Why Can't MEN be more ROMANTIC?
By azilana7037 •
To think that most of the romantic poets were men, as were painters, writers of love songs and even most of the soppy films we ove to weep to. So MEN CAN DO IT...
How many men remember the importance of wooing and romance once a relationship has gone beyond the early stage?
And how many women wish their men would be abit romantic?
To the womenfolks...what are the (romantic) things you wish your men would do for you or have done for you?
And I'm asking the MENFOLKS here...How do you show your romantic side to your partner?
Lol......
This building is no more a Virgin......
Can he be jailed for molesting this building??????
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
romantic man
Hey everybody,
People always say French are very romantic. But it's more about history (Paris with its old monuments and its royal court life) than about French personality. Not everyone is romantic because they could not opening there hearts.
Actually, being romantic is not only to bring flowers and have a good meal around a table... It's more than that. It just comes from your heart through your feelings!!
In fact, It's just taking care about the person you love, and more generally about anything you love... Because it's when you are next to these things which make you feel so good, that you want to share this hapyness with someone else.
In a word, it's just to love the life and want the other to live this warmness.
This should happen in both way, woman and man should share this without restriction. If the woman wants to share something that the man doesn't understand, she will probably left one day... But also, when a woman is not able to think that man can have feelings and is kidding him when he shows it, it's not good at all too... It's a question of balance...
Just a last words... Of course being romantic depend of your personality, if you like to talk about feelings or not, but It can come from also of education.
I mean, if yours parents teach you for ages you need to love the other because it's the best weapon of human being, you will be aware to pay attention to they other, and so to be romantic..
see you
(sorry for the poor english, but it's late)
Guillaume
Will keep that in mind...shelly! With all the recession fears around , cant say what will help you and when, to make a living! :-p
Do u offer marrige counselling? Lol....... :)
U should!!
You say very powerful words! I was reading the thread and thinking "I wish my husband was.....", but you are right! He works 6 days a week and thanks to his working, I dont have to. You made me think!
You sound like the perfect wife! Good for you girl!!
WOW! I feel like a superstar! So much appreciation! :-p
DF: am doing jus fine here in Dubai. Hope you r havin fun experimenting with the latest in tehran's fashion street!;) Shud say you did a bouncer with that dejavu part though.
VB: Dubai is gud... as usual.in fact even better, what with the rents n traffic coming down !
Da: Stop doing ur dubai tours lyin on ur couch watching TV and hop in for a REAL weekend, you lazy bum!
Azi: Howz you doing, babe?
Ashwin: LOL @ performance pressure! chuck that and play the cool dude...!!
If I have understood you correctly both spouses need to work hard to create a Romantic environment in their LIFE, it doesn't come naturally quite true.
It is the state of MIND, when your mind relaxes and free from all worries/tensions then one could think of Romance...
Superb explanation!
How's life in Dubai?
dejavu
am sure we had similiar topic before and at the last moment winn make comment and everybody take the hats off!!! hhmmm.... winn how u doing man? dont you think is dejavu???
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
hi _|_ long lost buddy
Winn!!!!!!!! Awesome...
Tht takes off so much of performance pressure...
Thks a ton mate.....
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
I was young once (still young at heart,hehehehe)...and I've been into relationships since...lol
As a woman myself...I'm not after those material things like flowers, chocholates, dinners and stuff. But that doesn't mean I don't like to be pampered by my MAN.
YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD WITH THAT ONE, WINN...
:-D
bravo winn!!!!!!!
action speaks louder than words
First of all, some people are ROMANTIC, some are NOT. Its just someone's basic grain. If you have to put in an effort to be romantic, it will appear forced, not natural and spontaneous. The whole demand scenario on needing men to be more romantic will only spoil the atmosphere. In short, if it doesnt come naturally and spontaneously, dont try and force it.
For me, romance need not be candlelights n roses n stuff; it is when ur significant other doesnt need more than a simple touch or a look to tell youthat he/she knows what is going on in ur mind and is with you on that. It is when you can yap away about nothing in particular for hours or be comfortably silent in each other's company, without feeling any kind of compulsion to talk or to be silent.
