Was ganged up:the war between former friends

I'm sorry. This should have been posted a month ago since the incident happened but only forget my issue out of ignorance and change of outlook to make me stay confident or calm in the following days...but between the last two days she suddenly pulled the trigger again to make me suddenly feel I should flush this problem out as this was the cause of the sudden change of my happy to serious attitude on QL and I thought she already forgot about it.

I have this former close friend officemate, a female with 3 daughters and a husband in Doha. Since the first few days of my work in a company we have had this close bond that welcomed me to the active participation and socializing within the company employees (which, at first, there wasn't due to nationality and language issues), and also to the weekend stay with her kids and to afternoon lunch gatherings within the office premises.

The day I started to ignore her was the day she threw the first stone on me when me and my present girlfriend officemate (and soon to leave Qatar for good by the end of the month) had a little quarrel to sort out when she bulges in on me and tells me that I should have never touched her in my life because I disturb her routine and you already have a girlfriend to count on, in a high pitched voice and in private. I talked to my girlfriend about that and how I ended up I was the wrong person in our relationship and how it came up with that explanation. No. It didn't came out the same real explanation from her. It was the former friend's idea.

It took me days to realize after my sudden ignorance to my former friend about the matter (and our former unity), and realizes it was her who set us up the whole time. It was her who led me to try (or make it 'force' to be direct) to court a newcomer officemate I still can't find a feeling because I'm still not convinced. It was also her who takes protege of the obssessed guy (remember the former story I posted awhile back) who never changed in spite of her trying to control him of his actions and bad attitude towards women and my girlfriend (well it toned down a bit, but still one-sided and a bit maniacal) by 'feeding' refuge on her when she didn't know he only takes advantage of his 'fake innocence' to get into good office relations with anyone...and my former friend is still blind to the fact that it ends up I was the wrong person to begin with defending him on my girlfriend than me. It suddenly came into a form of favoritism in favor of who stays close to her, regardless whether they're bad or not. It also came to a time that the sales manager is also helping my former friend out on a crusade against me...because they seem to force me that I should follow what she wants and how she wants to run the unity of the office employees. Just because I'm not happy with some erroneous attitude with some employees that doesn't mean I have to pretend to be happy always according to what she wants.

...and I'm not the type of person who needs to pretend and forces to pretend just to maintain the somewhat 'friendship identity' everybody knew we were. If she didn't throw the 'first stone' on me with what she wants to happen, relations with everyone would have continuously been good on me. I don't want to be approached in a manner that I have to pretend and it only makes me feel like a rebel to a mother she isn't my real mother to begin with and follow her rules around the office. She is just an employee work coordinator for overtime and actual work connections and after telling her how I lived my life the whole time (as the elder son of a surviving family, an architect, etc.), it's just like respect for each other has flown away just to keep what she wants to happen around the office.

So I went out of the group and finds a place to remove the negative, confusing, nervous feeling I get everyday since the incident. I went back to my QatarLiving friends (for the second time as I didn't felt like appearing as I was really serious with my relationship with my girlfriend) so that I may forget it. For the whole month I always go home early and never go along with them nor in any of their office gathering.

And by the way, this incident and her continuous attitude was one of the partial reasons why my girlfriend suddenly made the decision to resign from the company.

And if my former friend didn't pull the same old shit on me within the last two days, I would have thought it was over and I would have been comfortable enough to have peace with her and everyone.