me answer your question as you presented it, for it solicits a qualified answer:

a. If the offended spouse is the husband having discovered his wife having an "affair" with the girl, then he should look himself naked at the mirror and blame his worthless war machine;

b. If the offended spouse is the wife having discovered her husband having an "affair" with the girl, then she should do a "Bobitt" and stuck that worthless piece into his throat.

Seriously,extra-marital affairs are not new anymore, it has been here since time immemorial, long before marriage was given sanctity under Family Laws. Even American presidents do it for sheer stupidity. Offended spouses took calculated steps depending on the gravity of the offense and the possible social effects that the scandal will bring if brought to light in public.

Filipinos are highly religious people, but their extraneous acts betray their loyalty to their religion. Appeal to carnal knowledge and extra-marital affairs are a constant embassment committed by people both obscure and the famous, news on graft and corruption far outplace worthy articles on front pages, and these all happen because society cant care more than what is to cook for supper.

I have handled annulment cases in my trial practice in the Philippines and the end losers are innocent children having had to suffer from thier parents' misbehavior. The thin fiver of society, our children, who will carry whatever legacy we leave, are forever damaged because of our indiscretion.

Talk to you husband in a manner like you are just getting married, set aside your anger, and convince him that the interest of your marriage and your children's future are of paramount interest than the temporary scent of that other woman.

By richard goma• 15 Jan 2009 14:05
richard goma

get even !!! find a boyfriend too !!!

By wissamj• 15 Jan 2009 10:41
wissamj

Ok, im not trying to be against the flow and i know your problem is not that easy, so im not gonna bother you throwin some blame over your shoulders BUT

did you ask yourself why is he having an affair ???

besides why would you think of the other girl, your commitment is to your husband, so he is the one you contact and discuss things with !!!

In every marraige mistakes happen, lucky are those who get a big heart to forgive

By Amoud• 15 Jan 2009 08:53
Amoud

This kind of question drives me nuts. The other girl has no commitment to you, but your husband does. Why are you looking to punish her?

By anonymous• 15 Jan 2009 08:45
anonymous

Well if you have kids and you love him much, try to save your relationship, be strong but if he's still doing the same things over and over again, forget him..

By walecner_iam• 15 Jan 2009 08:29
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walecner_iam

Tama si kabayang karerista, keep your questions as general as possible because i'm sure you're looking for a solution to a problem which confronts not only to a specific type of nationality.

Tackle the issue as mature people, give each other a chance. Reflect on yourself as well if you have done something wrong for your spouse to do such thing then seek a solution between the two of you to sort things out try to balance the good points in your relationship and not only the bad points whichever weighs most. Consider also your kids if there are when making decisions as they will be the ones who will be affected the most by this.

By kareristang pinoy• 15 Jan 2009 07:57
kareristang pinoy

gagamitin ko ang salita natin :

Unick pwede wag mo nang banggitin ang lahi dahil nagbibigay ito ng masamang impresyon para sa ating mga pinoy. At saka ito ay pwede rin mangyari sa iba.

Pakiusap lang!!!!!!!

By somwerNdmiddle• 15 Jan 2009 07:36
somwerNdmiddle

yes, talk about it first, if you could all find a solution to this that would settle the problem then do it.

and i hope that couple does not have any child yet, WTF is that guy thinking anyway?!!!!!

By om Maui• 15 Jan 2009 07:34
om Maui

I agree with MJ.

Ask about what the wife will do to the husband if she finds out he's having another woman! Be afraid. Be very afraid! LOL.

By somwerNdmiddle• 15 Jan 2009 07:31
somwerNdmiddle

lorena bobbit? hehehehe

By mjamille28• 15 Jan 2009 07:29
mjamille28

careful, dont think it's only the girl involved that she'll get even with.. she might just do a "Bobbit" stunt on the husband as well,.. you just never know eh...

By SolidSnake9• 15 Jan 2009 07:28
SolidSnake9

talk... if doesn't work, get annulment papers ready..

By GodFather.• 15 Jan 2009 07:27
GodFather.

I think reword the question like this, what a should a flipino wife do to the other girl when she finds out that her husband is having an affair..

My answer.. Now you husband has tow enemies so make friend to this other woman and teach jim a lesson..

By somwerNdmiddle• 15 Jan 2009 07:19
somwerNdmiddle

are you the one involved in this predicament?

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