Looking at the other side, a woman who understands that her man doesnt need to be a don juan to convince her that he cares for her, is indeed a romantic. Thats because she accepts him as the man he is and not what she (or the stereotyped concepts of romance)wants him to be. There's nothing more romantic than the feeling of being loved for what one is and in spite of what one is.
Romance is a two way street. Anybody who wonders why his/her spouse cant be romantic, should first ask himself/herself what he/she is doing to keep the romance alive.
nature to demand MORE.......never settle for LESS!
Should be blamed to FAIRY TALES....they were told by their parents and grand parents..
We need to make them realise to come down to Earth and face the reality of LIFE, and make them more practical!
Lucky enough to have your WIFE with you; think about a huge population surviving to live a Forced Married Bachelor LIFE in the GULF.
I see to it that I get to eat peanuts with my wife every night,
its plural OK?
"Jack Frost VS Jack Cool"
really...
your feelings.
"when the kids are sleeping, you two can cozy up in the sofa and give each other a back rub while talking about what happened during the day...THAT'S ROMANTIC by itself..." That what I practise atleast once a week...
You must have read many comments where young couples have more issues in their day to day life, struggle, frustration at work place, which they carry at home and back in their mind and find really difficult to cope up with the situation....(Hot blood, high expectations, bad understanding creates more issues than ROMANCE).
He become the MOST romantic person post he cross the age of 40....when his real life begins....!
It is state of MIND, when your mind relaxs then one could think of Romance...
True love and romance flourish with TIME and further Maturity.
He become the MOST romantic person post he cross the age of 40....when his real life begins....!
Pick up the phone and call your beloved that 'YOU ARE MISSING HER and WILL BE AT HOME EARLY TODAY JUST FOR HER!
I thought this was about Romance....
Dragonfly brings in Oralsex....oops....services...lol
Fefee ur absolutely right.I have no more comments...
I think if guys and dolls stop taking their partners for granted, there would be no reason for Romance to go away....
OK fefee.. how about calling them a nice piece of bacon..lol with lovely melons lol How romantic is that
this tread is making me sick.
need to get me some warm and hot sea food soup!
people are now starting to compare women to food!! wow!!!!
have some respect. if you really love ur wife, she will always be interesting no matter how she changes. common be realistic,this is what life is about, changes!!! one time she's the sweet and jung 6tin, few years later she became a mum, and later comes the 2nd and third child..
kids became teenager later move out of the house and again it only you and ur wife at home. life is all about changes. cant you get it?? you dont need to go out and find something new. the changes are happening right in your home, you only need to open ur eyes and see it.
stop comparing women to beef or what ever. you can not eat pizza every day but you can or should be ABLE TO COMMIT UR SELF TO ONE WOMAN.
action speaks louder than words
being asked the age old question again-why cant men be romantic?
im not wired for it.i wouldnt even "marry" me...
DragonFly... thks tht was a Help..
Cook .... surprises..... n Oral...
Hmm..
Joke joke joke..
Why Do Women Fake orgasm??????????
Ans - They think we care....
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
ohhh oryx, sorry i dont want to turn this ROMANTIC thread in to another religious one.
i dont know what kind of religion are you.
please let me give you few lil examples of what islam and christianity belieav in common:
1:both religion believe in one God
2:they believe in life after death
3:they believe in angels and devils
4:they believe in heaven and hell
5:they belive in the resurrection of jesus christ
.... and and and .........
action speaks louder than words
lol.. which flowers look like a sausage? Or an egg? ;)
stone cold i totally agree with the changing menu thing, believe me woman want the same thing too.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
...to come up and ask for a bit 'more' than what we used to do to you?
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
Just to see them without makeup..and then let them decide
Remember the idiom "New brooms sweep well". Thats how men behave. Love or romance is like a candle burning it's flame. The candle burns out it's flame then it's over. One thing for sure women ages faster than man. There goes the beauty and the curves of the yester years. Sure this leads to boredoom of the opposite. Like I said, no body likes to eat the same menu very day, today mutton, tomorrow beef. ...Further ideas welcome & cheers
What what the men like to see from us in order for them to deliver the goods to us?
Why do women winge and cant find a loving and caring man..
