Work First, or Family First?
This is a spin off thread inspired by the 'Loud and clear' thread.
When I was younger, I was happy, in fact eager to work outside of office hours. a) Because I loved my work, and b) because it earned me massive brownie points with the owners.
But as I grew older, and gained a family, I would find work interruptions at Birthday Parties, family meals etc. most annoying. They were not only annoying to me, but also to my family who felt cheated when I would have to stop doing whatever it was I was doing with them, and go and do some work related stuff. Even if it only to me 30 mins to sort it out, the interruption had been made, and disappointment caused, souring happy times.
So what should come first, Work or Family?
PS. It is my experience here in Qatar that there is a great deal of respect for Weekends, especially Fridays.
I am afraid now Britexpat.. do you have any? Male I mean.. hahaa
Do you have any rich, female, single cousins, friends ?
work life balance!
Funny.. I am planning to be a housewife once I get married.. Let my hubby do the part which includes paying the rent, utlities, groceries etc.. I am just going to sit at home and look after the kids..
Just the person I'm looking for.. Are you looking for a house husband by any chance ?
I am a working spinster but how can I help you Britexpat?
perhaps there are two young working spinsters who may be able to help us..
I work so that my family can be safe, secure and enjoy the opportunities that my wealth provides. If the amount of work I do starts to become detrimental to my family then I reduce my hours or change jobs.
I agree that it is fine balance between the two.
Usually sacrifices have to be made on both sides.
Family first, but work gets in the way...........
Simple, try to balance between the two. In some cases when there is a deadline, work takes prority. In others when there is a "very important" soccer match or the children are sick, family takes priority.
Have managed so far to balance between family & work, and no regrets. It all boils down to YOU.
I would love to be a house husband, and be the one staying at home looking after the family.
Right TB and there are also many homes were the wife is the main bread earner.
There are many fathers in the west who take break in their career to look after the child. Its not only moms who sacrifice their career to look after the child. There are many happy children who are brought up by working mothers.
Kareena that is by no means a fact, rather a misconception. There are plenty of working mothers raising happy well adjusted children.
It is a widely known fact that children need their mothers more than their fathers so it is only fair that women sacrafice their careers for the sake of their kids but the same cannot be said for the fathers because they have to earn in order to support their wives and kids.. Right?
For a man, it is ok if work comes first and family after but for a woman the case is reversed. Her first priority is family of course..
In response to your comment - Culture does come into play also - because the individual may have no choice ..
It's a balance and it depends on the stage of your career. Right now for me, I don't mind working some evenings and weekends,and my husband is ok with that as well because he knows I'm trying to furthur my career. However when a baby comes it will be family first, work second.
painther... aila (tendulkar style) ...not at all overcharged...completely chilled ...:)
Happy, Overcharged today??
Plz tell which Tea you had this morning-
Indian Tata tea?
Srilankan Dilamah Tea or
British Tetley (ohh that's even owned by Tatas)
If Mr. TATA does not understand the needs of individuals why are the individuals who have been removed trying to lobby to still work on his companies through the help of trade unions and others... shouldn't they be happy that they can now sit at home and be with their families to their hearts content having escaped the claws of such an uncaring and bullying boss...
hmm work is also important but give enough time to ur family.
family first dude....
So there we go... I think most would agree that the thread indicates different people have different needs.
It would seem therefore that Mr. TATA is unable to comprehend that people have different needs, and is quite simply a bully who does not care about workers having lives outside of work.
jjj75, what's your number??? :P
LOL....
Neither work nor Family.....QL first!!
(pun intended)
lol
Nope, no respect at all for calling out of hours, particularly from locals, always wanting my private number and when I refused, they would say 'but I won't call you don't worry' and I replied, well you don't need it then. Colleague gave out her number - more fool her, calls day and night (middle of the night too) until she had to change her number to stop the calls. So, my experience - zero respect here.
No hard and fast rule...whatever takes precedence at that particular moment...if I look forward to work allowing me to leave in exigency, I should allow the work to call on me when required or in a similar situation..
A wise man will always maintain the balance..a wise woman will always understand his priorities..and manage the family in his absence.
Hope to be Bestman---Inshallah also trying to be bestman on this Land
Classic excuse of failures.
"It depends".
When your at work spend your time working,
When with your family spend your time with your family.
Never bring work at home.
if workholics dont get married they get Alcoholics and ruin their rest of the life behind bars or at Ramada parking lot....:(
you are bestman right?
You are indeed wise beyond your years :o)
Workoholics should not get married.
no one is First -- Keep Allah is first and respect all and always family first
agree with britey !
there has to be balance, u cant just forget ur work and stay with ur family or vise versa...coz in order to have a Happy life and a Happy family u need to have both...
It's like the balance sheet in accounting, neither is acceptable if not equal.
It is not always so clear. There has to be a balance. However at the end of the day, the family needs to take priority (especially with young kids)
Read thissome time ago
---No man on his death bed ever looked up into the eyes of his family and friends and said, "I wish I'd spent more time at the office”
"work interruption at birthday parties, family meals etc."...isnt these parties and meals done in evenings ?
I think most of them dont work in evenings after 5 or max 6pm ?
So you are a Work First vote then Rizks?
U work for your family - right ?