Because all the caring romantic type already have boyfriends
from woman side and from my point of view: I think men should never forget their important days like: Birthday, Anniversary, Valentine, and ect.
I think men should be more spontaneous and adventorous. Give surprises to your woman once awhile be creative. cook dinner sometime or if you cannot cook try to learn how to cook because nothing sexier than man that can cook. never afraid try a new thing for both interest. Give your woman good oral services all the time, because most woman cannot get orgasm by intercourse.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
tigeress.... world Ain't as easy as you think it is....
Be in our shoes you ll come to know.....
When you be honest she kills you for committing the mistakes... like drinking with a fren.... W T F.....
If you don... She kills you for telling her....
I mean... only soln seen is.... Drink... or commit mistake and don let her know... come wht may
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
ashwindoke
a woman looks for, is a true-to-his-word guy, not being honest, but when you make a promise do it, otherwise don't make promises, a lot of woman out there just want a simple guy with a word of honor..
"GIVING WILD TIGERS A FUTURE"
http://www.21stcenturytiger.org/index.php?pg=1
Well what poets are you talking about???
I can tell you that many were
a) Opium addicts
b) gay
c) suicidal
d) alcoholics
or a combination of all three....sorry to shatter any illusions
oh did u read what feefee wrote the other day, ???
'christians are almost muslims'
mmmmmmmmm - patronising
Fefee.. thxs..
But whenever I do something out of the box to be romantic or to please her.... things don go the way she wanted them to be.... n thus is not tht impressed ,,,
Jokes apart....pls pls.. tell wht actually a woman looks for in a Boyfren.... Its diff to please 24 x 7.. n she expects tht to happen....
(Husband classes I ll come after 5 yrs...)
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
The husband says to his wife, "You always carry my photo in your handbag to the office. Why?"
She says, "When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture and the problem disappears."
He smirks and replies, "You see, how miraculous and powerful I am for you?"
She calmly replies, "Yes, I see your picture and say to myself, 'What other problem can there be greater than this one?'"
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
yeah! considerate as well, one can easily find the differences with the inCONSISTENCY of the person's romantic approach, (yesterday He kissed your lips before He go to work, today He yelled at you when you forget to put sugar on His breakfast coffee)
Being consistent AND CONSIDERATE as well...
WOMEN would know whether is just pretenses or REAL...but some won't know the difference too...shame ;(
ashwindoke. lol!!!
action speaks louder than words
gbrother, a kiss is nice, but the really romantic thing would be for YOU to make the coffee :-)
Azilana : And I'm asking the MENFOLKS here...How do you show your romantic side to your partner?
fRanCiS : some men are romantic by showing things just (pakitang tao) for him to be called romantic, some are trying hard to be romantic, my romantic side is just simple, my communication with my wife is always connected, every word that I speak, every lines, every jokes, she found it very romantic, the secret? CONSISTENCY
(wife/gf/partner...whatever)
coz if you're trying to be romantic to a girl/woman for OTHER REASONS than LOVE...well, you need to wake up, BOY :-P
Of course u are right , perfect,,,,One thing is !@#$%^&*
Any one either men or women can be romatic, Being romatic is to show other person s special.Any body could do this , it is being creative and artistic in showing love. My wife was n t so much in to romance, but now she is. I think she wants me to know that i m special.
we are tired after work , yet i kiss my wives cheeks before having a cup of coffee from her hand.
you can't be that serious having your MISSUS UNDER THE MANTLE...coz she maybe coaxing you to come out of the table where you're hiding YOUR CHOO CHOO TRAIN...
if you can't make a mature contribution in this topic, I request you stay out of this thread...AND I'M ASKING NICELY....
and I did disagreed on some points of your post, and I agreed on some...the 2nd post after that was in general...I did noticed the typos and corrected it immediately
It's a still a healthy discussion...so no problem about it. :-)
Cheers!!! :-P
What Do I do to be romantic...
Pretend tht I m listening with interest what she is says..
Pretend and appreciate when she sings....
Pretend to like going shopping with her...
Can you imagine i was taken to all shops in the city jus to Buy a Top??????????
Eat wht I think she likes...
Hard Work Doesn't Kill Anyone... But Why take Chances.
yep! lets keep it healthy! lol;-)
action speaks louder than words
I always put Mrs Expat under the mantle..
As for "Wooing".. i still go "Woo Woo" every time we play Thomas teh Tank engine..
ROMANCE doesn't have to be equated with material things or MONEY PER SE.
That's why relationships gets complicated.
Okey, not everyone could afford bouquets of flowers, perfumes, chocolates or candle-lit dinners...ROMANCE DOESN'T HAVE TO COST A BEAN. It's not HOW MUCH YOU SPEND; its THE ATTITUDE.
this topic is/was intended for some light discussion...don't turn this to a MEN VERSUS WOMEN thingy...please?
azi, girl
please read my post again ! i am not sure if you read carefully.
your question was "whycant men be more romantic" all i did was my own explanation. of course each and every person has his or her own ideal of why men cant men be more romantic. please read my post again.
cheers
action speaks louder than words
she's tired from doing all those chores...you're tired from work...why not take the initiative.
How about, when the kids are sleeping, you two can cozy up in the sofa and give each other a back rub while talking about what happened during the day...THAT'S ROMANTIC by itself...
is also an activity.
To get one must give,
Men get in to sentiments only when more out going and less income
Hey , we hav 3 kids , u r right, she gets busy with her stuff , i mean kids, And then she forgets how she used to be with me before. I think this can/ cannot be afault.
love loved the love and that love will love the loved one.
you mean to say that since husbands are WOKING THEIR ASS OFF, they can get stop being sweet to their wives?
The wives do toil at home, you know...keep the house clean and tidy, take care of the kids, and attend to minor details like budgeting, making sure the bills are all paid and all that...BEING A HOUSEWIFE CAN BE/IS A THANKLESS JOB, sometimes...
You maybe right that MOST women are very demanding...coz most of these women also work their butts off (most of the moms here are also working/career women...
WOMEN ARE WOMEN...MEN ARE MEN...I agree...but it doesn't mean that it is perceived to be, it has to be...
Women are just expecting too much..
"I don't go back on my words, that's my way of ninja"
i think if a man give his wife the respect and support shes needs, thatS romantic enough. when life gets to reality, men are just so focus on dealing with how to make the wife and kids comfortable. iam not saying that a man shouldt give his wife some special attention thou.
most women nowadays are very demanding and they want every thing for them self. they want nice car lots of ca$$sh nice home and so on.. all this should come from the hard work of the man (ofcourse with the wife's supports.) beside this, they want hubbi to come from work and give back massage, feet massage and be romantic. how much can a person take for GOD sake ?
ladies lets leave these poor guys in peace and lets stop complaining about them not been romantic enough. they can never be, cus the responsibilities are so high that there is no time to think of romance. we women are here to be romantic and give love, so lets do that.
men can never be as romantic as women period!
my advice: who ever is sad because she thinks her husband is not romantic enough, is making life hard on her self. forget about him been romantic, cus he will NEVER BE AS ROMATIC AS YOU WISH. MEN ARE MEN AND WOMEN ARE WOMEN!!!!!!!
CHEERS
action speaks louder than words
I think men are more romantic and far more sentimental.
Because if you think about it, women tend to be the one who wants to settle down and have kids and for them, unlike the men, there's a time limit (body clock and menopause and all that). So, a lot of women, especially once they pass a certain age (like 30's and above), tend to get very practical about their views of relationships. Whereas, MEN will go out with someone without thinking beyond the initial attraction. Men fall in love more easily and more often so the potential of men being more romantic is already there.
But majority tends to be stupid sometimes...hehehehe
I still compose poems for my wife every now and then, sweet massages and make big remittance to make it more romantic, surely she would reply and say.. thanks honey for the remittance and "also" the poem...
"Jack Frost VS Jack Cool"
Hmm, If I wish my significant other were something else or acted differently then maybe I am with the wrong person and I should not be with him/her. As you mentioned yourself; poems, songs and art are mostly a result of someone's imagination. So is lack of imagination/romance a deciding factor in any relationship? I hope not. It sure isn't for me! To me respect, communication and understanding would be more important than romance...But to answer your question romance is spontaneous not planned, it is an expression/emotion not an act.
*Sigh* i'm gonna regret this....
They are busy in the kitchen
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Most of the Romantic Poets were Gay. Men cannot be romantic, so simple is that. If you see a romantic man he is either Gay or he is pretending.
are the womenfolks?
Perhaps if you women stopped whining it might be a little easier
Tell her she inherited the Beauty Gene, because you think her mum is really really hot, and you would have her sister in a second.
or not
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and for better... tell her when you think she looks her best. that will helps her build confidence and shows that you notice her effort to look good....
doesn't it imply that she's looking ugly? hehehehe
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Its exactly a matter of being kids , a movement with no dirt in the heart.
Lol!!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
and some like these were fine display of your affection...
Sing to her no matter how horrible your voice is. why? They like to see your willing to make a fool out of yourself for her.
or pick her up, tickle her and play wrestle with her. A cool way to show your affection, everyone wants to go back and be a kid again for a few minutes.
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or else you'll be eating (dinner) on your own (unless she's not here)
Recognize the small things. Anyone can recognize the big things she does, but only a person that truly cares will pay attention to everything including the small things.
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And why should we be ???
it may be a soft smack or a torrid one! And don't let a day passed without saying "love ya"!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Romantic is its self romantic.
I m married and i think my wife thinks i m little romantic.
Of course men are romantic , may b not all the time though.
Before i go to sleep if she says that she s tired i used to do thme magical massage. i love admireing my wives foot.
on and off i used to kiss her nose.
0f course sometimes a lovely candle light dinner , may b at home or out side.
I also cut my wives nails , i think when i do that , she really used to b patien , coz i take a along time.At that time we used to b so close.
Like these men can b different in being romantic,
Well men should always love and women should always understan, Besides must respect each other.
on a full moon night bring her outside be sure to bring a telescope okay? and then find the biggest star the shiniest one show it to her and tel her that she was that star you've been wishing for so long and now here she comes to you and promise that you'll nver let her go (hugging her tight while kissing her forehead)action lights camera lols..then bring her in to your house make a candle light dinner with her favorite food (she'll be more impressed your the one who cooked remember) then play the song careless whisper lolss..is it romantic? lols
MyHotComments
Sorry for the Typo!
Regards
BitWits
Men respond to the way you treat them. If you let them feel they've got you they'll never be romantic. As to me, if I don't like the way he acts I walk away. There are millions of other men who'd just love to be more romantic, remember this ;)
Trust is a fragile thing. Once earned, it affords us tremendous freedom. But once trust is lost, it can be impossible to recover. Of course, the truth is, we never know how we can trust. Those we're closest to can betray us and total strangers can come to our rescue. In the end, most people decide to trust only themselves. It really is the simplest way to keep from getting burned.
If you give ur other half pure love and affection..Nothing can be more Beautifull than that.. Adults become children..
Holding her hand.. going for a small walk.. Coffee at the Corner.. Some Ice creams.. Lots of Pamering Ofcourse.. Ouf..I miss my half!!
Regards
BitWits
Hmmm you mean you can flowers to match a full english? nice
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soft massage at her back before you sleep... :)
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KEEP MOVING!!!
Got a an artist to make a painting of her with one of the pictures i had, then had the artist paint in the engagement ring i bought on her finger. Waited till she questioned it and said... oh you mean this? (showing it to her).
Not into the whole public 1 knee crap. To be honest i do buy her flowers when she is down, or when i am in the black book. I don't spoon feed her either, like most guys think you should (probably some women too). She knows how i feel because i tell her every day. That'll do her.
Oh and i now lift the covers when i let one go.
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breakfast in bed with matching fresh flowers
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KEEP MOVING!!!
care, respect and spent time with her
1. Taking care of her LIKES & DISLIKES
2. Presenting her small gifts showing my affection & love to her
3. Respecting her thoughts,feelings & admiring her way of dressing & talking.
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Guys any more you got
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"A winner listens, a loser just waits until it is their turn to talk"
mine already is.. ;)
You have touched a very romantic thread over here
& really made us think that "hmmmmm really what do i do be romantic to my partner??"
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Nice
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"A winner listens, a loser just waits until it is their turn to talk"